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I'm getting good at making fried rice, and in all flavors imaginable.
I'm getting good at making fried rice, and in all flavors imaginable.
Okay I visited r/aspergers today. That's the source of all the anger.
No, people don't all leave you because you are struggling with a financial downturn. People are leaving you because you are already exploitative in the first place. And well-adjusted people with normal selfish human needs of love and happiness already left 10 years ago. Because, why do I have to be a masochist? That left you with the only people who put up with your “abuse” are the ones who are equally exploitative in one way or another. And we all know the quality of these “friendships”.
The countertransference of “are you the most unlucky person that ever lived of do you have a personality disorder” still applies even when you have a social deficit.
I'm all for sad stories and underdogs. But every time someone says having no friends and everyone against them because of their disability, it turns out they have very narrow understandings of politics/life and allow no room for others.
I mean, I came from traditional Northern region, and people actually told me I should go to the South because my personality would be better there. My friends are all over the place on politics and all of them like Taylor Swift. So it really depends on your top priorities when you choose friends.
It's like how one gender complains the other being unable to be emotionally vulnerable. But like, is it a gender problem? Or is it a “you” problem?
I think people are doing the business of opening up as fine as they should be. They may not be as descriptive as me to journal their every feeling down. But they do sense when someone learns social tricks from clickbait articles on how to be emotionally present and genderly progressive, but like, only learn the words and not the actions. I think most people are dying to show themselves to another person, with the maximum capacity available to them, and the maximum capacity for self-awareness that they can bear, regardless of their gender. And the only people who are technically not able to do that are the ones who externalize all the blames for the outside world. Therefore, to them, there are no people good enough/trustworthy enough to confine.
It's raining here today. And I finished that horse drawing yesterday.
Horses are dumb.
Diversity in ideology is fun. But since I haven't seen any socialist who doesn't come with a paranoid personality, I assume the majority of them choose it as a defense against greed and hate. That's why they both preach kindness and throw wild accusations based on nothing at the same time. Which is a shame. Because if they were upfront about their emotional needs beforehand, they might not have to kill off each other after revolutions.
It was quite disappointing in my early 20s that I looked for answers on how to deal with social interactions and met with moralizers. Because I had trouble regulating emotions, and I didn't feel my reactions aligned at all with the culture.
“Good friends mean you have to be happy for your friends' success.” “You shouldn't feel annoyed, he didn't mean any harm.”
Until you spend more time with these people, and realize, they don't practice what they say.
When you think moralizing as a defense against uncomfortable feelings, you will understand why. For it's not about how you actually feel, to recognize it, and to make sense of it and move forward. But to prevent the feelings themselves from happening at all. It's probably why the majority of atheists are insufferable. It's not just what they believe in. It's a defense against grief, that results in controlling behavior from them onto others, and narcissistic need to force people to think and feel like them.
Good night tutor.