Riley Q

Music – Motherhood – Marriage – Mental Health | Listen to the Solidarity Podcast on Apple & Spotify🎙| Twitter & IG: @riley_quin

I've always had a strong intuition. The one that tells me things before they even happen. It's proven to be quite helpful but also quite annoying and very much a burden. I often know things about my friends relationships long before they do and honestly, standing by and letting things unfold is quite unfortunate. I often know when something is about to happen or what the outcome of a choice will be. Just recently I've started embracing this trait.

A year and a half ago, when I first moved to Nashville, I moved in with a family. I won't get into my experience living with that family, but the woman of the house was very much into limiting beliefs, intuition and a bunch of other woo things. Due to that, I have been very turned off to all of those subjects, although recently I've found them all to be true in my own way. I don't necessarily believe they're from earth, rather spiritual gifts that God gives us. I believe that one of my gifts is my intuition and my ability to be a vessel of God's word, specifically over people's lives.

There has been many a time where I knew something was happening that someone else didn't. They in no way shared those things with me, I just knew. The vision of what was going on would just pop into my head and then the holy spirit would give me direction as to what I was supposed to do with that information. Often times it wasn't until months later that I was allowed to share. Sometimes I get certain words or messages from God that I am supposed to speak over others lives. None of it is from me, rather, it just comes into my head and every single time it is exactly what that person needed to hear or was praying for a sign in that form.

It's really crazy really, whether you believe the law of attraction and limiting beliefs and intuition is from God or from the universe, it's very much real. I don't think that everyone is capable of possessing those gifts, for one reason or another, but I do believe that everyone is capable of overcoming limiting beliefs.

What are limiting beliefs?

Limiting beliefs are statements you say or things you believe that hold you back from who you're supposed to be. Your words, whether you realize it or not, hold an immense amount of power. If you keep telling yourself that you're broke and can't make it, you won't. But if you continually say that you are capable of handling more and that you are blessed with what you have and you attract abundance, soon you will see those things appear in your life.

You get out what you put in life. Rather than focusing on negative aspects, try re-focusing on what is good in your life. Limiting beliefs often derive from your childhood. Whether they are lessons you learned directly from your parents or things you assumed through association, you need to take a good hard look at the statements you are thinking and saying and establish if they are actually true or not.

The test?

Whenever you have a thought or a statement ask yourself:

If the answer is no to any of these, the thought or statement is probably a limiting belief.

Now there is not much I can say here that you can't find on google, so I simply want to leave you with this:

You need to acknowledge these limiting beliefs and then you need to overcome them. If you want to succeed and make real changes in your life, you need to do this.

How?

The first step is to realize, acknowledge and take responsibility for the beliefs that are holding you back.

It's important that you write these limiting beliefs down, figure out where they stem from and then you need to conquer them.

Burn them, shred them, whatever it is that you can do to physically put an end to your limiting beliefs.

The second step is to replace your limiting beliefs with empowering thoughts and ideas. For example, struggling with the fact that you're not making a lot of money? First you need to acknowledge what you have through writing down what you're grateful for. Then you need to write down and state the things that you are capable of. The things you love, your talents and the things that you're thankful for that give you an upperhand in your life. Finally you need to choose and state your goals. Where do you want to be? What kind of amazing things do you want to attract to your life? This is where the fun comes in. Write all of these things down and then state them on a daily basis.

That's how you start, seriously. That is the first step to shifting your mindset. But honestly, in order to take action, you need to believe them. Stating them is awesome, but you need to believe them. In order to this I recommend practicing mediating or praying on these concepts. Where do you feel lead to head next? What are you desires and goals?

Literally sit and picture these things happening.

Aren't they beautiful?

Action is a whole other step which I will go into detail about later. For now I encourage you, there is more to life than what you realize. You are capable of amazing things. You are able to receive wonderful blessings. You just have to be in the right heart and mind space to receive them!

Recap:

I hope this encouraged you today, I know what it feels like to face the world feeling like you've got nothing. I promise you do, there is so much more than what meets the eye. Keep searching and realize that there is more beyond what you know!

