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Alright....If you’ve been around the XRP community for a minute or two you would know exactly what this means! Right? Most of the OG’s as Ferdi likes to call us have been around long enough to know when to roll our eyes and BLOCK the nonsense BUT, what about the newcomer? Let’s talk about it!

I’ve been around the XRP community for over 2 years now and I’ve seen lots of FUD! Do you know what “FUD” means? Let me tell you just Incase you don’t. FUD means, “Fear, Uncertainty and Doubt”! When people start spreading FUD around it can cause some mass confusion in the community and it’s never really pretty! Imagine someone new seeing this 👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻

This was my response to that post! Look at all of the “likes” on this post. 385!! That’s a LOT of people. Wow! I guess you can say I’m a bit of a FUD fighter myself although, I’ve been “had” and have been known to accidentally spread some FUD myself...right Rabbit?

Now by the looks of this by the end of the year you’ll be buying your own airplane ✈️ and island 🌴 and you don’t even need to hold tons of XRP. Those are some staggering numbers! THIS IS A HUGE PROBLEM because this isn’t the TRUTH!

In the XRP community there’s so many knowledgeable people that will go around wiping FUD right off the screen! We’ve had people that have fought the FUD endlessly but, it always seems to come back!

If you were around for the year of 2018 you’re probably still recovering! What a rough year that was! The FUD was heavy with the 589’ers and the FUD fighters had their hands full! All year this is what we saw

EOY “End of year” price will be $589!! SAY WHAT?!? YES, that’s what the bear 🐻 said so it much be true. Right? WRONG!

So now you’re probably wondering who the “bear” is and I’ll tell you to the very best of my abilities!

Bearableguy123 would come out with these “riddles”. People would work so hard and for hours just to solve them!!! Not a problem because in bearableguy123 profile he says that he’s a “fun jester”! Nothing wrong with that EXCEPT...people started taking this as the gospel and running all over CT with it! The $589’s were true believers and it truly split the community!

Our FUD busters would come out..Tiff, Doc, Hodor and many more to try to straighten things back out and then..this would happen 👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻

ANOTHER RIDDLE 🤦🏼‍♀️! Now if people are doing this for fun then hey...have a great time but, this turned so toxic and the energy in the community was so negative and not nice to be around. Hey..we just had to make it until 1/1/2019 to see if XRP was indeed $589..🙄😬

Needless to say the year 2019 came and XRP wasn’t even close to .50 cents. Some of the $589’s left and some stayed and just pushed the date of $589 out! You’ll still see some CT handles with $589 in them and I say, “Hey, everyone can dream. Why not? Just don’t share this with newcomers because it’s so misleading.

One of the other things I want to talk about is FUD but, not from your fellow CT follower or XRP community member, I’m talking about FUD in the media! I can honestly say that I’m GUILTY of not “DMOR” Doing my own research and posting some of these articles! It’s completely innocent on my part but, nonetheless it’s spreading FUD! Thank GOD that my fellow XRP community member would tell me that what I posted wasn’t accurate and I’d immediately delete it! With that being said I’m going to tell you why I feel the XRP community is so important!

When I attended the NYC/XRP meetup just recently I met a lot of new people! One of the 1st questions I asked was, “Are you on Twitter? Are you involved in the XRP community”? I was shocked at the amount of new investors that weren’t on CT! I really pushed the XRP community because Twitter is one place that FUD gets dumped but, it’s also the place where we have people to correct it! It’s a great balance, most of the time! So with new people they are getting on the internet, clicking “Ripple news” and opening articles that could be full of FUD! A Bitcoin maxi could have written the article and well, they don’t have very nice things to say about XRP. One of the ways I learned the most was by following a FUD fighting thread to the end. Somehow the truth always prevailed and I’d leave the thread with less confusion than before I entered it. The XRP community can be a wonderful platform to learn between truth and non-truth!

I want to end this blog with a few suggestions of my own. These are things that have helped me learn a lot and I’m so grateful for that.

1. Ask questions! I always ask. If I find an article or even a post that just seems off to me or I’ve heard conflicting stories, I ask. It doesn’t take long to find the true “trusted” people of the XRP community and they are usually more than willing to help! There’s no shame in not knowing everything. Just ask. You’ll be smarter in the end! You should have seen some of my questions lol but, I had to ask!

2. Be a FUD fighter yourself! Now I don’t know everything or even close to everything about XRP, Ripple, Cryptocurrency or Blockchain but, I know some stuff. When I see something that I KNOW is FUD..I call it out! I feel it’s my job! If I’m not 100% sure then I’ll go to my husband ( @XrpMichaelB )who knows a lot more than me and I’ll ask him. He’s always willing to teach me and he’ll even straighten out a post that’s spreading FUD if I don’t feel confident enough! If you feel something is not right you bring it to someone and ask for help. It’s best to knock down as much FUD as possible!

