She was drowning, but nobody saw her struggle ...
Once upon a time, there was a girl...
No wait, that's how a story starts mainly when there's a happy ending, right? Clearly, this is no Disney story.
How can a happy ending take place when there is Mental Health involved? And I mean in the sense when Depression, Anxiety, PTSD (Post-Tramautic Stress Disorder), or any other issues are taking over your life?
***Please note, that I am not a psychiatrist or psychologist by any means, and this is only from my point of view. This should not be used as advice and I request that you please seek help if you are in times of trouble. ***
Seriously, how can someone who is suffering have a happy ending, unless they receive the help and support they truly need?
When it gets to the point when depression takes over and someone commits suicide, there are mixed emotions from the person who is on the outside...emotions mainly consisting of anger and sadness.
Anger because we feel that it was selfish that someone could even do that to themselves, not thinking of what they are leaving behind. Anger because perhaps you wanted to, but couldn't help that person out – maybe they refused to seek help or guidance in what they were experiencing in their lives, in that moment. And so guilt takes over...
Why? How did they get so far down into their own misery enough to harm themselves, or worse, kill themselves? Where was their support?
Harsh when you think about it that way, right?
But then, we could feel sadness. Sadness because we lost someone we dearly loved. Sadness because that's not the way it should have been. That's not the way it should have ended.
Yet, it was beyond our control.
Or was it?
You see, these are not happy endings. Happy endings are when someone makes an effort to change their life around. Happy endings are when we know that Mental Health did NOT take over our souls.
Mental Health is REAL.
Happy endings, are when a person in suffering sought out guidance to try to better themselves and figured out what was bothering them in the first place.
If the person suffering could only see that life is great, and that life does have great things to offer, in time, life could get better for them.....it does not and will not happen overnight...
And on another note, those who have not experienced depression or suicidal thoughts, really have no clue as to how it feels. Those who have not experienced the true depths of anxiety or PTSD or whatever it may be, really have no clue. So, for those people, what gives them the right to “assume” that the person experiencing these thoughts can be told to:
“Just get over it”
“Snap out of it”
“You are being irrational”
“You are not depressed, you are just sad”
What also gives the person the right to ask,
“Why are you so depressed?”
What gives the person who truly doesn't understand, the right to judge? This is not the kind of support someone who is suffering, needs. If people weren't so quick to judge, maybe we could be more supportive to those who are sensitive and to those who are having a hard time grasping their dark moments. Right?
People who are experiencing depression, anxiety, mental health issues, would rather want to hear:
“I am here for you”
“You are loved”
“Try to stay strong”
“You can do it, it's just going to take time”
“You are special”
A person suffering wants to hear the positive side, not the negative. In their tangled minds, they already have all the negative and can't find a way to steer away from that, so why would they want to hear more negative comments?
Here's the thing – people who are depressed sometimes just cannot figure out why they are feeling the way they are feeling. They cannot describe the emptiness they feel. So how did they get there in the first place? Is it betrayal? Is it lack of self-confidence? Lack of trust? And what can they do to pull themselves out?
It is so sad when people get to the point where they just can't continue their lives, whether it be of financial issues, relationship/friendship issues, drug/alcohol abuse, or even a sickness. It could be anything, really. And maybe that's what some people don't understand.
It feels exactly like you are drowning. It feels like your whole body is consumed by the waters, as your own body weight pushes you down, deeper and deeper, until you no longer have any more strength. Like a funnel, twirling 'round and 'round, sucking away your emotions, your thoughts, until you just can't take any more. And so you allow it to take control over your thoughts. You allow it to take over your mind.
You're trying so hard to scream, so loud, but you can't make a sound. Nobody sees you. Nobody hears you. You feel alone.
You are NOT alone.
Don't give up!! It's easier said than done, yes. But if you are feeling signs of depression, take a moment to breathe and SEEK help.
A quote by Gordon B. Hinkley:
Don’t be gloomy. Do not dwell on unkind things. Stop seeking out the storms and enjoy more fully the sunlight. Even if you are not happy, put a smile on your face. ‘Accentuate the positive.’ Look a little deeper for the good. Go forward in life with a twinkle in your eye and a smile on your face, with great and strong purpose in your heart. Love life.
Let this be a reminder that you ARE special. Keep pushing forward and if you need to, read this quote from time to time to remind yourself, even if it has to be every day – it's brilliant!!
Take life one day at a time. That's all you can do. Think of your actions before you do something that may forever change your life, because truth is – you are loved and you are worth every bit a chance at living! ❤️🙏
“Let's untangle our mind, and set it free...”
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