Let go love, you're doing great!

xoxo- Ry

Hello lovelies! I hope you're having a wonderful day. I am a bit sick today, but other than that, I'm enjoying my Saturday. I've been dreaming of snow lately and I'm crossing my fingers that when I go home to Michigan for Christmas I will see plenty!

xoxo – Ry

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I totally wouldn't have believed you if you told me in January of 2019 that by the end of the year I'd have released 4 songs and that one of them would have hit 50k streams! I would've laughed in your face and said “yeah right, God doesn't want me to do music anymore, he took all my opportunities and drive away”.

WELL. Let me tell ya, my year definitely didn't go as planned and it is such a good thing it didn't.

It is no coincidence that I met, fell in love with and married Dustin so quickly.

It is no coincidence that he is the only one in the world who could manage to *slap* (he doesn't hit me) some sense into me and make me realize that I was sleeping on my dream.

It is no coincidence that the very same week he convinced me to give music a try again and I prayed about it, Coil presented itself.

It is no coincidence that I was one of the first musicians on the platform and was able to really establish myself on the platform.

It is no coincidence that I rushed to release “Didn't Let You Go” for Coil from an old session and it was so cringy that an old friend from high school reached out and offered to record my next song because she believed in me and wanted me to have better quality music out.

Enter: Stitched.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O4omy9ByqDg

Stitched was my first release that I could say I am really proud of. At the time this article was written I have crossed the threshold of 20k streams which I never believed was possible. Stitched was an anthem song for me. It proved to me and everybody in my life that even with my past trauma and heartache, I was stitching myself back together and moving forward. The video alone has garnered over 25k views combined (FB & YT) and I have gotten countless messages, phone calls and comments about how impactful the song was on their lives and how it's helping them to heal from their trauma. That was exactly my intention with Stitched, not only to share my story and shine light on sexual assault, abuse and stalking, but to empower other women to heal from theirs.

STREAM STITCHED

Next came “No Turning Round”

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Uob7ISv2Cw&feature=youtu.be

After the high of Stitched, I was so excited to release a new song. At that point I started working with a producer in Nashville, Kyle Horvath, who also produces for Coil member @SHEE! This song was nothing like I had ever done before. It was super pop, out of the box and exactly what I needed to break out of my shell. I had a blast creating this song and mapping out the music video, it really reaffirmed that making music is what I'm supposed to be doing. No Turning Round is about the concept that life is really hard and things don't always make sense. You can't go back and change your path or your mistakes, but you can move forward and re-route, you just have to stay true to yourself and your life goals. This release really blew me away. At the time this article is written I have hit 50k streams on combined platforms (Spotify, Apple, Amazon) and over 2k views on the video!

STREAM NO TURNING ROUND

And last but not least for 2019: “B Ok”

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bhL6wJEoP_0

B Ok, even thought it's garnered the least amount of streams and views from 2019 (my own marketing mess up, which I will share with you another day), is one of my favorites I've ever written. This song was also co-written and produced by Kyle Horvath and it probably captures my personality better than any other song I've written- well, except maybe for my next one, but you'll have to stick around until February 2020 to find out! 😉 B Ok is about being you, 100%, authentically, all the time. In this song I talk a lot about the things I feel when I'm anxious and how that plays out in the real world. It's not only a reminder to me but to everyone else that when life gets overwhelming and stressful, don't let your anxiety take over everything, it's going to be ok.

STREAM B OK

So thank you, to each and every one of you who has supported me this year. Your love and constant encouragement has seriously kept me going. Your welcoming arms into the Coil and XRP community has made it all even sweeter and I am so, so thankful. I am absolutely thrilled to say that I was blown away at my 2019 stats from Spotify alone, having only been doing this for half a year now. I am so thankful for each and every listen and follow. It helps me to keep moving up and to keep creating!