3. Don’t be nasty! As I said earlier there’s still people that carry $589 in their Twitter handle and that’s not for me to judge. As long as they aren’t screaming, “$589 by END OF WEEK” then leave them alone. They are fine! I mean 589 is a number for goodness sake’s!

4. Last but not least...I’m proud of you! If you’re Holding XRP and you’ve been through the ups and the downs and you’re still Holding..you ROCK! We knew getting into XRP that it was going to be a long term investment. We knew we wouldn’t get rich overnight and that’s why fighting FUD is so important! Nobody is getting rich overnight on XRP but, just hold on and I believe in my heart 1000% we ALL made a great choice! Keep HoDl’ing my fellow investors! Peace ✌🏻 and love ♥️

   You can follow me on Twitter @PattyB09952203. I did take post off CT to use as examples but, I cut the names off. This post isn’t to humiliate but, to help educate!

Well, this week is going to be a week of many 1st. I thought I’d share them with you. Some will be wonderful and some are going to be very hard but, somehow I always survive!

On Thursday myself, Michael and Fynn will be boarding a airplane ✈️ and heading to our Florida home. This will be Fynn’s first flight! Although he knows he’s going to Florida at “some point” he doesn’t know when. If you know a 4 year old then you know why! We are telling him the day before we leave! Ya, momma didn’t raise no fool!!

That’s a 1st that will be a lot of fun and looking forward to Fynn seeing our new home in Florida!

Now the reason we are leaving for Florida is my very hard 1st. My youngest biological daughter, Alyson will be moving to Tennessee with our 2 year old grandson, Mason! My hearts so sad and I never saw it coming!

I raised Alyson to be a strong and independent woman and it shows but, boy this hurts! I’ve never been away from my children and I’ve certainly never been away from my grandchildren!

I’m trying to keep things in prospective though, as hard as it is. If I raised her to be strong and independent how will I ever know how I truly did if she’s right around the corner? These are the questions I ask myself to protect myself! I am ALL mother and grandmother and also very sensitive so yes, this is so hard on me. She explained that she’s not happy in New York and she wants to explore the world. Kudos! You only live once and that’s what I’d tell anyone else!

Alyson’s 27 years old and she’s never even been scolded by me before. She’s never been in trouble in her whole life. On her birthday she always announces another year without being scolded by her mom. Something she’s very proud of. You see, I’m sad but, I’m not selfish. I’d never stand in the way of my babies dreams but, it doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt my heart. The thought of not being able to take Mason whenever I want hurts so bad but, that’s life.

Mason is a lot like my mom. Even at the age of 2. He’s so goody and so funny. From smearing frosting on his face to wearing silly glasses. He’s hysterical and I’m sure going to miss him. As I write this the tears pour out of my eye’s. Yes, I’m selfish. What can I say? I know she’ll do alright but, she’s my baby and I’m going to miss her.

Thankfully Michael said I will always have money for a flight to get to Alyson and Mason and I can stay as long as I’d like. Yes, I have 1 amazing husband!

My children are my life. That’s Alyson, myself and my oldest son Adam. When they were younger I picked a song for each of them. That song has followed them through life. One night I was lying in bed feeling very sorry for myself when it all hit me. This isn’t so bad. She’s living out her song. This is “The climb”!

My baby-girl is living out her song!

I was very honest with Alyson and I told her that I couldn’t stand in the road and wave her and Mason off. I just can’t. I have to take care of myself too. She completely understood. So when I’m in Florida she’ll be leaving for Tennessee and when we get home she’ll be gone!

I wish her the very best and I hope she finds the happiness that she hasn’t found here in NY! I know one thing though..if she wants to come home I’ll be VERY happy to go and get them. Until then...I wish my princess and her baby-boy the very best. I truly do. Even though it hurts so much. It’s the climb 💕

It was Mother’s Day. May 18, 2018! Michael and I were heading down to NYC for Blockchain week but, only for a couple of day’s. We tried to win tickets to the XRP community party but, we lost fair and square! That’s alright though because we were going to meet some Very important people and I was so nervous and excited! I was brand new to Twitter and the XRP community and when I joined the community, Michael had pointed me towards Tiffany Hayden and Nordic Ann!

So off we go! We had made plans with Nordic Ann to meet up with her and her son! So plans were in motion and everything was going so well at this point!

We met them and I was kind of “Star struck”! I mean I just met, “The Queen of Everything”!! We sat and chatted for a bit and then Ann announced that Tiffany Hayden would be joining us! Now I’m REALLY freaking out! It’s all good though. I pulled myself together and was ready to meet the other Wonderful Woman that gave me so much guidance on CT!

