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So Carl, the adjunct prof, one day expressed “I think our leaders are bad people, and nobody but me can see it. It makes me sad.”

Unlike Carl, most people already know leaders are corrupt as usual, and they don't care for their personalities. They only care if those people can do their jobs. And that, is already after corruption deduction.

So Carl continued “I can't believe a billionaire unfollows people they don't like anymore. Such pettiness. At the same time, politicians say mean things to each other at large instead of helping a country in need!”

Unlike Carl, most people don't have the need to portray themselves as warriors of fairness and courage online where no one can bust them, because their normal selfish self works okay so far. So they spend their free time worrying about practical things like safety of their own.

If you wonder borderline argues like a 5 year-old. That’s because they are. Unfortunately they frequently think of themselves as the mature, diplomatic ones.

Although I went out with a wrong attitude today (friendly). And had to listen to pretty awful gender stories while they were working on my head. I'm thinking I'm going back being stoic and smug so people would stop trying to unsuccessfully entertain me.

It's very cheap here. I cut my hair for less than a dollar.

Hehe I cut it.

Example: Situation: my friend makes a comment against my viewpoint therefore makes me angry. Paranoid: she makes that mean comment to mock my life situation or blame me for something I did. CBT homework: It might be stressful at work today, and she didn't mean what she said.

You see how CBT “helps” you?

It “helps” you rationalize your judgment so you can have more “tolerance” of others, and somehow or probably will help you keep those friendships? But you already start with a wrong paranoid judgment. You then proceed to make excuses for someone based on that wrong judgment. All the while thinking you are such a generous person.

The friend might just have a different opinion. Or they secretly hate you. You don't have and can't have a clear answer until a few months or years later. But that's true for any relationship. So, instead of growing the capacity to stand uncertainty, the ability to see your aggression toward even people you like, and the recognition of differences between people, you are growing the ability to write fiction!

Normal people don’t spend 3 hours per day to misinterpret their friends. For that much trouble they can just ditch their friends for someone else more compatible. Which wouldn’t be a problem if they have the ability to maintain relationships. Borderline boys keep bragging about their forgiveness and generosity, and how much they put up with their friends by doing CBT in secret and all sort of mental gymnastics, instead of, jeez I don’t know, talk things out like a normal person. Really makes you think what kind of relationship it is when one puts the status of the relationship itself above understanding.

Also, blaming yourself as a default setting instead of thinking of things as multi-dimensional is a way not to take accountability. In many cases, you have a person who feels both victimized and entitled.

Right wing anti-psych thinks ruminating on childhoods makes you narcissistic so their solution is bottling up. What they don't know is the majority of boys with personality disorders ARE the result of bottling up. Those boys many times make fun of borderline girls for hysterical behavior on social media and in public. But they don't know they have borderline and narcissistic traits themselves. Their paranoia is never obvious until you discover their journals and find out how they misinterpret everything and everyone so they don't have to be “aggressors” who they deem morally inferior.

Probably will cut my hair. For tactical reasons. It keeps getting in my face when I run on the street.