I am so excited to jump into 2020, I have some really great music heading your way. 💕

xoxo- Ry

Today is the 5th day of Christmas music that I'm throwing at ya!

I love this song because it get's me excited to go home for Christmas. ♥️ I will for sure be going back to Michigan for almost three weeks this Christmas and I'm really looking forward to it. Here's to each of you looking forward to going home for the holidays!

xoxo – Ry

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I've taught a lot about how to talk about Coil and how to invite your friends, but as Coil still seems to not be advertising too much and it falls on us to bring in traffic and more users, I want to chat more!

Due to the technology Coil was built on, naturally there are a lot of digital asset enthusiasts who are on here. It's not hard to convince those who are interested in XRP to join Coil, not necessarily as content creators, but as consumers. Between the technology and the bubbling community, if they love XRP in any way, they're usually in. But what about the people who have zero interest in crypto? What about those who have never even heard about XRP?

As someone who recently had no clue what XRP was I feel like I can speak to this. Today I'm going to be walking you through a few main talking points that have helped me successfully sign up non-crypto lovers as creators and consumers.

In my experience working the social media world, there are a few things you need to know before you try to sell a product, idea, or platform. Whatever it is, if you are trying to convince someone to jump on board with it you have to:

  1. Get their attention.
  2. Gain their respect and trust.
  3. Understand who you're selling to and why they need what you have to sell.

Once you have these three things nailed down, you're ready to:

When you combine all of that with the solid foundation of points 1-3 above, you are golden!

The same principles apply when trying to get someone to join a platform like Coil. Now one aspect I didn't mention was that you need to make sure you have a very good product that is worth selling before you even start. If you don't have that, don't bother. You may fool a few people into buying in, but eventually you're going to have to close up shop. Thankfully with Coil being the product we're looking to “sell”, this isn't an issue.

Back to the process. To be able to understand who you're selling to and why they need it, you obviously have to have a platform that you're starting on. You have to have a platform that you are advertising on. In this instance I have chosen Facebook and Instagram where I already have built audiences to run my “campaigns”. When I refer to these campaigns I need to make it clear that I'm not running paid ads, I'm not hopping on other people's stories and I'm definitely NOT getting paid by Coil or Cinnamon to talk about their platforms or technology. The reason I do what I do is because I believe in these platforms and I want to see them grow and succeed. Rather than the typical version of affiliate marketing, I've taken it into my own hands to share my story, talk about the platforms and in doing so I've managed to create really great materials that have lead to conversions from my other platforms to Coil & Cinnamon.

Once you choose the platform(s) that you are going to talk about Coil and/or Cinnamon on, you need identify your target market that you're going speak to. I can't tell you who your target market is, I don't know your background, your connections or anything. Instead I will give you the steps of how I identified mine and you can replicate them for your market.

As you can see above, I chose an age group (this is very fluid for Coil & Cinnamon, so it's not as important, but because I am 20 and this age group is already my audience, it made the most sense.)

I also chose a career group and then I chose two major problems that the people in those markets are facing; aka: lack of payment, censorship & dealing with ads as creators & consumers.

Platform & audience are chosen, now what?

To be able to grab their attention, you need to start introducing the subject through small, non-pushy gestures. This could be a screenshot of a payout or boost, a “pay day” GIF, a meme about how annoying ads are, an “exclusive” release on Coil in a graphic on your stories. All of these are great ways of dropping little hints and setting the scene for your audience. For me, I did this for a few weeks every few days. With the current algorithms, specifically on FB & IG, you have to post a lot for even a fraction of your audience to catch your content. Start paying attention to what content garners attention. For me I got a lot of DM's and questions when I posted the screenshots of my payouts (obviously).

Once you've introduced the information, it's time to explain the information. The #1 most effective way that I have found to do this is by putting graphics in my stories, keeping them in a highlight on my Instagram and by posting on my feed on IG & FB. These allows the information to stay there and I can often and easily re-share the posts. That's the real key- consistency. When I regularly drop my Coil posts on my stories, a few people swipe up, but when I post my earnings, share my experience, explain the companies and then offer a place to ask questions, I get WAY more responses.