Tiff arrived and she was just as amazing as I thought she’d be! She had with her a friend and said that some others would be joining! WOW, this is GREAT! We are really meeting so many people from the XRP community! This is what we were here for so we couldn’t have asked for anything more!

Before I knew it we had a huge long table and it was full! The people kept pouring in and they all knew Tiff or the “friend” she had with her! Everyone was so nice and this guy they called Mark ordered a round of Manhattans for everyone! Now I don’t drink but, I got one just the same and it didn’t go to waste. There was many people willing to help me out with this!

Now I don’t know any of these people besides Ann, Tiff, Ann’s son and Michael. Everyone was talking about XRP and having a nice time.

Our waitress comes over and this is where things took a horrible turn for the worst! Well, not tragic terrible but, keep reading and you’ll see what I mean!

Our waitress was from South Africa! She was a riot. I tend to play off others corky behaviors and she got me rolling. She went around the table and tried to pin who was who. She said that Michael and I were

Married and she was correct. She actually pinned Ann and her son as mother and son, correct again! Then Tiff said “Well, what about us”!? She was talking about her friend that she had brought with. The waitress looked them over and she said, “Yes, you’re together but, it hasn’t been to long”! Wow. She was good!

The next question from the waitress was the straw that broke the camels back! She said, “So, do you all live in NYC and if not what brings you here, a reunion of some sorts”!?

Nobody was really saying anything so this is where naughty Patty enters the picture! Now without a drop of alcohol in me and with nobody really saying anything I figured I’d have to come to the rescue!

I actually stood up and I said, “No, it’s not a reunion and no we don’t live here. You see I’m really big into Orgies but, when I try to plan one where I live nobody responds. So I changed my search and ALL of these people answered! We are just getting comfortable with one another and then we will be on our way”! I said, “You see this guy right here...

He doesn’t even know it yet but, I’m about to make him my bi**h”! The table was hysterically laughing! ( Sorry Ms. Rabbit LOL )

The waitress didn’t know what to believe but, she loved the story and she even offered me some paddles off the wall to use 😳! That’s not a lie LOL! We all laughed a lot and then thing’s resumed back to normal, whatever normal is LOL!

After about 5 minute’s of everyone chatting Along and laughing my husband leans over to me and say’s these words that I’m never going to be able to unhear, “So Patty, that guy down there with Tiff, that’s her boyfriend Nik Bougals. He runs the C++ Team for RIPPLE”! Wait. WHAT?? Did you just say, “RIPPLE AS IN RIPPLE”?? Yup, that’s what he said!

Michael continued on. He’s like this here, this is Edward Hennis and he works at RIPPLE! Omg you’ve GOT to be kidding me! I just had a “orgy” with RIPPLE STAFF! Omg let me get under the table and NOW!

I can’t get under the table yet though because Michael wasn’t done yet! He’s like, “See that guy right there? His name is Mark Travis and yes, he works for RIPPLE!

Now I’m dying because I can’t change anything that has just happened LOL!

Then we get to Rabbit. I’m not even sure what Michael said because by this time I really needed some fresh air! I can’t believe I just announced an Orgy with the ripple staff and even worse made Rabbit my bi**h! ( sorry again Ms. Rabbit LOL )!

At this point I was so embarrassed and I needed to step Outside! I did and it was raining! I stood out there just cracking up laughing! I mean what else can you do? The damage is already done!

The best part was everyone was so much fun! We laughed so hard and no, we didn’t have an orgy but, I wanted to share my first experience with meeting Ripple staff and many other wonderful people!

Mark Travis and I stood outside chatting along with Ann’s wonderful son! We laughed at my inappropriate behavior and life went on! Now Michael could have stopped me in my tracks but, he knew he was getting ready to watch an unforgettable moment because he knows his wife LOL!!

I’ve got another “bonus” story that I’m going to put in the locked section! For just $5.00 a month you don’t have to miss a word we say! I will end with I’m so grateful I got to meet such wonderful people and I’m SUPER glad that all had a good sense of humor 😂!

All photos are mine

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Now to the bonus content! 👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻

So today we all got to see some green in our XRP! I know some people are anxiously thinking about the lambos, big houses, dream vacations and retirement but, not me! In this blog I want to take you on my XRP dream adventure! Won’t you come along?

As the price of XRP rises today all I can think about is the big yellow bus! YES, that’s right, the bus! This bus is going to bring me on my XRP dream!

One of my favorite places in the world is the Bronx Zoo well, any zoo really but, I live close enough to the Bronx zoo to visit as often as I’d like. It’s about 3 hours away!

When I’m at the zoo all of my life’s problems seem to slip away! Now who wouldn’t love that?

