Even a few weeks down the line, my heart still ached to hear his name, or to see them together after everything they did. In spite of that I denied it completely to myself and convinced everyone around me that I just didn’t care and I don’t feel any emotion towards him. But self denial is the worst way to move on. As time’s gone on I’ve learned that sometimes people are going to act in ways that aren’t kind or fair, despite being the best you can be and the nicest you can be. And the tricky part is you can’t react to it! It’s taken some time but the best way I’ve found is the lesson that Nelson Mandela taught, forgiveness is the key. Even though people can do some completely irreparable things, the fact that he was able to forgive those who murdered those he knew speaks volumes. If you spend all the time you have focusing on the things people have done then you are still giving into it, and still hung up on the past! It’s not about winning or gaining the upper hand or even what people think of you. As long as you are honest and true to yourself then life will respect you back for it. I called it the Gatsby mentality, because even though people thought some pretty wild things about him, he remained true to himself and even let people believe he was at the wheel instead of Daisy. So, in summary moving on is pretty tough, in fact it’s really hard and it does take time. But, in being the best person you can be and not allowing yourself to get angry, just taking a deep breath and rising above the situation at hand, not only are you taking a mature approach, but you are setting yourself up for a long happy life. Good times will come, because you honestly deserve them, and you must keep telling yourself that because having a positive mental attitude makes everything that bit easier. :)