See, people want what Coil & Cinnamon have to offer. They want to not deal with ads, they want to make money off of their creative efforts and knowledge, they want to support their friends easily, they WANT a reliable community- so GIVE it to them in a way they understand.

Because you know your audience, you have to give it to them in terms they understand and want for themselves. You don't actually have to deliver anything, that's what Coil & Cinnamon are for, you only have to share your story! If you're targeting the right audience, they will eat your story up and that's all there is to it.

This tool is really great if you have a wide variety of people in your audience. Personally, I have a lot of musicians, but I also have a lot of artists, photographers and other various types of coaches and educators in my audience. By providing several examples of who Coil is for and who it can help, I am able to reach a larger group of people! Here's a few examples of how I go about doing that:

Musicians: I set the narrative that it's an amazing resource to reach a large audience, get paid as the listener actually listens on the platform, encourages you and enables you to be a part of the future of music, allows you to create a VIP space for fans that actually pays off and you can get paid for creating content and put that money back into recording and creating more content! Plus it's easy to do, accessible and doesn't cost you a dime to create. (Musicians LOVE easy & free)

Coaches: You're already putting out content, why not put it on a website that pays you when your clients ingest that content? Rather than having to pay for websites to host your content, you can easily create sales leads with awesome content and then close sales and create amazing VIP content that is only for “paying” clients. As coaches, you not only gain access to an amazing community, but you allow yourself the opportunity to reach a larger audience through the Coil & Cinnamon community. You can easily create program specific videos and keep them on Cinnamon, private for only your subscribers to see. It's really a great platform to host a business model on, but don't expect to advertise on it- you will not be well received. Rather, use this as an opportunity to work on your actual content, we rely on a pushy marketing system and sometimes don't realize that if we just trusted our content, it would speak for itself.

Bloggers: This one for current Coilers is an obvious, but it's still good to lay it out for people. As a blogger, you're already spending time and energy writing and posting content all over the internet and on your website. But how much of that is converting? How much of your time are you spending only to barely see any feedback? If you're lucky enough to convert readers, are you getting paid for that? Are you seeing a drop in users the more you host paid advertisements? How would you feel if you were able to create without caution, attract readers, garner feedback AND make a profit? Coil is the place to do that. You could do a mixture of your website and Coil, you could create VIP content for Coil, you could arrange your website so it runs on Interledger and rewards users who adopt a web-monetization system- the possibilities are endless. As a blogger nowadays it feels like the market is so over-saturated and it's impossible to make money as a writer or creator, but with Coil and Cinnamon, a whole new world is open and available to you.

See how in each pitch I not only lay out the benefits of Coil but I acknowledge their current efforts and the current issues they're running into and explain how Coil and its technology solves the problem? This is how you take someone who is slightly interested and turn them VERY interested. Now I'm not saying that you write a long paragraph and post it- create a graphic that a person in that market would be attracted to and then put those types of points in bullet points. Repost them on a regular basis and then add a call-to-action. Let them know that you are here to answer any and all questions that they might have! This is a great time to insert a question box, a poll or a DM sign. You could also add a swipe up option to your email. Invite them into your world and let them know that you're holding space for theirs.

One more point I'd like to make before I make this tutorial subscriber only, it's important that you don't make sharing Coil feel like affiliate or multi-level marketing.

🙅‍♀️ Don't try and pretend like Coil is sending you to talk about this stuff or paying you to.

🙅‍♀️ Don't act like you get paid for referrals.

🙅‍♀️ Don't act like you work for Coil.

🙅‍♀️ Don't try and put up a facade and make this look like something it's not.

Be up front and honest. When I first started talking about Coil I STRESSED the point that I wasn't getting paid to talk about them, I didn't get rewarded if I brought users in, I was not hired by them or asked to do anything I was doing. I explained where every penny I made was coming from and I also explained that I was not in the boost program because I was marketing them. After I made that clear I explained why I was doing it. I explained why I love the platform, why I believed in and why I thought it was important to share. I made it clear and still make it clear that I'm doing this because I love people, I LOVE this community and bonus: my audience already knows I love to share things that I believe in with them because I've built up my brand in that way!