Our area has an imbalance between wealth and poverty with the middle class being the minority which is where Michael and I are. I surround myself with poverty stricken people all the time because I love to help them. When I’m around them I am blessed to be surrounded by their children. These children don’t have what my grandchildren have or what many other children have and that’s a way to go to the zoo! To me the zoo is a happy place and feel ALL children should go to the zoo!

These children feel the stress at home and my dream when XRP “moons” is to make countless trips to the Zoo with all of the children. I want to bring them to my happy place! I want them to forget about their worries right along with me and take in the beautiful animals for a day.

This has been a dream for a very long time and honestly until Michael found XRP I thought it would stay just that, a dream.

I’m not knocking anyone for wanting Lambos, big houses, dream vacations or retirement but, it’s just not my dream at this point. Making a child smile is!

I can honestly say that I’ve never seen a sad person at the zoo. I want to treat all of the children and their families to these trips. I don’t know how many trips I’ll take or how long I’ll do it but, if I can bring just 1 bus load of children then I’ve accomplished my dream!

Life can be so hard sometime and it’s quite unfortunate that the young ones feel it but, we can’t protect them from everything.

What we can do though is give them a day to remember and with that day an abundance of smiles!

So as I watch the numbers grow and red change to green in my head I’ll be thinking... YELLOW!

I can’t wait to buy my bus ♥️

Me, Fynn and Andrea. Bronx Zoo July of 2016

TRIGGER WARNING ⚠️! Graphic photos and open wound photo’s from a truck accident but, this describes exactly why I do believe in miracles so I wanted to share. The person involved has given his full permission!

It was Friday night and we had a storm upon us. My good friend Wayne hopped in his truck to go make some money! That’s what he does, Wayne plows snow!

As he was driving up a road called RT. 9 N he said he felt some “commotion” on his truck but, he wasn’t exactly sure what was going on! He said he swiftly made sure he was on this road and then this happened!

A huge and heavy tree came ripping through his window! At this point Wayne couldn’t even think! In fact he’s sure he blacked out!

He came around when someone was saying, “Hey bud, are you alright”!

Wayne quickly said he thought so but, then he moved his leg! He screamed in pain and he thought he had lost his whole leg!

He prayed to GOD not to take his leg because he needed it to work to make money for his family! A family that already struggles!

The ambulance and Police showed up and what they found was completely astonishing! A huge limb had come off and buried itself deep into Wayne’s leg!

They were able to cut the tree enough to get Wayne out of the truck and into the ambulance! The whisked him on his way to the local hospital.

Once he got there they decided that this was to big of an injury for them to deal with. So Wayne was moved again to Albany medical center. Finally with lots of pain meds on board!

Once they got there they had to cut the tree even more before he went into surgery. It was just to big of a limb to work with. So here goes nothing! Not normal hearing a saw in the OR that’s actually cutting wood but, they did it!

Now the Surgeon had something he could work with in the OR! Thank goodness!

Wayne underwent 7 hours of surgery and here’s where the true miracle happens. The tree missed EVERYTHING! It didn’t touch his femur bone, it didn’t hit any major arteries so really it was all soft tissue injury! Can I get a “AMEN”?

Wayne will be in the hospital for quite sometime. He’s got a lot of healing to do. They actually have to keep going back in to clean more tree out. This is why he was writing me this morning. He got to see what he was actually dealing with!

The “what if’s” are setting in now and he needed what he calls a “Patty pick me up”! I said, “Wayne. You’re a miracle my sweet boy. If that limb landed anywhere’s else than where it did, I’m afraid we wouldn’t be having this conversation! He said it was just what he was looking for and he was feeling positive again! That boy got up and walked after we chatted and I’m so proud of him. He had the nurse take a photo and he sent it to me!

This is him up on his feet! I’m so proud of him! I’ve always believed in Miracles but, my buddy Wayne reminded me why!

Never take a single moment for granted. You absolutely never know what’s coming next. Tomorrow isn’t promised and today is a gift. If you’ve got it in you could you please give my buddy Wayne a prayer. I know it sounds silly because why would he need a prayer but, he’s got a long road ahead of him. We are thanking GOD that he’s got both of his legs to walk it with. Thank you GOD ♥️

Photo credits go to Wayne himself. He’s been sending me photos along the way.

He also gave me permission to blog and he wants a copy to show the nurses lol.

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Today I’ve decided to share a little bit more about myself with all of you! Life has been full of ups and downs just like everyone else’s but, somehow we always manage to pull through. Come on and take a look at the life of me, Patty B 🥰!

I was born in 1973 and my mom having a very hard life was a runaway. Nonetheless she got pregnant for me and then made her way back home to her mother. My moms sisters was also pregnant at the time with my cousin, Brandi. She is 6 months older than me.

