Twice father: double happiness!

July 24, 2020

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A while ago i wrote an article relating my experiences on expecting my first baby, being dad for the first time and how hard is to be a cool dad while you are a working one. That was my personal experience and my point of view when i saw myself as a dad...for the very first time.

Now it happens that i have become dad for the second time and i have to tell you, dear reader: it is double happiness all the way :)

When you have your first baby you think you have the entire world in your hands: kissing and hugging that little thing is what you want to spend most of your time on. It is a feeling somehow indescribable, reaching the surreal to a certain point because, let´s be fair, you still don't believe it at all. The truth is that the power of those feelings and what you have become now will be the fuel that powers your engine throughout your whole life.

Happy to be dad for the very first time: your kid is your life´s fuel...(Photo by Vlada Karpovich from *Pexels*)

Being dad is something awesome yet complicated. You have had a life completely dedicated to yourself(1st step) and your wife(2nd step) and now that little person comes to occupy the most prominent place in your life: which, by mathematics, should be in the 3rd step, will now occupy the first one with a single blow. Your life changes 180 degrees and now it is more difficult to find some spare time for you and perhaps to dedicate it to your couple. You may be ending in your boss office sometime to be warned due to late arrival or maybe because your latest report on sales had in a corner what appeared to be a very well drawn silhouette of some cartoon: creativity Sir – you may say – to improve the good mood among the board given the bad news about sales of this month **:)**

A bad semester of sales? Perhaps you should trust your child's “creativity” to avoid being fired :) (Photo by Lukas from *Pexels*)

It is a whole new world to you and you will need to find time or better said you will need to find a way to split, to share the time you have between your job, your family and your kid, because time, despite being something intangible and infinite, it is something really palpable and, in quantity, we have it limited...we cannot search for more(that´s a fact) but we can try to spend our time the best way we can(that´s an advice).

Now that the time has come to be a father for a second time, i find myself twice happier and twice as busy as before, but that´s life, that´s simply life telling us we´re gonna last forever, we´re gonna be remembered...twice this time and that there is so much beyond yourself. You look at him(or she) and try to find a trait, a characteristic that defines him well: he looks like me but with his mother´s eyes – you think for yourself **:)**

Until you found out that the pregnancy test was positive, you knew you were capable but maybe you weren't expecting it now but it is real and 9 months later here he is and he is in your arms. He is looking at you and you think a thousand things, but in the end, you don't remember any, except for his little face focused on you recognizing his father for the first time. From now on you will be the only thing in the whole world capable of giving an effectively protection to him.

Now you have to split your time, your efforts, your attentions in two. Now you are busier, sleepy and tired than ever...but i can assure you that you will be also happier than ever! A big responsibility multiplied by two just enter your life and your life will change forever..again...in the best sense of the word!

Busier, sleepy and tired...but happier twice! Photo by Pixabay from Pexels

What can i say: being father twice is like being born twice and living your life faster than ever knowing that for every sad moment you can have you will always have a double moment of happiness. Enjoy!!!! :)

Saying good bye...for now!!

This article is dedicated to all fathers, it doesn't matter if they are first-timers or not. Our kids are the true happines of our lifes and as such, we should love them to get some love back. No matter if your a working dad or not you will always need to find some spare time to spend with your children, because that´s the important part of their education as people of good and the true path to your children happiness: your presence as a following model will define their future in so many ways you can´t even imagine right now...

Especially dedicated to my son Félix Ernesto and my newest son Erik Fabián, those little things in my life which makes me a better person than i was before they both came into my life to fill it with more happiness.

*Header image by Vidal Balielo Jr. from Pexels