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Hey hey! I told ya'll I'd be coming at ya with an original Christmas song! So I know this is kindaaaa depressing, but would it really be a Riley Q song if it wasn't? 😅

Also peep that new header cover 😉, I finally had time to get creative!

Anyways, here's to all of you who are feeling the holiday blues right now. 🥂

xoxo – Ry

(Check out the lyrics below!) ⤵️

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“Next Christmas” ©RileyQ

VERSE 1

I don’t wanna go

Hug people I ain’t seen in a year

I don’t wanna go

Pretend I’m full of Christmas cheer

I don’t wanna sing

Can we keep it silent tonight

I don’t wanna eat

All these store bought pies

CHORUS

Christmas can we skip it?

Forget about all the dishes

I’d rather stay home alone

And cry into my cup of loneliness

So I’ll see you next Christmas

VERSE 2

I don’t wanna put

A fake smile on my face

I don’t wanna lie

And say I’m doing great

Cuz I’m not

I don’t wanna hear about all the crap you got

CHORUS

BRIDGE

All the people with anxiety

Did you think about where we wanna be

When all our friends are gone

And our family doesn’t get what’s wrong

All the people with depression

We can’t understand your obsession

With making us feel Christmas cheer

When we’ve had one hell of a year

CHORUS

If I feel like it..

I'll see you, next Christmas

For a long time I have had the mindset that “if I just had a better camera” or “if I just had an iPad” or “if I just had a ring light” I'd be successful. I spent hours watching videos, browsing accounts and trying to figure out how so many people became successful. It's frustrating, this day and age that we live in. We are constantly being sold to, feeling the pressure to put ourselves on display. We even see in the numbers and analytics that “nicer” looking content does better than low quality looking content. We've stopped focusing on the quality of the actual content itself and we've honed in on the tools that are required to make it.

Now obviously those tools are important. You can't make a picture appear out of thin air or edit a video with a rock. You have to have a few basic tools to make content, but more than that, you need to have good content and you need to have drive.

Recently (as in an hour ago) I got really wrapped up in my current circumstances. Some days it feels like I'lI never be good enough or be in the right place at the right time. I know it's silly, I'm very blessed and I've had a lot of great things happen to me to get me where I am now, but that doesn't mean that those thoughts don't hit me hard sometimes.

I know a lot of you have been there before, we've had discussions about the struggle behind creating good & consistent content. Plus beyond that, depending on how the crazy algorithms feel like working that day, it a lot of times feels like the content was all for nothing. I'm fed up with it myself and I'm sure you are too.

With all of that to say, I'm not in the best of circumstances right now and I'm struggling with that. But there's a lesson within all of this. You see, I have the laptop. I have the new phone. I have the iPad and the camera and the ring light and all of the tools that I said I needed to create good content, but yet, I'm still failing to do so. So what gives? What do I need to challenge myself to work on to accomplish what I clearly have the tools to accomplish?

Below I've listed three things I find myself and those around me combatting. On the left you'll find the reason why those things aren't inherently bad and on the right, the better option.

I need some damn motivation. But really, I need to spend less time scrolling and more time working. I need to want what I can achieve so badly that it kicks my butt into work mode everyday. This is honestly something that we need to work on as a society. We spend so much time looking down that we take zero inspiration from the world around us because we don't truly see or experience anything anymore. We're alway partially distracted. So you, (after you finish reading) putting down your phone or laptop for 30 minutes (I know, crazy) and take a walk or just be where you are. Look around and people watch. Take in everybody and everything that's around you. Let your brain wander- daydream! Then when you're done, go and write or create a video or do a brainstorm session for future content, I guarantee you will have plenty to say.

