I had this Nursery Rhyme in my head this morning, as I hummed it and thought of the words ...

“Hush little baby, don't say a word,

Papa's gonna buy you a mockingbird.

And if that mockingbird won't sing,

Papa's gonna buy you a diamond ring.

And if that diamond ring turns to brass,

Papa's gonna buy you a looking glass.

And if that looking glass gets broke,

Papa's gonna buy you a billy goat.

And if that billy goat won't pull,

Papa's gonna buy you a cart and bull.

And if that cart and bull turn over,

Papa's gonna buy you a dog named Rover.

And if that dog named Rover won't bark,

Papa's gonna buy you a horse and cart.

And if that horse and cart fall down,

You'll still be the sweetest little baby in town!”

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I used to always sing this to my girls, as I put them to sleep at night when they were younger. Except, I changed the word “Papa” to “Mama”, and at the end of it, I changed it to my own words to say, “And if that dog named Rover runs away, Mama's gonna buy you another today.“

I think of this Rhyme today, and I realize that this really doesn't make sense (in my honest opinion). It's a nursery rhyme to make children feel better, but the fact of the matter is – **parents cannot buy pain away from children**. Buying “things” to make children feel better is not the solution to any problem. And to put it rather bluntly, why would I want to “hush” my child? Honestly, why would I tell my child to “be quiet”? It's like saying – “it doesn't matter”.

But wait, it DOES matter!!!

Thoughts matter.

Words matter.

I admit, I was thinking of saying this to my daughter this morning before she went off to school, as she was having a bit of a rough morning. But then I stopped myself in my tracks and instead, kissed her and told her I loved her, unconditionally, and to have a beautiful day!

You see, I don't want to “hush” her. I want her to talk to me, and to share all of her thoughts with me, so that we can sort out her tangled mind. I don't want any of my children to remain silent, but rather, to be open about what's troubling them, and also what's making them super excited!! You know what I mean?

As a mom, I want to be there for my children, just like my mom was. I want them to know that I can be their best friend and that they can talk openly to me. I don't ever want them to think otherwise. So why would I sing, “Hush Little Baby”?!! Here's the thing...

I can't promise them:

a Mocking Bird

a Diamond Ring

a Looking Glass

a Billy Goat

a Cart and Bull

a Dog named Rover

a Horse and Cart

But, I can promise them:

My Unconditional Love

My Heart

My Support

My Guidance

Here is a video I shared on Cinnamon, of my Mom and I dancing.

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I want to share this because this is a moment I will ALWAYS cherish! Just a simple dance with my Momma!!

It's all about taking just a few seconds out of your day to have a laugh, have a sing, have a dance! It doesn't matter how bad your day was, how bad you look, sing, or dance!! What matters is LETTING GO and just being YOU – and living IN THE moment!!

Spend time with the people who mean the most to you, and make sure you grasp the moments for as long as you can! It sure can change the course of your day!!❤️

“Let's untangle our mind, and set it free...”

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Forgiveness is a “big one”, and even though there are times when you just can't find it within yourself to forgive, forgiveness is so important for healing and for peace.

You may find yourself asking, “Why should I forgive when they truly hurt me?” “How can I ever forget their words?”, which in turn, have caused you so much pain.

Let's look at this quote by Najwa Zebian:

Today I decided to forgive you. Not because you apologized, or because you acknowledged the pain that you caused me, but because my soul deserves peace.

This quote says it all right there. We have to try letting go of what has caused us pain (even if it means forgiving silently in our mind), so that we can find peace within ourselves.

When you find yourself asking questions that tangle your mind, try to refocus your thoughts and energy to something or someone that brings joy to your life, and be grateful for the joys that are in your life, today in this moment!

It's not easy to just try to forget someone or their hurtful words/actions out of your mind, but if you keep rethinking the situation in your head, I guarantee – it will bring you down and only cause you more stress and sadness inside.

Here, I share my thoughts below ...

Don't you find it especially easy these days to simply send someone a text message, or an email? Technology has made it so easy for people to not face each other with issues that are troubling them, whether it be through social media or a simple message – and I believe that this is an easy way out. Now don't get me wrong, some text messages or emails are necessary and valid, but sometimes, it is better to just keep your thoughts to yourself until you are face to face with that person – which brings me to my next thought...

If you are not happy with someone or a situation, why not face them and have a decent conversation about it? If you are not happy with a current situation, why not face it and get to the root of it? Why let sadness, guilt, or anger form a messy web?

