Coping with Loss
7 Ways that Actually Works
Whether you are coping with the loss of a loved one or events like the divorce or illness, saying goodbye to someone who has been a part of your life for a long time is heart-breaking. Coping with loss always involves the same dynamics. Be it the loss of a career, friendship, loved one, or relationship, we are forced to reckon with the fact that we will never experience someone and something again. We are forced to accept our pain and inner emptiness while confronting a scary word- ‘Never.’
You can never press ‘reset’ on a broken relationship, un-say the wrong words that destroy a friendship, redo a part mistake and bring a dead person back to life. But it is important to cope with loss in a healthy way and move on with life as life doesn’t stop for anybody.’
The Best Ways to Cope with Loss
Accept the Loss
The initial way to cope with loss is by accepting it. Until you confront the loss, you won’t be able to heal. If you ignore the pain, sedate yourself with distractions, or run from it, your grief will overtake you in no time. So, the best way is to allow yourself to cry and confront your loss. When you accept your loss, you will start defeating it. Recognize your pain and let the tears flow. Scream loudly, throw things out, or cry at solitary places. Remember, a loss helps us to grow, brings wisdom and teaches us to let go. Just accept that this too shall pass
Talk to people you Trust
If you find it difficult to cope with the biggest change in your life, do not isolate yourself.
Instead, share your feelings with those you trust. If you do not have someone to get your heart out of, lean on a compassionate therapist or a counselor. Even if you are feeling uncertain, rambling, or confused, talking to someone compassionate allows you to start overcoming your pain, and it will prevent you from going into depression.
Keep yourself busy
Although you can’t stop your mind from overthinking, distract it by occupying yourself with tasks or hobbies. Shift your focus from your problems and start working at a paying job, volunteering, or joining hobby classes. These are some of the best ways to distract yourself from grief. You can also go for a walk, play with children or watch lighthearted movies. Keeping your mind distracted from grief helps you to cope with loss more efficiently.
Sweat for the Endorphins
Endorphins are neural-signaling molecules and hormones that function as painkillers. When endorphins release, the pain subsides, and one can feel better. So, when coping with loss, make sure you exercise until you sweat and release endorphins. When you work out every day, you can prepare your mind and body to work. Plus, it also pushes out the grief and endless thoughts that are making you sad.
Keep a distance from a Negative Mindset
No matter what type of loss one is going through, it is a sad and stressful moment. Not everyone you talk to while grieving would understand and help you. If someone gets irritated listening to your grief or asks you to stop being so sensitive and get over it, distance yourself from those. Rather reconnect with compassionate people who understand and listen to your grief.
Journal your thought
Jot down your thoughts- your feelings, your pain, your reactions, whatever. To some people, it may sound silly, but it is a great way towards healing. Rather than keeping the thoughts in your mind, write it on paper, and you will see that you will feel a bit released. However, you won’t heal overnight, but you will find solace in good times.
Listen to Music
Music is undoubtedly one of the greatest ways to manage and deal with grief. You can create a playlist of soothing songs that help you to keep your mind relaxed. Also, you can listen to music to help you sleep. It is important to take care of yourself when coping with loss, and the right kind of music is definitely nothing less than a mood booster.
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