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Alysonsvoicewasheard

I shared with all of you over the past few day’s my daughter’s story. You can read it in part 1 and part 2 of my previous blogs. I’ve waited a few day’s to see how things would end up after me going public with Alyson’s story and I can tell you that she has been heard! I’m so happy that she asked me to get up and tell her story for her. She’s my daughter, my life, my love and I’ll never let her down! Speaking in front of 100 people was quite intimidating but, nothing like what she’s been through. It was my honor to help her voice be heard!

https://cinnamon.video/watch?v=407711398550832727

I wanted to see how Alyson felt a few day’s after she decided to have her story told and I do believe that it truly was empowering to her! She now can see how other’s feel about the amazing person that she is! After being sexually abused by her own father she never turned to drugs or alcohol. Councilors wouldn’t see her because they said she was so strong. They also said call if you ever need us! I believe this was a turning point for my child and I also believe that she’ll one day be a child’s victim advocate and that’s just amazing to me!

Alyson’s a wonderful daughter who care’s so much for her parent’s. We are so blessed. I was with Michael when we found out that Alyson was being molested by her dad and he said that the day it all came out was the day he knew he had to be the best dad he could be and he has been!

Alyson is a wonderful mommy to her precious son Mason and I as her mother couldn’t be any prouder. She was moving to Tennessee but, that didn’t work out because of the Pandemic so she’s started back at her old job. It’s good and bad. You see the very man that molested her goes into her job to torture her. She’s strong but, at time’s she breaks. I’m here 100% but, something’s she just has to work through herself but, she’s got an ARMY behind her and she absolutely knows this! Maybe the cops couldn’t help but, I’ll always do my best to protect her!

Facing her father, predator, molester is no easy task and I wish I could take it all away. I can’t. He’s going to continue to be the person that he is and she’s going to have to coexist with him walking on the same planet and not do anything stupid. My daughter is a warrior and I am so proud and at the same time heartbroken. I’ll never ever get over the fact that the very man that helped make her, stole her innocence. Thank you all for reading Alyson’s story and helping her get her voice out there. Our gratitude runs so deep. It may have been 14 years since her story developed but, it always seems like yesterday to her. She had to accept and learn to live with the fact that a man that she loved more than life itself completely tried to destroy her. I’m one grateful mom that he didn’t win that one! She showed her strength. #Alysonsvoicewasheard

REMEMBER: We all are responsible for the children around us. Pay attention and listen. If something doesn’t seem right then it’s probably not. Go with your gut. Ask questions and the last thing I want to share is this. PLEASE teach your children the proper terminology for their genitales. I follow a lot of sex abuse cases that go to trial and when the 6 year old was on the stand the DA said, “And where did he touch you”? The 6 year old said, “On my cookie”. The DA said, “Was that peanut butter or chocolate chip”! That preditor who raped a 6 year old walked free all because the child didn’t call her private parts by the correct name. Talk to your children. Make that talk a “normal” part of life and always take everything seriously. God bless our church!

Today after such an amazing day yesterday I’m going to give you more of Alyson’s story! As of yesterday, Alyson’s voice has been heard! She was ready to share her story. We went to a benefit to #SaveOurChildren and for the 1st time in 14 year’s, I stood up as she asked and told it. Alyson’s amazing and I’m so proud! So let’s keep going.

I left off in my last blog that I was granted emergency custody of my daughter with her father having no contact at all, pending the outcome of the investigation. So Alyson was with me and doing very well all things considered. I brought her to a therapist that I had gotten in place before I even told her and when they were done they came to speak to me. The woman said, “Your daughter is so strong and there’s nothing we can do here for her. If you need us you call us but, she’s doing very well.

4 week’s passed and I finally heard from the lead Detective on our case. He asked me to come down to the State-Police station to talk, alone. I was a bag of nerves but, here goes nothing. I head down to talk to the detective, a day that will forever change my heart, mind and soul.

The Detective was waiting for me and something in my momma gut told me this wasn’t going to be good. We went into his office and he asked me to sit. Again, these are the words that will stay with me forever, “We have concluded our investigation Mrs. B and UNFORTUNATELY it’s, “He said, she said and there’s nothing we can do. To make an arrest without a confession would mean that we would need strong evidence to present to a jury and we have, none. She’s going to have to LET IT GO”! The words hit me like a sledgehammer! Not only did I have to tell my beautiful daughter that her father molested her friend, find out she also was molested but, now he would WALK SCOTT FREE”! I was busted! How could I tell my baby to, “GET OVER IT”!?

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