I need to get out of the freaking house. I have to say with my struggle with depression and anxiety it's been difficult to do this lately. It's difficult to convince not only myself but also my very introverted husband to leave the vicinity. Not only do we have to leave but then we have to find a place to create content, not get embarrassed about shooting pictures and video in public and we have to park and interact with people and all of that stuff. (Yes, we're totally introverts through and through.)

I need to stop making excuses and stop letting my subpar circumstances control how I live my life. I mean, things could always be worse. I could not have the tools. I could live five hours away from a big bustling city. I could not have a car to drive or a husband to take photos of me. I could not have this amazing community. But I do, I have all of those things and I need to freaking do it.

I hope this post inspired you and made you feel like you're not so alone. Content creation and staying active and consistent on social media is very difficult. It's frustrating and it can be super stressful, but I promise you're capable of doing it. I'm posting this here today to not only whip myself back into shape but to hold myself accountable. I'm putting my pride down and allowing myself to be vulnerable. So ya, I'm not doing so hot right now. Mentally I've been beating myself up. I've allowed myself to slow my roll and pout in my circumstances, but I'm committing to getting up and changing them.

I hope you have a wonderful day, let me know your thoughts on all of this. Do you feel frustrated with how social media is being run? Do you feel like your content is all for nothing?

xoxo- Ry

Happy 3rd Day of the Christmas Music Countdown!

Today I'm singing a classic holiday favorite. I always loved the verse about the tree in the park, it reminds me of my hometown's Christmas tree lighting in the center of the park!

Spread a little cheer today & give back to someone in need. Whether you pay it forward on your coffee run or leave a kind sticky note at the gas station, try to do something that will make someone feel loved today. ♥️

Happy holidays!

xoxo – Ry

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Dustin asked me the other day why I constantly feel the need to justify everything that's not perfect in my life. He always co-edits my posts and social media with me to make sure that my brand stays on point and that I'm being truly authentic. Time after time he's caught me saying “sorry for..” or “fyi this is like this because...”. He always deletes those sections and tells me to do be confident in my choices. I'm lucky really, I don't know of a lot of guys who would catch that habit, let alone put a stop to it. I know that not everyone has that person which is why I wanted to talk about it today.

I have a feeling that he is going to say that this post is a justification within itself 😂, he'd probably be right. But honestly, I'm doing this to prove to myself and my readers that I'm not alone. I really didn't realize how bad I was getting, especially being that I'm constantly preaching confidence, until tonight. I always write my posts the night before and tonight I was writing tomorrows post for the Christmas Music Countdown and at the end I was about to put a blurb apologizing for my frizzy hair, no makeup and bad lighting. I was self conscious about my baby hairs growing in and being super frizzy, not having the energy to put on makeup and for the fact that I didn't have my lighting kit at the house. Stupid? Kinda. But I seriously felt like I had to justify myself. I felt guilty for not showing up “picture perfect”.

I wasn't raised that way. I mean, I was raised to always be presentable and to take steps to look nice, but my family wasn't by any means taught to dwell on looks. I really think that every person goes through a stage where they suddenly realize “oh, if I look and dress a certain way, I'll be more accepted”. For some this moment happens in middle school, for others it happens later. I swear, even elementary kids dress and look better than me now. 😂

Anyways, I wasn't raised to solely focus on looks, but that bad habit developed over time. I had a few friends who were very self involved in high school and it honestly stressed me out. I constantly felt the need to dress a certain way and to always have my hair and makeup done. Yet, I felt I still could never get it right. I'd show up to a gathering with perfect hair and makeup and my friends would be in sweats and messy buns, yet still looking flawless. I never felt I could get the timing right or really anything right. That was when the problem and the insecurities really began to set in. Over time I stopped caring as much, especially as I moved away, gained a bit of weight, which I am insecure about but that's a story for another day, and got married. In the beginning of our relationship I wore makeup and did my hair a bit here and there, but I didn't set the bar too high because at the time I loved my natural self. These days it's been a bit harder. With social media as rampant as ever and as I am constantly surrounded with beautiful people on all platforms, it can feel stressful to not show up on every post looking perfect. The thing is, it's become most of my posts. At first I started with the intention of wanting to be “super authentic”, but now it just feels like I've become too lazy for own good. Now there's nothing wrong with not having your hair and makeup and clothing perfect, but dude, if you've ever scrolled through Instagram or Tik Tok, you'd know what I'm talking about. They all look like models. Perfect. Even the people who don't fit the traditional model mold still seem to constantly have their makeup and hair done. Like honestly, who has the time??? It's ridiculous! Part of me needs to remember that they're mostly in high school or famous and it comes with the job, but sometimes I look at them and feel like “damn, I will never look as good as them, so why even try?”