The facial expressions, the body language – they are all missed when sending a message; and therefore, how can one truly feel the true extent of the conversation? How can one truly know if the other person is being honest and understanding of the whole context put into place?

Simply put – if someone doesn't agree with me, or I don't agree with them – then isn't a face to face conversation better then a message or a phone call?

And the thing is, if someone hurts you with words – is it not felt emotionally and mentally to the point where you start questioning yourself as to whether or not you are the one who is wrong?

Is that really necessary when we start to have self-doubt about our own beliefs? When we lack self-confidence in our decisions? When we have to start questioning our own relationships with others?

What you set your morals on – what you truly believe inside your heart – molds you into the person you are today...

If you stay true to your beliefs, and know that you have done nothing wrong, then why are you being blamed for being “ridiculous” or “irrational”? Not very nice. Not very nice at all...

When you take a moment to look at a situation – emotional and mental pain is worse than physical pain. Physical scars eventually go away where emotional mental scars, aren't so easy. Words stick with you, making you feel unworthy and unloved. You see, you deserve to live your life without having to relive the pain that someone else has caused you. We all do...but how?

A quote by Maya Angelou ...

I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.

The part of this quote that really stands out to me is, “people will never forget how you made them feel.” You see, I am one of those people who just can't forget some things, especially when it feels like a knife just sliced through my heart. I can't. And maybe I take things too seriously, or maybe it's because I over-analyze – either way, it's just me and the way I am. And if you fit that description – know that it doesn't give anyone the right to take advantage of you, your family, or your situation.

Don't allow people to walk all over you or your beliefs. You are better than that, and deserve so much more. It may not happen overnight, but in time, you will find peace. Find a way to block out those negative thoughts whether it be going for a walk, reading a book, dancing, singing, writing – whatever it is!

It may be hard and take some time to forgive and forget, but believe in yourself that it will get better. ❤️

Below, I share a personal thoughts. If not subscribed to Coil, I hope you will consider joining this platform for just $5 /month, where you will have access to hidden content, such as below!

“Let's untangle our mind, and set it free...”

I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they're right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.

- Marilyn Monroe

*** Below, is my opinion and not intended to be taken as advice. If you are facing challenges, please consult someone who is able to offer assistance ***

Marilyn Monroe's full quote can pertain to so many things in life! I find her words to be truly inspiring and yes, they have helped me along my ways in my past, and even perhaps in my world, today...

Here's the thing – “sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together” – you may ask yourself, “Do they? Really?”

I say yes, but I have seen it in past events in my life. And that's the thing, it can pertain to anything, really, whether it be relationships, friendships, sickness, or even a job. It is all about life, period.

I've said it before, and I say it again – everything does happen for a reason - I truly believe this! And now – a new year, a new decade, a new beginning!!!

Let's break it down a bit here:

Relationships - What do you do when you are in an unhealthy relationship, one where you are not happy? Are you so content with your life that you pretend everything is okay? Are you so used to the way you are treated that it is okay to stay where you are? Or do you move on, in hopes that you will find love again ... ?

Friendships - Don't you find sometimes that some people just rub you off the wrong way? What do you do when you have tried to remain at peace? Do you just smile and pretend that everything is okay? Or do you stick up for your beliefs and let them go, continuing on with your life?

Sickness - How is it that you are faced with sickness, whether it be something as serious as cancer or something such as surgery, or even such as pain on a daily basis? How is it that you are faced with challenges that require assistance and guidance?

Jobs - Are you truly satisfied with your job? Can you do better or rather, do you deserve better? Are you staying in your job because of financial difficulties and because it's stable, even though you are not happy? Are you doing it for the wrong reasons? Or are you truly happy?

All these questions for these four areas of life. All these questions. And really, you ask, “What can I do about it?” But I say – “What are you going to do about it?“

Let me ask you this ...

What are you so scared of?

You see, you have a choice. You have decisions to make. And you have to do what makes sense to you, in that moment. You may not realize it at that time, but once you do, it all clicks together. It's like Marilyn Monroe says in a section of her quote above,

sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.

Are you blinded by love? Are you made promises that are never owned up to? Are you worried about what other people think of you? Are you worried that if you lose your job, you will lose everything? Are you, are you, are you? ...

Yes, you may find that life is crumbling around you, but you just don't know what is set for the next day! You just don't know what awaits you!! Keep trying and don't let fear hold you back!!

