Weird Times.
Hey ya'll. As you may have noticed, the world is kind of shutting down right now... Patty and Michael B have talked about how they're hunkering down in New York with family and Dustin and I can relate. Down here in Tennessee we have a lot of confirmed cases, specifically in our area. At first, I have to admit, I joked a lot about the virus. It didn't seem real and it definitely did seem like everyone was overreacting. But then we got more information. We learned more, we saw how quickly and silently it can spread, we learned.
I love that saying that is always floating around...
âYou should never shame someone for changing their opinion once they have learned new information. Is that now how we ought to live? Learning & developing?â â unknown
This week I have experienced and seen more judgment than ever before for taking precautions for the health of my family and for the others around me.
I have never once before experienced such food shortages and seen such selfishness exhibited.
Now, more than ever, I have seen extended families sticking together and figuring things out.
I have to say though, I am extremely grateful. We have been caring for Dustin's grandmother for months and now with this, she's under a lot of precaution. All three of us have self-quarantined as much as possible. We've had doctors appointments we had to go to for healing of other issues, but our family has been wonderful about bringing food, helping to fill the shoes of the cleaner, and giving moral support.
As much as I have seen selfishness and greed, I've also seen a lot of selflessness and giving back. Companies stepping up with funds, postponing subscriptions, offering free internet and homeschooling resources, babysitters stepping up, national landmarks and museums and entertainment stepping up with virtual options. I've even seen so many families step up and offer food to those who can't afford it or missed out. It's beautiful.
Even when our country is in it's hardest times, you see the American people, learning from their past mistakes and trying to do and be better. Obviously you will always have failure in government and those rude people who couldn't give a crap about anyone other than themselves, but we're trying.
I encourage you, if you're stuck at home, take advantage of this time. This is difficult, yes, but we're all going through it. We're all experiencing fear and frustration and our busy lives being halted at the same time. Rather than focusing on the experiences we are missing, which trust me, I'm mourning a few of my own, focus on what you might gain out of this.
â Rest.
â Healing.
â A mental break from your fast paced life.
â A time to reconnect with old friends and family via the phone.
â Rejuvenation.
â Time spent with your family that you may have been neglecting.
â Making memories with your people.
â House work that has been stressing you out.
â Neglected self care.
â Reigniting your passion or hobby that was put on the back burner.
â A reset.
You see, the average American spends 4-5 hours outside of their house per day â not work related. With work, 13-15. Think about how much time your work actually takes you each day, what, maybe 6-7 hours? I mean really, how many hours do you spend scrolling and eating and chatting and dawdling and in wasteful meetings? What if you reallocated those other EIGHT hours a day to doing the things you love? To spending time with your family? I mean when did we get to a point in society where we started saying that âwe're going to dieâ if we have to spend more than a few hours with our family a day. That's ridiculous. Get over yourself. Family is more important.
I am not by any means discounting the fact that this is hard and that we may find ourselves in the midst of another recession- but we knew this was coming at some point. I am also so sorry for anyone who is finding themselves out of a job or in a very stressful position due to this. Just know that you're not the only one and there are so many people who want to help- you just have to ask. Google COVID-19 and the type of assistance you're looking for.
And PLEASE if you are quarantined with someone abusive right now, please do not hesitate to try and call and get help. I know that sounds much easier than it actually is, but you need not suffer any longer. Here is information from the National hotline on what you can do: âFor any victims and survivors who need support, we are here for you, 24/7. Call 1-800-799-7233 or 1-800-799-7233 for TTY, or if youâre unable to speak safely, you can log onto thehotline.org or text LOVEIS to 22522.â
These are weird times, but you will get through them. Allow yourself to mourn the loss of weddings, funerals, baby showers, special events, proms, birthdays, vacations, etc. You're allowed to be sad. Don't let anyone tell you that you're not supposed to be. But try and find the silver lining in everything.
And if you are still choosing to partake in activities that are being shut down and advised against, please stop. You're not the most important person in the world and you need to look into what it means to be asymptomatic. Your beach vacation and dinner and drinks will be here next year. Also, stop hoarding the toilet paper and masks. Please and thanks.
I love you all and I am praying for you. In the meantime, try to remember that this is temporary and be smart. Don't pull all of your investments, don't spend all of your money like normal and be strategic about not wasting food. We can do this together.