It was only my mom and I for quite sometime and I know we moved around a lot. Mom didn’t have much money but, she always worked so hard and made it work for us!

In 1975 mom left to go to the hospital and much to my surprise, when she got home this is what she brought with her! This little thing that screamed all of the time! Little did I know that he’d end up being one of my very best friends! Jamie Stephen..my baby brother!

Jamie was a very sick baby and we spent a lot of time sleeping in the hospital because our mom would never leave her baby there alone. For she was the mother! After the 1st year Jamie was much better and life continued on!

Still not having a lot of money she always did the very best for us! She’s go without so we didn’t. A true “mother”! Funny how when you’re so young you just don’t appreciate what’s been done for you. You don’t appreciate the sacrifices that people make! You sure do once you’re older though!

Here we are. Happy as little larks! It was Christmas 🎄! Even though mom didn’t have much money she always managed to put gifts under the tree but, really the TRUE gift wasn’t under the tree. It’s what she taught us! “It’s not about the gifts under the tree but, it’s about the love in your heart and being together”! Now at this point I could lie and say that she said that it was all about a special “Birthday” but, I’m not going to because my mother was who she was! Period!

I do know that we never went without! She’d go to food pantries when need be and she’d get some help from her family but, they also struggled! She had no shame. She had to feed her children! She was single for so long but, finally she went on that date that changed all of our lives!

She met my now step-dad and before we knew it we were moving into a HOUSE! YESSS..a house and we had our own bedrooms! He was a cop 🚓 and it seemed that life would finally be so much easier for my mom. I’m sad to say, it wasn’t. Both my mom and my step-dad had a love affair with alcohol. If you grew up in “that household” then you know that with alcohol comes chaos!

When the booze was flowing so was the tempers and I can say thank GOD for my brother. We leaned on one another for support because it was downright scary at times.

Jamie and I always had eachother and finally an ultimatum came down and dad had to pick between us and the booze. He picked us. They both slowed down on their drinking and life did get much better!

He always treated us as if we were his own children and he and I had a special bond. I was the only girl. There is Jamie and I and he had 2 sons that would come every other weekend. They only come around on Christmas and Birthdays now! You can always find my step-dad and I snapping a selfie. That’s our “thing”. We do everything together and I’m very grateful for him.

My mom got sick 17 years ago and I became her caretaker. I remember at one point I said to Michael, “Hey, my moms sick. I’ll be back”! I showed up a year later. No lie! My mom gave me and my brother everything she could including an abundance of love and I would take the best care of her that I could. NO REGRETS!

On October 23rd we lost our beautiful mother and naturally my brother and I had a little fear because “Tim” is not our father and he didn’t have to keep us in his life.

Jamie and I talked about this several times and I said I just can’t imagine that he’s going to throw us away! It doesn’t seem like he could after so much time!

I guess my step-dad could sense this feeling of insecurity with my brother and I. My brother actually lives with him to help care for the huge home and the 3 dogs. He presented me with these gifts and I never ever had to wonder where I stood in his life again! A HUGE relief . Especially after just losing our mom!

The necklace might be a little hard to read but, it says, “Even though you aren’t my blood, I love you as if you were”! All mine and my brothers worries had left us and we were grateful!

We didn’t always have it easy but, my mother always did her best. She left us with a wonderful step-father and he proudly takes on the role of our father.

We miss our mom but, our “dad” got us through the 1st thanksgiving without her.

And the 1st Christmas without her!

The man that didn’t have to but, DID!

Jamie and I will forever be grateful to our mother for giving us a man that would love us like our own! There’s no word to describe “that man” because it’s truly someone so incredible! Taking on someone else’s children! Amazing!

The last thing I want to do is leave you with this song! It touches my heart so deeply. If you were raised by a step-parent then you’ll get it. I know we are truly blessed to have him ♥️

This truly says it all! Happy Saturday everyone 😘

It seems my blogs lately have been about things that are hard to talk about unfortunately today I have to add to that series of blogs.

This morning was like every other morning. Michael was leaving for work and I was planning my day. I knew I had a lot of work to do here at home, so that was my plan until, the phone call came. The call was from a dear friend of mine who also just lost her mom. The difference between her and I with the losses of our moms, she has something to look forward to, she’s having a BABY! So exciting! RIGHT?

She had asked me to attend the birth of her daughter at the end of May! Of course I said, “Yes”! As I’ve shared before attending births I do on a somewhat regular bases. I’ve already attended 1 birth in 2020 and she would be my 2nd of the year! Something I truly looked forward to!

Last night Rye started experiencing some pain. She spoke with her Doctor over the phone and he assured her that she was fine. He said it’s the stress of losing her mom. He directed her to lay on her left side and to drink plenty of fluids. So she did. By the early morning hours it was clear to Rye that something was drastically wrong so they headed for the hospital. They didn’t bother to call the Doctor again afraid that he’d dismiss this as just, “stress”!