I stopped explaining myself when I realized other people only understand from their level of perception.

- Anonymous

Each and every one of us have our own perception of how we look at a situation. And as hard as you try, some people, just won't get where you are coming from.

Let it be OKAY.

LET. IT. GO.

Why, you ask? Because. The more you think about it, the more your mind gets all tangled up into a web of negative thoughts.

If people don't get it the first time, there's no need for you to keep trying to explain yourself. NO NEED!

YOU are what matters, so close your eyes. Deep breath. And focus your energy on the positive things in your life!

Try to stay strong. Believe in yourself and find your inner strength to keep pushing forward, one day at a time! ❤️

As you bring in the new year, remember who stood by you through the tough times. Appreciate the good times, and look forward to what is yet to come!!

- Sandra Scala, The Mind, Untangled.

Below for Coil Subscribers, I share personal notes which is in relation to each section of what I described above ...

“Let's untangle our mind, and set it free...”

When you look at yourself in the mirror, who do you see?

No wait. Who do you see, what do you see, and why do you see that? Is it a person who is so confident that whatever situation comes your way, you can handle it? Or are you someone who thinks. And thinks. And thinks. And you can't stop thinking because all of the questions you keep asking yourself cannot be answered.

Your mind gets foggy, and you find you can't see past the trees ...

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When you lie in bed at 3am in the morning, tossing and turning, what is it that is making your mind feel like it is about to explode? What is it that is making you think negative feelings like you don't know where to turn, or who to turn to?

Here's the thing . . . a lot of us have these feelings. And a lot of us have these feelings especially during the holiday season. The busyness of it, the dinners, the get-togethers, the last-minute shopping, the bills...

A lot of us juggle our lives around in order to make everything “work”. A lot of us strive to get our lives in order so that we can enjoy some family time or friendship time – or maybe even alone time – instead of scrambling over all the last minute things, in hopes to keep everyone happy.

The negative thoughts – - will make you feel less confident in yourself. You need to tuck those thoughts AWAY!

When you are standing in front of the mirror asking yourself “Who do you see?”, you are really questioning your self-worth...

You are questioning why the mind has to be so tangled and why can't things just go smoothly? I admit, I think this way ...

I ask myself why do I worry about every little thing?

And I answer myself – “Everything will be okay.”

I force the negative out of my mind, and refocus to the positive.

The thing is, for me, sometimes I can't stop my mind from thinking the way it does. For me, I find myself laying in bed taking deep breaths, and trust me – it helps. A lot, actually. But sometimes, it's not easy...

These past two weeks, have been a hell of a roller-coaster ride. One minute I was all happy, and the next minute I was in a mess of tears.

And so I ask myself, “Who do you see?”

I am someone who needs to feel secure in where I am and what I am doing. I am someone who doesn't ask for much, and who will give you the world, if you let me, but just don't hurt me. Just tell me everything will be okay. Even through the darkness ...

And so this I say ... for those feeling overwhelmed ...

When you get that second or minute or hour or day ... STOP. STOP and THINK.

Stop and think about what is important to you. Stop and think about what you need to do in order to keep yourself happy. Stop and think about what you want your next steps to look like ...

You NEED that time for yourself. You need that time to figure out where all the thoughts are coming from so that you can free yourself from feeling overwhelmed.

Life is going to definitely have its ups and downs.

Life is going to throw punches at you where you wonder how you are going to be able to keep moving forward. BUT, we have to stop and ask ourselves WHY. Why are we doing the things we are doing? What is it that keeps us pushing forward? What is our **motivation**??!

Find that reason, and work towards it. Remind yourself of it. And slowly, but surely, it really does get better!!

Take a deep breath when you find yourself in times of sadness. Let the tears flow if you have to. Assure yourself that you will be just fine, and that the person you see looking back at you in the mirror – is you! Strong, confident, beautiful, and wise. You've got this! ❤️

I always say everything happens for a reason.

You may not know what the reason is in that point of time, but you will in time. Somehow, it all works out.

“Let's untangle our mind, and set it free...”

Today is going to be a blog about my online family I met through Coil. My Coil Family, or, as many know, the Content Builders Club, created by Ken Melendez.

A special thank you to Ken, for all his hard work and dedication to keeping us all motivated and moving forward! And to the whole gang, for sticking together!

