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Success; the bridge between expectations and realities

Expectations are one's anticipation or hope regarding the outcome of an event. The reality is the actual event.

Successful people are successful because they have a plan and follow it. Most times, people's expectations are greater than what reality has in store for them. If you do not have a plan and try to wing it, you will be disappointed.

Most times people have false hope or expectations. People expect you to help solve all of their problems. Unfortunately, you cannot be a mind reader, and it will end badly. You have to work on yourself to grow. If you have a problem and someone tells you to solve it immediately, without solving it on your own, you will not gain experience in it. The day I realized I was incapable of solving my own problems and actually started working on me was the day my success took off. When you begin to work on yourself and know what is right for you to do, that is when you grow. It's easy to fall into a cycle of just trying to please others and do what they want us to do. This can be draining on not only our time, but also our patience. When we start working on what is right, we will see the world from a different perspective and gain new ideas that push us forward.

If you want to be a successful person, you need to learn how to respect others, be a bridge for them to meet their needs and goals, and make a connection where there is none. The essential truth is that, as much as we can't please everyone, we can't make it without people. Without all the relationships in your life, you will find yourself wallowing in self-pity, depression, anger, and, ultimately, failure. Acknowledging your real needs and your connection within your circle will set you up for the best chance of success.

Successful people are successful because they have a plan. It may not be the neatest or the most efficient plan in the world, but a plan is still a plan. These successful people, most are better off for having had a plan, a strategy, vision, which they've followed to the letter and done right to get where they are. It's their reward, but it's also their choice.

People who live and die by a plan are smart, competent and confident, which makes them good people. Their success is in their achievement. If you want to be smart, competent and confident, and you are willing to work hard, you need to follow a plan and then execute your plan. That's when you'll gain the results you want.

The plan is a summary of your expectations. These may cause you undue pressure and stress because you want to see the realities of your goals as soon as possible. This is a conflicting point on the bridge to success. Turning your expectations to realities which are your desired goals requires that you have to be focused, committed, and persistent. All these can be energy draining, that, in most cases, you feel like giving up.

Do we really need a plan to become successful?

Whether you believe it or not, everyone does have a plan. You may not need to write it down on a piece of paper where you can look at it each morning to motivate yourself. But you do have a plan, you do. Once you have an expectation, be it just one, that's a plan, and it's enough to keep you on your toes to achieve your success.

Success is a bridge between expectations and realities, if your expectations are not the realities that you see within and around you, it is indicated that you need to work hard to bridge the gap between your expectations and realities. Successful people are those who are able to bridge their expectations with realities.

How can we define success in this context?

Success is one of the most contested words across various divides. Success is based on individual perspectives or from the angle that you see it. For many, success is the achievement of a goal, this could be financial goals, academy goals, or career goals. However, success in life is much more than just meeting financial goals or any other goals. Success in life entails the complete life of a man. This is where expectations and realities must be bridged.

What do you expect of your life?

The answers to this question will lead you to the part of success. It's a complete life journey which includes your job or career, your relationship with your colleagues in the place of work, your relationship with your family members, the quality of family life you had, your impact on your children and anyone related to you, the quality of love shared between you and your spouse. All these are expectations that must be bridged with realities for anyone to be called successful in a real sense. The bridging is the effort you have to put in making your expectations a reality.

Success; the bridge between expectations and realities

Expectations are one's anticipation or hope regarding the outcome of an event. The reality is the actual event.

Successful people are successful because they have a plan and follow it. Most times, people's expectations are greater than what reality has in store for them. If you do not have a plan and try to wing it, you will be disappointed.

Most times people have false hope or expectations. People expect you to help solve all of their problems. Unfortunately, you cannot be a mind reader, and it will end badly. You have to work on yourself to grow. If you have a problem and someone tells you to solve it immediately, without solving it on your own, you will not gain experience in it. The day I realized I was incapable of solving my own problems and actually started working on me was the day my success took off. When you begin to work on yourself and know what is right for you to do, that is when you grow. It's easy to fall into a cycle of just trying to please others and do what they want us to do. This can be draining on not only our time, but also our patience. When we start working on what is right, we will see the world from a different perspective and gain new ideas that push us forward.

