Depth of forgiveness
I can forgive with my mind, and it becomes an intellectual exercise. Feels like a solution to a problem.
When I forgive deeply I have to feel the pain and loss. It calls me to let go in an awkward and confusing manner. Yet this is where true forgiveness lies.
Who in your life can you forgive? Perhaps yourself?
Are you forgiving with your mind or your heart?
Overcome, accept, or let go?
Some challenges can be overcome.
Others give meaning through acceptance.
Many are best let go.
Where are you attempting to overcome where you might accept or let go?
Often we interpret this phrase as the building of trust. The process we go through to increase trust through building.
But why not take it in the opposite direction? Instead of building trust, we can build with trust. We can increase building through trust. Trust can be the blocks with which we build.
Where are you building trust when you could be building with trust?
This morning I watched clouds dance slowly across the horizon as the sun warmed my skin. It took me back to childhood memories of engaging in pure wonder at the beauty of clouds on a warm Spring morning.
Is it any surprise that people tend to find the God of their own understanding in the heavens?
When can you find time to look up the way you did as a child?
Regret and acceptance
For the longest time I thought I had to avoid regret in order to find acceptance.
Turns out the only path to acceptance starts with regret.
Programming and choice
When I was younger, my mornings ran like a fast paced software program. I took pride in the power and speed with which I jumped out of bed, exercised, showered, ate, and dressed for the day.
My recent intention has been to spend mornings in meditation and peace, so that I might carry that centered context throughout the day.
It seems to be working well, but this morning I forgot to wash my hands when coming in from outside... and then caught myself calling myself an idiot for doing so. (That harsh self critic wants the morning software back!)
There is massive resistance in the transition from programming to choice. To fight against the resistance is my old programming, so I seek to turn toward acceptance instead. It's hard!
Where is your transition from programming to choice encountering resistance?
How do you meet such resistance with acceptance and choice instead of adversity and programming?
Asking Andre the Giant if he has dwarfism
Sometimes we get asked questions that call for data. How much does that cost? How do I get from here to there? When will the meeting start?
But sometimes data just doesn't fit. Assessing a person's intrinsic being is one of those moments. Specific data can not describe your soul. Attempting to do so can disconnect the conversation, and those in it, from the truth at hand.
Where does your data mind doubt your intrinsic truth?
Is it time to stop running the data on whether or not Andre the Giant has dwarfism, and simply witness the truth at hand?
If the following are true:
Time flies when you're having fun!
Flow state is an optimal state of human activity, often associated with a loss of sense of time.
Then what's the deal with my ability to zone out into a spreadsheet, my email, or social media? Those activities are not that fun, and they certainly aren't my optimal state of activity.
Is this the behavioral equivalent of sugar as food? The body needs calories to survive, but sugar alone leaves us nutritionally deprived. Perhaps similarly the mind craves engagement to thrive, but false flow leaves us creatively, emotionally, and spiritually deprived.
Where do you find false flow in your life?
This disaggregation of self helps me to zoom in and out on various aspects of my being.
For many years my tendency was to spend most of my time in intellectual awareness. My physical and emotional dimensions only demanded attention in times of difficulty, and my spiritual dimension was touched lightly every week or so.
Currently I'm seeking to balance all four. It's been difficult and massively valuable.
Where is your awareness and energy most and least present between your Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual self?
Just > Fair
I recently found myself in a prolonged state of argument with a loved one. It has been difficult and painful.
I've come to realize that my loved one and I have completely different opinions on what a fair outcome would look like. It would appear we are at an impasse.
However, grace and forgiveness can lead past fairness toward just outcome. Such a just outcome may seen unfair to both parties, but in the end it brings peace to all involved.
Where are you prioritizing a sense of what's fair over an opportunity to use grace to create what is just?