Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind
It's worth a try
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I was upset when Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind's final chapter unraveled — as Joel went through the motions of the movie's opening scene, and met with Clementine in Montauk and rekindled their relationship. The movie presents this as a sweet love story, a romantic reunion produced by Joel's sheer subconscious love of his ex-girlfriend; but I hated that he was rushing back to a person who had chosen to erase all memory of him without even the dignity of breaking up with him first. This is a cruel and abusive act (even if the victim likes your impulsiveness), like the worst possible version of ghosting a long-term partner without warning.
The movie redeemed itself when it showed Joel and Clementine confronting their former qualms about each other. There is wisdom in their choice (at Joel's urging) to try again anyway. It is not unlike what many already do when starting a relationship, even without the benefit of knowing how it will turn out. As Clementine says, getting bored with people is what she does. She doesn't need a recording of herself to guess where any relationship she has might head. And as experienced people (should) know, the honeymoon phase doesn't last forever.
All relationships eventually face challenges, uncertainty, the risk of stagnation. When Joel is undeterred by what the future seems to hold, he represents every person who has ever thrown themselves at a relationship for the sheer love of the experience itself, despite knowing it might not last.
Most things don't. But they're still worth having.