If you want to be a successful person, you need to learn how to respect others, be a bridge for them to meet their needs and goals, and make a connection where there is none. The essential truth is that, as much as we can't please everyone, we can't make it without people. Without all the relationships in your life, you will find yourself wallowing in self-pity, depression, anger, and, ultimately, failure. Acknowledging your real needs and your connection within your circle will set you up for the best chance of success.

Successful people are successful because they have a plan. It may not be the neatest or the most efficient plan in the world, but a plan is still a plan. These successful people, most are better off for having had a plan, a strategy, vision, which they've followed to the letter and done right to get where they are. It's their reward, but it's also their choice.

People who live and die by a plan are smart, competent and confident, which makes them good people. Their success is in their achievement. If you want to be smart, competent and confident, and you are willing to work hard, you need to follow a plan and then execute your plan. That's when you'll gain the results you want.

The plan is a summary of your expectations. These may cause you undue pressure and stress because you want to see the realities of your goals as soon as possible. This is a conflicting point on the bridge to success. Turning your expectations to realities which are your desired goals requires that you have to be focused, committed, and persistent. All these can be energy draining, that, in most cases, you feel like giving up.

Do we really need a plan to become successful?

Whether you believe it or not, everyone does have a plan. You may not need to write it down on a piece of paper where you can look at it each morning to motivate yourself. But you do have a plan, you do. Once you have an expectation, be it just one, that's a plan, and it's enough to keep you on your toes to achieve your success.

Success is a bridge between expectations and realities, if your expectations are not the realities that you see within and around you, it is indicated that you need to work hard to bridge the gap between your expectations and realities. Successful people are those who are able to bridge their expectations with realities.

How can we define success in this context?

Success is one of the most contested words across various divides. Success is based on individual perspectives or from the angle that you see it. For many, success is the achievement of a goal, this could be financial goals, academy goals, or career goals. However, success in life is much more than just meeting financial goals or any other goals. Success in life entails the complete life of a man. This is where expectations and realities must be bridged.

What do you expect of your life?

The answers to this question will lead you to the part of success. It's a complete life journey which includes your job or career, your relationship with your colleagues in the place of work, your relationship with your family members, the quality of family life you had, your impact on your children and anyone related to you, the quality of love shared between you and your spouse. All these are expectations that must be bridged with realities for anyone to be called successful in a real sense. The bridging is the effort you have to put in making your expectations a reality.

Why do I always have to move from one city to another, and have to start all over again? Why don't I stay in a particular place and build my family and business the way I always want it to be? Why do I chose this path of life that seems as though I have no right to choose what I want? Have I become my own worst enemy? Those were the series of questions that flood my mind when my 8 years boy asked me why we left our former City for a new place. From a child's view, It seems as though I am my own worst enemy for choosing a path I have no control of. But I chose to live above self-interest and ego which has confirmed many to a comfort zone in their box. Self-interest and ego can keep one from reaching new horizons and leads to a state of complacency and apathy where we remain in a mediocre state. Until a man shakes himself up, he can't see the light to get into a purposeful life.

Striving for excellence is one of my pursuits in life, but you can't know how excellent you can be unless you embrace challenges. Excellence will always have some resistance, but resistance is also a propeller for excellence. Resistance may seem to be painful, yet it can be a motivational element, such as healthy competition and Challenges wake a man up to strive harder and discover his mission in life. Have I discovered my mission in life? The obvious answer is that I get distracted most times. The struggle for survival can be consuming. The pursuit of money, social status, and family challenges takes hold of me with its powerful clutches and could make me completely forget my mission. But I have made my choice, I have counted the cost, and can tell myself that am on a mission, a mission to discover the best version of myself. Even people who are well equipped and committed to discovering their mission still find it difficult to do so. Determination is vital, and I got that going for me that whatever may stand in the way between me and my mission needs to be surmounted.