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It's amazing first of all, how fast we have all connected. With all of our differences, our time zones, and other life obligations, it is amazing how we can uplift each other and be there for each other like actual family. It is mind boggling to me how much I crave to come and write an article on Coil, aiming for every day (but sometimes hard because of other obligations)!

And then to receive such POSITIVE feedback!

It is amazing how from even through technology – we can feel how each one is feeling. For instance, when I was feeling overwhelmed a couple weeks ago, my “family” knew. They offered support, kindness, and compassion. It didn't matter to them that I was feeling down, they stuck by me. And when you really think about it, even though I needed my space, I also needed to keep in contact with them. Why? Because they are what keeps me writing. They are what motivates me. And in life, we meet people who “understand” us, and when our tangled minds just needs some time to untangle sometimes, they are understanding. Know what I mean?!

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On December 17th, I was invited to join in on a LiveStream by Patricia C., to surprise the others – Nick, Adam, and Lauren! I have never been in a Live Stream before, and holy moly, what a rush! Take some time to check it out on Patricia's YouTube Channel!

It was great, it was fun, and it was humorous – we all had a great time talking, sharing thoughts, and laughing!! Besides, isn't that what friendships are for?!

Also in the stream, my daughters joined for a bit, and that stream has now motivated my oldest to start blogging on Coil! You can find Julianna's articles here, where she focuses on friendships as she takes each day along her journey through high school!

I encourage you to check out these “Coilers” as well, other then the ones mentioned above ... I cannot go into great detail about each and every one at the moment, but I will say they all have amazing articles. Definitely worth taking the time to read if you are looking for motivation, crypto news (especially XRP), information on how to use Coil, games, comics, music, art, poetry, history, and so much more!!

Srdan

Dr. Change

Michele Lancia

Macropolo

Niels

TokyoLiving

Moncho

Miguel

Seth Stanley

Steven Sands

PaulC

Orlando Buck

Deyner

Mike Ashman

I would also like to mention Riley Q., as well as Dr. Chris, and Mancel, for their motivation and talent.

I am SO sorry to you all that I have not taken the time to share information about you individually, but I want you all to know that you have such talent and I am so happy that Coil brought us all together, so that we can “untangle our minds, and set it free...”!

A special thank you to Coil, for allowing us all to share our thoughts on this amazing platform! Thank you for making this experience fun, easy, and for encouraging us further by implementing the Boost Program. For those who aren't on the Boost Program yet, don't lose hope – share your talents with your friends and family, as well as this whole community! In time, you will accomplish your hopes and dreams more than you could imagine!!

Subscribers, below, you will find a little something more on a personal note...enjoy!

The state of being calm, peaceful, and untroubled.

She started up the path, where she knew the beautiful waterfall nestled into the woods, away from anyone to see from the road.

She went to her normal spot, where there was a stump that she sat on, underneath her favourite tree. She looked around, to make sure no one was there...all she needed, was her time alone. All she needed, was time to think. All she needed, was time to ponder all the questions that were going on in her mind.

Holding her mug of hot coffee in her hand, she found her favourite rock. You see, it wasn't just an ordinary rock. It had markings on it, and the way that it was situated in the earth, she could fit her mug on it flat. It was almost as if this spot was there for her specifically...

Looking around, she made sure nobody was there, as she pulled out her notebook, her diary. And her favourite pen. A blue pen, thin for her long, exquisite fingers as they gripped around it so perfectly.

She took a deep breath in – the beautiful sound of the water as it trickled freely to form a stream. The wind blowing softly, as the trees rustled and the leaves started to fall.

She then reached into her bag for her music. Her calming music so that she could untangle her mind, and set it free, as she let her pen do the magic. Here is what she wrote...

BLAZING SOUL

You stare into the fire.

Watching the blazing flames.

And you wonder what the meaning is.

Does it resemble your life?

A part of your soul?

A part of how you feel?

You realize that the fire blazing,

Is like your heart pounding.

Pounding until it feels like it’s going to explode.

As you think of the world around you.

And all that is happening.

Then, all of a sudden, it dies down.

The fire once blazed, ever so high.

Slowly shrinks. Lower and lower.

Just like the feeling in your heart does.

It’s like when you are in your worst situation.

When you have nowhere to turn.

Or no one to turn to.

The feeling is unimaginable,

and you feel yourself slipping away.

Deeper and deeper into a place unknown.

All you need is a reaching hand.