I’m so sad to announce that today Rye’s beautiful baby-girl became a statistic. She’s one of the 11,300 babies that are born and pass on the very same day. When she called me this morning she told me the story about calling the Doctor last night and now she was at the hospital. She was going to give birth to her daughter but, it was to soon. The baby had zero chances at survival but, she still wanted me to attend the birth. Without a doubt I was there. I lost 2 babies of my own in 1996, Alex and Alexis. One in January and one in November. It truly was a living nightmare and I’m glad I could be there for support because basically that’s all you can do. Give support.

Today I witnessed the birth and the death of an angel 👼. She was absolutely beautiful and I was so proud to be present to wrap my arms around Rye and to give love to a princess that clearly was, “Gone to soon”! I was astonished at Ryes faith in GOD! It was humbling! She felt as if she sent her newly passed mother a grandchild to love and nourish until she could join them. WOW! Now that’s faith!

The babies family came to meet her, take photos and bid her farewell because “goodbye” isn’t in their vocabulary. I stood back and watched this family just love this precious little angel 👼 thinking, “Life is just so unfair sometime’s but, we have to pick up and keep going..no matter what”.

I talked the Doctor into letting Rye go home tonight if he felt she was doing well and she was.

I know that feeling of walking out of the hospital without that baby that’s supposed to be in your arms. It’s heartbreaking. I called it “The empty arm syndrome”. It’s so hard but, Rye put 1 foot in front of the other and she did it!

The beautiful angel that entered and exited this earth today will leave a footprint 👣 on my heart. Today and always.

Tonight I have my granddaughter that just turned 10 months old today and I held her a little tighter as a tear ran down my cheek. I know I’m so blessed and I’ll never take that for granted.

October is is pregnancy and infant loss month. Together with Rye we will honor and celebrate 3 little angels that were to good for this earth. Until we meet again 💖

Well, today I’m writing because of a horrible message I received after I went to bed last night! Yes, this is a true story!

When I get in bed at night I typically turn the sounds on my phone, off. Last night was the last night that will happen. Last night was a game changer!

I went to get something off my stand and on my phone screen I saw someone writing to me in all caps! Boy, that got my attention! Whoever decided that writing in caps is “yelling”, let me thank you now!

My step-daughter who I raised is with a guy that’s extremely abusive! I wouldn’t allow him to move into my home so our daughter left with him! It would be downhill from there! She ended up getting pregnant by this animal and there’s the “bond for life”! It was hard for me because I also was in abusive relationships and I know how they go! We always protect our abuser.

The messsge said, “PATTY, WHERE ARE YOU? HE’S OUT THERE PUSHING YOUR DAUGHTER AROUND AND YOUR GRANDSON IS SCREAMING AND SO IS SHE”!

I grabbed my phone and dialed the police! Immediately following that I called the abusers phone! He answered! Well, I knew he would because he’d act like everything is fine! I bet he was shocked when I screamed “UNHAND MY DAUGHTER YOU ANIMAL AND WHY IS MY GRANDSON SCREAMING”??

He spewed his disgusting profanities at me and I just let him keep going because I knew the cops were on the way and if he’s screaming at ME then he’s leaving my step-daughter alone! That worked! Thank GOD!

Sadly what didn’t happen is an arrest. Let me tell you why! We, the abused are the best liars. We can get our butts handed to us and then look a cop in the eye and tell them, “All is wonderful, we were just playing”!

Now in NYS if you have a mark on you then the cop has the right to make the arrest without the woman pressing charges. No marks on her and then her saying it didn’t happen and then there’s nothing that stands up in court! It’s frustrating!

I grew up in a household watching my mother get beat up. I’d stay awake and wait for her to get home so I could “try” to protect her. It never worked. They say that little girls that grow up watching DV end up following in moms path. I’m here to tell you yes, that’s true. In my younger years I was with plenty of men that mentally, physically and sexually abused me. I just took it because hey, my mom did. It just seemed normal to me, I guess!

This is a hard but, a very important subject to talk about today for me! Today I’m going to take some action towards this animal and I’ll have my dad right by my side. The animal that’s abusing my step-daughter is on probation. Even though he didn’t get arrested last night he did have cop contact! I’ll report this and more to the Divison of Probation!

I know you’re probably all thinking that I should run to my step-daughter and get her away from him and boy I wish I could but, it’s not that easy. She’s an adult and anytime we’ve talked about the animal and his “problems” she makes excuses! Just like most abused women do! Our daughter is a RN! She’s very smart but, feels like she’s fine in this situation! Every time she gets a patient signed into the hospital one of the standard questions is, “Do you feel safe at home”? “Are you being abused”? I always wonder what runs through our daughters mind while she ask these questions!?