A retrospect to the beginning of existence has it that in the beginning, God created the heavens and the earth. A statement to tell us that the universe is not here by accident; it has purpose and design. In the same way, everyone is here for a purpose and the first step to discovering that purpose is recognizing your mission. It is on record that the fall of man began with the eating of the Tree of Knowledge. Things never remain as it was originally planned, the world then goes into a free fall, generation after generation wandering farther away from their calling or purpose, until it unfolds into a society dominated by corruption and greed.

The creator of life would have a plan to reverse the fall that took place in the Garden of Eden by bringing Abraham into the scene. Abraham has to first search what his mission was before he discovered the mission of all people on Earth. He then committed his life and the life of his family to forever embrace this mission, and never let go. I could learn a lot from this great man called Abraham. What he discovered, the tools he acquires, and how he was able to discover, and even more importantly, maintain, his mission in life. Studying Abraham’s life has uncovered to me invaluable resources that could help me face the struggles of my life daily.

Looking at it again, the story of Abraham begins with a strange call from God, a command to leave his homeland without a clear distinction in view. The record has it like this “Go to you, away from your land, from your birthplace, and from your father’s house, to the land that I will show you”. Very strange command. When you offer someone directions, the destination must be clearly described. The destination must be specified so the traveler knows where to go. “Go to this and this country, this or that city, this street, and this address.” The point of exit is not necessary, because the traveler knows where he is leaving from; he needs only to be informed where to go. Yet, when God instructs Abraham, He focuses solely on the place of departure, and with three descriptions: “from your land, from your birthplace, and from your father’s house”. But When it comes to the destination, God vaguely says go “to the land that I will show you”. Was he supposed to go east, west, north, or south, and then to which country and which city? This is exactly how I have come to think of my life, and herein lies the vital secret in discovering one's mission in this world.

I have come to learn to live above subjectivity, which if given a chance can becloud my vision and my ability to seek out, recognize and embrace my mission in life. Such subjectivities as “ your land”, “your birthplace”, and” your father's house” can affect the mindsets, distort your views and judgments, influence your attitudes in life. Subjectivity on its own is not antagonistic. They are the driving force that makes us thinks towards ourselves and love ones and compels us to protect ourselves and our family members. It could drive us to excel and to demonstrate our strengths. On the other hand, subjectivity can adversely affect us when we allow it to blind our judgment. My wife and children still feel subjective at times, and that has often made it hard for them to embrace the challenges of moving from one city to another as missions dictate.

I would not allow subjectivity to blindfold me, and like the patriarch Abraham, I have walked out of my father's house, my place of birth, and my homeland years ago. I understand that growth comes from the willingness and courage to climb higher above one’s subjectivity. And since the day I moved I have never looked back. Doesn't it feel good to stay in one's homeland near your relatives or family ties? But just to feel good or right about being with relatives is so subjective and basically wouldn't move anyone forward. I do not know the direction I would be heading tomorrow, but wherever duty called I will follow, for that is my mission that could lead to fulling my purpose of living.

To find one's mission in life you do not need to know the destination, but to know how to free yourself from the shackles of your present state. A man's mission is ingrained inside the very fiber of his being. Your calling and your life mission are right there inside of you. But for it to be unearthed you need to strip away the subjective layers that don’t allow your true self and your true mission to emerge. Like flowers embedded in the earth, you need to cut away the weeds and allow the flowers to emerge.

Life has several stages. In the early stages of life, we depend solely on the protection and nurturing of family and home. Even later in life, it is beneficial and vital to maintain love and connection. Family, friends, and society are significant sources of support. But then comes the stage of moving away, when you need to go out of the womb of subjectivity, cut the umbilical cord that is holding you back and discover your true self and your mission – and fly with it.

I have experienced so many times moving away. Each time I have to free myself from the exclusive influences of friends and society by traveling to other environments and meeting new people. That has allowed me to use my unique strengths to help improve these new environments and the people there. I have learned to utilize the strengths and knowledge gained through moving from one city to another as a springboard for growth. I have the answers I need inside of me, my unique mission statement is embedded within me, as I travel along the path my destiny carved out for me.

Making a move and moving away from the subjective forces around me, all the things that seem to be important has helped me in discovering my mission. It helps me to look at life in a new way, at my personality, the opportunities, the people, and places, and to realize the mission for which I was sent to Earth in the first place.

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