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I killed a fat rat with a blunted spear while my sister was crying in the background.
I killed a fat rat with a blunted spear while my sister was crying in the background.
Although I know someone who wants to go hunting.
It’s raining here.
Hihi. See you later.
Analysts then argue “Differences in politics shouldn't matter because we learn neutrality in training!”
But how much neutrality is actually neutral when one buys into gender norms, social norms, history (propaganda), since age zero to age thirty, then proceeds a few years of training to reverse engineering?
It's very arrogant for analysts to think only their brand of “therapeutic relationship” brings out psychological changes while normal friendship is purely psychologically superficial. Especially when the majority of them grow up and live in upper-middle class liberal environments. Move from a rural area to a city and you would know what I'm talking about. It doesn't mean rural people are better and in other metrics they are worse. But people have more potential to be psychologically honest when it costs less financial and social punishment. And that is closer to psychoanalysis than what psychoanalysis tries to be.
So how's the stress level lately?
I hate art snobs more than most people, due to overexposure.
Boys spend too much time convincing themselves they are not petty. But they are as petty as every other girl. The worse ones are those who deny it.
In abuse support groups, people who spell out “I'm angry, I hate the person, I hate what they did to me” have more chance of recovery than the ones who say “I don't hate her because I know she is a good person trapped in a horrible disorder” or “You should know people who do that are not worth it/not meant to be”.
The first one acknowledges their emotions, therefore has a chance to process loss and grief to move on. The latter are too busy building their reputation as generous, good, caring people to even know themselves, wrapped in rationalization and moralization. They get more paranoid over time, learning from their “abusers”. And they continue to project the paranoia to the next person.
You see how in dating people say the word “baggage” like you are expected to validate someone's paranoia out of compassion. Instead the person themselves should learn how to deal with loss. But yes, they are normally the same people who brag about bottling up and think it won't blow up in their faces.
There was a discussion the other day about borderline shouldn't be treated as victims. Someone said, of course, they shouldn't be treated as just a victim, but it is also what happens to them. But trauma and paranoid is the chicken and egg thing again. For paranoid can caused by trauma. But if paranoid comes first, then the trauma narrative is unreliable. And there is no way to verify. The only thing you know is what you can observe to be happening right now.