I’m sad. I’m sad that she doesn’t feel she’s worth more than this and I’m sad that I’m virtually powerless. I’m sad that I have to tiptoe around her regarding that animal or I could lose her and that’s the worst thing that could happen! Our daughter cutting ties means I lost all contact with her and our grandson. Dealing with a DV victim is somewhat of a manipulation game, I’m sad to say but, whatever keeps her the safest at this point!

I’ve posted some DV statistics for you and they are completely astonishing! So many women and men feel that they deserve this kind of life. I did. He told me so! His word was the gospel.

I had no intentions of writing a blog of DV today but, unfortunately it fell in my lap. I want to end by telling you a few more things.

1. Love never hurts 😞

2. Love is patient

3. Love is kind

4. Love is not controlling

5. True love is unconditional

6. If you or someone you know is a victim of DV please get help! You don’t have to live this way! Once I broke free from the chains ⛓ of abuse my life got so good! Granted it took time because he had beaten me down mentally and physically and made me believe I was so worthless and nobody else would want me!

Guess what? He was WRONG! I’m in my 15th year of marriage with a man that’s never even yelled at me. He treats me with respect at all times. He treats our children with love and respect at all times and we treat him the same.

If you’re being abused CALL THIS NUMBER! They won’t judge you. They’ll keep you anonymous and they will do everything to help you get out of your DV situation! They will even pay for you to get into a new apartment in an anonymous location! Yes, most of these women are victims themselves! They get it.

Wish me luck because today I’m going to be In full blown momma bear mode! He’s brought out the mother bear and there will be a price to pay! I fear for our innocent grandson. I know the worry that’s on his mind. I was him. I know that this is an uphill battle but, I won’t stop! You don’t mess with my children! Ever! Today I will fight like it’s my last day on earth! Trying to save my step-daughter when she won’t even save herself! I love my babies more than life itself ♥️

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I have to say right off the bat that I’m a lover of all women! I think they are beautiful, powerful and I learn a lot from them. Let me show you where it all started!

Won’t you come with me on my “Woman adventure”? Come on!!! It will be fun!

This is my “Queen”! My Nanny, my mother’s mom, a powerful women indeed! I learned a lot from my Nanny. For she was my grandmother and she was a walking wealth of knowledge. From how to correctly set the table to where to put your hands while waiting for your meal. My Nanny admired other women and learned from them. A trait she passed on to me.

My mother raised me to respect other women. Of course she did this because her mother loved other women and learned from them. We are stuck in a world of young ladies that will “Hate” on another female just because they are beautiful 😳! Let that sink in! REALLY? I wonder if these young ladies mom’s hate women as well or did they pick that up themselves? Well, I guess I’ll never know the answer to that question.

I went on to have a daughter myself and it was so important to me to teach Alyson just how powerful women are when they unite. We ARE! It’s true! A woman that stands alone may not move mountains but, what do you think this crew can do ?

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I always feel so bad when I hear a woman getting slaughtered by another woman because of her looks. Good or bad! Perhaps the one doing the slaughtering feels like the “ugly duckling” however, trashing other women isn’t going to fix this!

I’d recommend grabbing onto that beautiful woman and ask her for a tip. A makeup 💄 tip, hair tip maybe a tip on her clothing. Trashing her does nothing for anyone. Did you feel better after you called her disgusting names? Did it change how she looked? Did it change your looks!?

We know the answer to that is, “NO”!

Look at Ann here. When we met I was in jeans from high school and no makeup! This woman was dressed to the 9’s! She look like she stepped out of a Women’s magazine! WAZAAA! As you can see though, I’m smiling. Ann didn’t intimidate me however, she inspired me. She inspired me to take more pride in myself! For that I’m grateful! Thank you Ann 😘

Now check this woman out! Yes I’m talking about Miss. Dani! When I met Dani I was instantly inspired by her! We went to a beach and her snack packing ( not kidding here ) was top notch. Here I am dragging a bag of chips and Dani has every fruit 🍉 plus the dip to go with it plus many more snacks! I was actually embarrassed but, I took it as a opportunity to...YES...LEARN!

I truly believe women are quite powerful! I’m forever trying to educate my daughters on the importance of “Women United can move mountains” women alone are just that, alone!

This is my granddaughter, Remi! I can’t wait to pass the reigns to her. I can’t wait to teach her just how powerful women are and I hope that one day she’s running this country! She CAN do it! She’s an almighty... WOMAN ( or will be someday lol)

When you are raising a female what are you going to teach her? That beautiful women are “bad” because they are beautiful or are you going to teach the special little girl that together with other women they can move mountains 🏔? That choice is up to YOU! I hope you make the right decision 💕

As our beautiful Ann pointed out the other day, “We all are Queens” In our own way. I vow to always be the one to help a fellow Queen straighten her crown 👸 because that my friends is powerful 💖

Photo credit for “Queen” comes from Upsplash the beautiful Alice Alinari

I own all other photos.

