Just wanted to make a quick post. I hope that everyone bas a great Christmas and New Years or whatever you celebrate. (Don't get offended lol.)
I wanted to get excited about the new year so I came up with 2 resolutions:
1) Get back to doing what I love.
2) Be positive, succeed, and keep positive thoughts! No negativity allowed!
2018 was not a great year for me mentally. I was feeling drained and depressed majority of it. I felt I have lost myself along the way. I realized I didn't recognize myself and don't even know who I am anymore. 2019 I'm going to change that by doing what I've always wanted to do. I'm going to do my best to put my insecurities and fears aside doing what I love.
No matter what I know I'm going to succeed and make my dreams a reality.
If you haven't heard of this book it is amazing! I've only read the first couple chapters and I'm hooked. Originally this book is featured on Wattpad with 200 million reads.... 200....million!
It's literally a phenomenon. I'm not sure how it all happened but the book has literally been translated in 6 different languages. The girl who wrote a review that's printed on the book, Anna Todd, is a well known author within the wattpad community. Her story, “After” is actually coming out in theaters this coming April! I'm excited for both of them especially Chasing Red, which I hope the author gets a movie contract soon.
When I found this book at my local Barnes and Noble I was excited to get the last copy. One day I hope one of my stories will get the same recognition as this book.
Forgot to mention Chasing Red is romance book about this guy named Caleb falling in love with Veronica, AKA Red, after one encounter at a club. You can read it for free on wattpad or check out your local B&N to read it.
It took a few days to find an editor. I've been looking on Fivver and the prices are ridiculous! It makes me wonder for other self published authors who they hire because the gigs I see on Fivver doesn't really help. If you're writing a young adult novel it's usually about 200-300 pages or more. The gigs on Fivver are literally, “$150 editing/proofreading 10,000 words” Then I try to contact some people I wouldn't get a response at all and I'm not sure why. My book isn't even that long.
My book is an erotica/romance with almost 30,000 words which equates to 87 pages using normal font style and size. I'm in the process of working with an editor right now and the service was almost $160. I've always dreamed of becoming an author so to me that's a small price to pay. I'm definitely going to try to format the book myself. Also my cover is being worked on. I'm very excited to see everything coming together! I think I would cry the day I have the physical copy of my book in my hand.
Until then it's a dream in progress. If you'd like to read my story here's the link: wattpad.com/lauradunauthor
I wanted to share my recent encounter from OKCupid. I'm not bashing the site because it's the people who are on it that gives you the experience not the algorithm.
Anyway I made myself clear on my profile that I wasn't looking for friends with benefits, no relationship, no hook up, and ONLY wanted to hang out with people as FRIENDS. I ended up hanging out with someone that seemed cool. We went over what we wanted. The guy said he was looking for all the above if it worked out. I told him I only wanted to be friends and nothing more. He also told me his birthday was coming up.
Feeling like a friend would I got him a cake that said Happy birthday and got him chocolate strawberries for him and his family to enjoy. I specially told him that even though he made some moves on me and every time I said no. We had indian food, which was great, watched some AHS and chilled. He could tell I wasn't into anything physical like cuddling or place his hand on me. It was nice he asked if he could before doing so.
The show goes on and we talk. He's confused by what I meant when I said I wanted to have fun on my profile. I explained giving examples such as hanging out, going to movies, eating dinner or something simple. Basically I wanted a friend's company and nothing more.
I thought he understood when I felt I explained myself clearly. Today he continues to text me asking me what I was looking for. Giving the same damn explanation as yesterday. Like why can't men take a no? This is why women feel harassed or concerned for their life because men can't take rejection without freaking out.
When a man rejects a women she doesn't bother him again unless she's insane. A lot of men continue reaching out pushing women after they have said no. Maybe in their mind men thinks if they keep asking enough times they will say yes. No means no.
I'm so excited to share something I've learned about Wattpad. I use to think I was a horrible writer because I saw a plethera of stories on the website with spelling errors, improper grammar, and run-on sentences. It's what you'd expect from a teenager. The site users range from all ages.
I learned that my issue wasn't my writing, it was about the exposure! There is a writing community within wattpad but you'd have to start interacting with people. Forget the Read 4 reads unless you're starting out and English isn't your first language. The real key is the Vote 4 votes and Follow 4 follows.
The more people vote on your stories the easier the exposure. When you follow someone and they follow back, their followers see which story they voted/commented on. Then your story gets in the recommended list. How I got more people to read is by having a large amount of votes on one of my stories consistantly. I've had the story since January but wasn't actively writing until now. I went from under 100 reads to about 7k reads within a matter of a few days!
What helps you is by commenting on people's profiles thanking them for the vote, follow, or reads. Your comment will be seen by everyone on their profile.
I'm so happy! It hasn't been that long and I've gotten 1.04k reads on my story and my rank was bumped up from #332 to #17 within the same day! Thank you so much and please continue to support my story called The Roommate by Aurora_daydreams.
1) Life is better when you are happier. Thinking positively and talking positively.
2) If you're always looking for a flaw it will be there! No one is perfect and that's why you'll always spot it.
3) We only see half the story. You may see a bad person doing a bad deed but you don't see their entire situation or what's going on in their head. We often only care about how things effect us.
4) Do what makes you happy. If you not interested, don't like it, or don't want to do it then why waste your time? Start living your life how you want to.
5) People don't care how long your journey is, they only care about the results. If it takes you 10 years to become something then let it be. As long as you reach your goal no one cares how you get there!
6) School isn't for everyone. People can think whatever they want but don't let that effect you. Don't let that effect how you feel about yourself! Not everyone is meant to be a nurse or a doctor.
7) Living on the low is better than sharing everything. You don't have to post every little thing. The people who matter will be the ones you celebrate your accomplishments with anyway.
8) Let go of yout fear. Fear will always hold us back. Take it one day at a time. Don't think about the obstacle.
9) If it's meant for you then you will always get it. Not every opportunity is meant for our journey. Failure and rejection means try again. It does not equate to how smart you are.
10) If you have no idea what life lesson to learn right now it's because you're not listening. Listen to what people are saying to you, the ones that are trying to help improve your life, listen to what people keep repeating. That will show you what you need to work on.
I read enough of your posts to know that life isn't fair BUT life reflects how you react to it! It's hard to always be in a positive space but it's worth trying. You don't have to be a 100% happy person all the time. 6 out of 7 days you should feel good. Death isn't always the answer or something to look forward to.
What helps me when I get into that suicidal mindset is thinking to myself, “If you died today, would you be ok with what you accomplished up to this point?” The answer for me is always no. Because I know I can do more for myself.
I have this app called “Delightful” that helps you appreciate and be grateful for the little things. You go in and write down 3 good things about today. That is it! It humbles me and I feel grateful after using the app. It's true what the other person said. Things can always be worse!