Mastering Ourselves to Master Our Destiny
Andy was sitting with his friends when Paul walked in, he noticed how Andy was overstepping boundaries and generally making his friends feel uncomfortable. Paul didn’t say anything, but noticed how Andy’s friends we feeling uncomfortable, unmotivated and unhappy. As Paul approached them, he made them feel comfortable, discussed topics of mutual interest, they soon felt at ease, were interested and relaxed. Have you ever wondered whether or not you yourself might come across as being Andy?
Well, many of us are oblivious to our own faults and social blunders. As social animals we get seriously in the way of our own success. Learning how to communicate effectively such that we can make people around us feel at ease is a skill that we can develop over time.
To do this, we must first feel confident. When we lack confidence in ourselves and our opinions, it shows. Others can tell when we are trying hard and that can become unappealing and embarrassing to them. To master your destiny and communicate with authenticity, you need to believe and realize that you are capable, competent and have the strength and determination to be the master of your destiny.
So how do you do this? It’s simply, you don’t need to impress anyone. You are simply there to share ideas and conversation while having a good time. Whether people agree with you or not isn’t the end of the world; opinions and idea are just that. It is fact that is indisputable, and if you find yourself squabbling about facts, as long as you do so in a respectful manner, chance is you will gather respect and build trust.
It is important to be authentic in communicating. It’s simple to do, but yet so hard. Think before you open your mouth; you have probably heard this or have been told so before. By being authentic you are being real. You do not want others to feel you are a hard nut to crack, are hotheaded or want them to leave with a negative opinion of you which may be detrimental to your future. Instead of only uttering your thoughts and opinions, listen and make mental notes. look for ideas that challenge your own. It is good to be open-minded to new perspectives, so try and learn.
Last, learn how to acknowledge. As humans we are insecure and hold tightly to an idea or opinion even if we are proved wrong. Don’t let yourself be this person. Instead, learn to listen to opposing perspectives and give others the impression that you are going to respect them irrespective of what they think or believe and even if it happens to differ from your own personal thoughts and opinions.
Once you master the art of communication, then all that is left, is to do what we truly want with no apologies! Then and only then can You be the masters of Your own destiny!