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I’m not one that usually blogs back to back but, something came up in a private message and it’s kind of driving me crazy. Body shaming! So I’d like to share my story!

I’ve struggled with weight my whole life. This seems to be a thing for the women of my family. Some have medical issues that effect their weight and some don’t.

In High School I can tell you I absolutely wasn’t the cheerleader size! I was alright with that. I mean I wasn’t a bad person per say, I just wouldn’t have looked great in a pair of spankies LOL!

I wasn’t tiny but, at that point I wasn’t to huge. Yet! There was an incident in HS that’s stuck with my pretty much my whole life. No, I haven’t let it ruin me but, it’s there in the back of my mind.

We were at lunch one day and the meal was a Hotdog 🌭 . Now I never ate lunch in school because I was aware of my weight and I was embarrassed by it. At the next table over sat the “jocks”! I’ll never ever forget the day that one of them didn’t finish their lunch and this guy named Mike said, “Hey why don’t you give that to Patty...Look at her she never misses a meal” I was horrified!

I ran to the front office and I called my mom to come and get me. I was so embarrassed by this that I couldn’t even show my face! I don’t know why I was on the heavier side? I didn’t eat a ton. I guess I was just blessed with the “chunky” gene!

My mom came and got me and brought me home. I told her I just didn’t feel well and I went to my room and I cried. All day long!

My size changed so much throughout the years. This is me a little heavier and trust me I knew it but, I never had success in losing weight! It’s such a struggle!

It was the year 2003 and I decided I was going to stop drinking because yes, I was an alcoholic! Little did I know that when I made that decision I also made the decision to get huge! This also was the time in my life when I met Michael. I had zero self confidence, people laughed and snickered at me and I was so ashamed but, I found a wonderful man that actually loved me! I had no clue how because I was HUGE!

I hardly had the drive to pick myself up to go out the door. I was so completely embarrassed! I guess though when you decide to get sober there’s the good and the bad. Weight gain was the bad! Michael and I went on to get married just 90 days after we met and I got happy!

I took more pride in myself and I changed my eating habits. Over time my body started to change.

I was still not “tiny” but, I was smaller and less and less people made fun of me! It used to baffle me. Don’t people know that we all come in different sizes? Why do we have to be a size 2 to fit in? Ya, I still don’t know!! As time went on the weight kept coming off! I felt better and better about myself because I was body shamed so much!

Soon I was feeling pretty good about myself and this is where my story gets interesting! Do you all remember “Mike” from the lunchroom that sent me home crying? So ya, I posted this photo on Facebook and Mike was the 1st one to send me a message to tell me how “Hot I was”!

That was my “ah-ha” moment! I decided that I’d remind Mike about the incident in the lunchroom and I did just that! Ironically he didn’t remember but, I never forgot!

Words are powerful so please choose them wisely. Mike was floored that he had done that to me and he asked if he could use my story and his bullying as an example for his own children! Of course I said, “YES”! Lessons or blessings! Someone was going to learn a lesson! Mike truly was apologetic and I feel it was authentic and I forgave him.

The mission of this blog is to educate people! No, we don’t all come in the same shapes and sizes. No, we all aren’t size 2 and can pull off the cheerleaders outfit but, it doesn’t change what’s in our hearts! I hated being huge but, it was a battle that was hard to beat. Then I chose to get sober and I got even bigger! Well, I’d rather be sober and big than drunk and skinny!

Body shaming someone does absolutely NOTHING to motive someone to lose weight. So the laughing, picking, chucking does nothing but stomp our already very low self-esteem...even lower!

I’m asking you all to please be kind and to never judge a book by it’s cover! I absolutely love the woman’s body! We come in all different shapes and sizes and that’s what makes us unique! I’ve worked hard to take weight off and I promise it wasn’t always the right way but, I’m happy where I am!

So if you’re someone that thought body shaming was fun, funny or cute when I wasn’t this size and you think I’d give you the time of day now...WRONG but, I will let you use YOUR story of being unkind to education your children! So “Mike, I’m flattered that you think I’m hot and you want to hook up but, I’m happily married to a man that married me at my heaviest and plus I have a hotdog 🌭 to go eat! Sooo Ta-Ta 😘

If you’re a woman or a man that’s struggling with your weight please don’t ever let anyone shame you into submissiveness like I did! Stand proud and tall because it doesn’t matter what’s on the outside but, what’s on the inside counts! Did I mention I LOVE women? All shapes and sizes. They truly are beautiful beings!