I'm not going to let this turn into a pity post or a “10 steps to looking flawless” post. Instead, I just hope you can relate. Because the struggle is real ya'll. I know creating content is hard. I know showing up is hard, but ya just gotta show up. Makeup or no makeup. Frizzy baby hairs or perfectly done hair. New outfit or baby spit up mom shirts. You've just got to show up.

FYI what I'm about to say, I'm totally preaching to myself so tune into my mirror pep talk...

You are wanted and needed for who you are, not who you see everyone else being. It's cliche, yes, but if you show up looking and acting like everyone else, you're going to scrolled right past.

Your content is valuable and good, not because of how you look, but because of the time, efforts, dedication, talent and expertise that you put into it. Nobody gets to tell you, not even you, that you have to meet a certain standard to make good and valuable content.

Showing up in any way shape or form is one of the bravest (on the internet) things that you can do. Showing up, even when it's hard, is tough. Revealing your vulnerability and allowing people to see your humanity is not easy, but it's so worth it.

YOUR audience, the RIGHT people will love you for who you are and however you need to show up. You're exhausted because the baby was up all night but you still hop on to give your word of encouragement for the day? Babe, thank you. We needed that and we love you, frizzy hair, dark circles, robe and all. You feel like your end of the year project just beat you up today but you still show up to connect with your community, even when it's the last thing you felt like doing? Man, thank you so much. We love having you here, exhaustion and all.

So please, don't feel like you have to constantly explain yourself or justify your imperfections. Just show up and love and be loved. I'm going to consciously work on not putting a disclaimer on my posts, I mean they will still get deleted by Dustin, but for my own self-confidence and worth. I know that even if my videos are a bit fuzzy sometimes, my hair looks like I went through a heat wave, and last night's (ok last week's, I know I need to wash my face more) makeup is smudged under my eye, my fans and followers will still love me. And if they don't, oh well. They're missing out on what I'm really showing up for.

I love ya'll so much and I hope that you find comfort in the fact that I'm insecure too. I've noticed a lot of people kinda lifting me up or making idolizing comments towards me, which although I appreciate, that is never been my intention. I am just like you, an artist, a creator and a person. I have MANY flaws, insecurities and hardships. I haven't written about a lot of them, but I'm committing to opening up more to this community. It's become like a family to me and ya'll deserve to know the real me.

xoxo- Ry

“I Am Enough” Reminder Graphics

I've made a cute little Twitter Post, Instagram Post, and screensaver for you. Just a reminder that you are enough, no matter what.

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In addition to my regular daily posts about all things music, branding and Coil, I wanted to do a countdown to Christmas!

Like I mentioned in my post “Survivng the Holidays”, Christmas has always been a wonderful time in my household. Christmas music on November 1st marked the beginning of the season and it was magical, it still is.

To celebrate the coming of Christmas I decided to do a Christmas song a day leading up the holiday. I've been posting the short covers (there will be a few originals coming too) daily on Twitter, but thought it would be nice to share them on Coil as well for those of you who don't use Twitter or you're not in my circle yet!

Today I will post these two videos to catch up and then they'll be posted everyday on here as well as on Twitter, Instagram and Facebook!

Day 1: Silver Bells

https://vimeo.com/377148770

Day 2: Santa Clause is Coming to Town

https://vimeo.com/377124941