As a kid, there are plenty of occasions one can say “This is not right”. They all know it and they choose not to. If they didn't say it back then, they won't do it as adults.
There is a quote about it: “People with great passions, people who accomplish great deeds, people who possess strong feelings, even people with great minds and a strong personality, rarely come out of good little boys and girls.”
I don't understand why tech bros keep sadistically threatening to take away jobs from people who don't want to be employed.
Is that because they resent STEM and their parents take away all the fun in their lives? Because when I said I was preparing for the final term exam, the chemistry dude flatmate told me, “Your major is easy to pass”. And I thought then, “I didn't even know you were struggling at school until just now!”.
If you want to be employed as a 3d artist, you draw something super boring like a rusty bolt. You don't draw pictures of pretty girls in hope that someone would admire your obsession for body symmetry and blandness to pick up your talent for computing. Most of what tech bros see online that they think is super cool is not even stuff used in production. Those are things drawn by people who are too rich or too irresponsible to need a realistic job. Well you can say this is too offensive and being an influencer/youtuber is still a job. But these jobs to be taken away is probably not much of a hit for the victim as you might think it is.
I already told you I would keep all my thoughts and feelings to myself for as long as I could hold it.
I think about you all the time.
The thing about being narcissistic is, since you have the dismissive attitude toward others so much, you miss out the subtleties of humanness. You can only recognize things that are super tangible like race, gender, job title and status. Oh, and maybe if you consider yourself romantic, a collection of indie songs. Or, if you consider yourself intellectual, a collection of righteous books.
Every time we see a gender debate accusing each other of being inferior, it's exclusively narcissistic boys and narcissistic girls arguing with each other. And they both think they are winning, but actually they are equally losers.
Yes the culture is bad and criticism of gender norms is necessary. But there are differences between describing a phenomenon and acting grandiosity over one gender to avenge your feeling of being undesired.
Nah, I'm very super clingy when we're close. I just don't like it when people skip the get-to-know-each-other step and just assume we have to be friends and spend time together and be “vulnerable” just because we happened to sit next to each other at school or share the need to pay rent half price.
Narcissistic boys and narcissistic girls spend too much time convincing each other and themselves that they don't need others' appreciation.
“I pursue this very social hobby because I'm just cool.” “I make up to intimidate other girls, not to attract boys.”
Me personally, whenever I do something, I ask myself, “Would I still do this if no one knows?”.
That's how I realize I do most things for attention. Might not necessarily be everyone's attention. But definitely someone's attention.
My first roommate went into a depressive episode when she found out I didn't know her name after 3 months of living together.
She introduced herself when we first met. I memorized her name for a day. It was a Czech name. Then a few days later, I realized I had already forgotten it. But I was very busy catching the train early enough for school every day and still managed to be late anyway. By the time I got to it, a month had already passed by.
You can't ask someone's name after a month. So I didn't.
The difference is infinite between how I intentionally treat normal boys rudely to make sure they would leave me alone, and boy that I like so much that everyone else suddenly becomes uglier and uglier.
I just want to announce that when boys discuss with each other about what makes them attractive to the girls. And they think being powerful and competent is the answer. It might be. Associating yourself with someone who is better than most people at something feels pretty empowered just by doing almost nothing. But it's also narcissism. And while some people can sustain on narcissism alone. Many people would require other things as well for emotional attachment.