All you need is for that fire to pick up again.

For that spark to light up.

But you have no idea how.

How to find that spark again.

As you pray for your lost soul.

Praying only, for the best.

- Sandra Scala

As she stopped her writing, she looked up. She was shocked to realize that the sun was starting to go down. She was more shocked to realize that her paper had water marks on them, from the tears flowing down her rose-flushed cheeks.

She did not understand the feelings and emotions that had been running through her mind, until she came here, to her magical spot – to find peace and serenity.

She wiped away the tears, and let out a sigh.

In that moment, she felt as if a huge weight had been lifted off her shoulders. She knew in her mind now, that as long as she stayed positive, she would be okay. She realized that as long as she focused on the good, and did not allow her anxiety to feed her mind of all the negative “stuff”, she would be okay.

She realized then that she must accept the changes happening around her and look forward to these changes, rather than hiding from them. She realzied that not all changes are negative. Not all changes mean bad “new beginnings”.

All it means is that it takes a little more time. A little more patience.

All it means is that she needs to make more time for herself to do her writing. She needed this time so that she could find her inner peace and serenity.

This is a story by: ME – Sandra Scala, The Mind, Untangled.

I hope it inspires those who are finding themselves in a spot where they are unsure of their meaning in life. Where they find themselves in a spot where they feel overwhelmed.

There are ways to keep pushing forward, and for me, it's when I am alone in a quiet spot – where I can just enjoy the fresh air and the beauty around me. Where I can write down my thoughts and try to figure it all out ...

We all need that alone time sometimes. Find something to help YOU to keep pushing forward and

Below for subscribers only – a little about where this poem, “Blazing Soul”, originated from ...

“Let's untangle our mind, and set it free...”

She's standing on a line between giving up and seeing how much more she can take.

- Jamie Fisher

Ah yes, those moments when you feel so overwhelmed and you don't know which way to turn.

Those moments when you just want to pause everything in life, so you can calm down.

Do you ever get in those moments? When you just want to throw your hands up in the air and say, “forget it!”?

Listen, there's always going to be those moments, whatever the case may be; BUT, don't give up!! There's more to life than you think, and YOU are special!!

Whatever needs to get done, will get done, and in time, you will look back and say, “WOW, I did it!!” ... It may not happen overnight and most things don't happen just like that.

A friend of mine once told me – write down all the pros and cons on a piece of paper – and distinguish from there what your next steps are. Well, I pass that on to you – if you need time to think about a situation you are in, or what needs to get done – write down what your pros and cons. Write down your feelings and emotions. It does help, and it does put matters into perspective.

Remember, most things take time and patience – whatever it is, find the courage to keep happy! ❤️

I remember this time, when I was in Cyprus for my interview with Thekla Petridou. For those who haven't seen it yet, you can watch it here...

https://youtu.be/7MSUePWh5z4

For subscribers AND non-subscribers – if you haven't read my first post yet – my story about me – I encourage you to read it! Click on this link to be redirected - “Staying Strong, Even Through The Darkness”.

And below, I share a personal story about my "freedom" for the subscribers-only content...you will find pictures of what I bought to help me keep pushing forward! Subscribe to read more!!

“Let's untangle our mind, and set it free...”

“some day”, you think...

But it just simply cannot always be “some day”! 😲

I think we get so wrapped up in our every day responsibilities, and we keep pushing our needs and wants aside, our ideas. We keep saying, “It's okay, some day I will get to it.”

But seriously, when will that some day be? When it's too late?

Why not go on that trip that you have been wanting to do? Because of the money? Well, the money will come and go either way, so why not enjoy life while you can?

When are you going to find that new job? When the one you really want is gone because you felt you should be where you are because of comfort, stability? But then why are you staying a spot that makes you miserable?

Or what about that person you have had your eye on? The one you want to settle down with? You just say, “Some day”? But then you are missing on the days you can make memories with that person and you could miss out on the best thing that ever happened to you.

Some day. Some day.

Some day comes and goes.

Stop making excuses, and aim for your goal today! Because some day may just be too late.

You've got what it takes and you've got it within you to do what you want to do, so take those baby steps, and figure it out! You can do whatever you set your heart and mind to – remember that!!!

Overcome your fears. Deep breath. Keep going. You've got this!!! ❤️

“Let's untangle our mind, and set it free...”

Don't let negative and toxic people rent space in your head. Raise the rent and kick them out!

- Robert Tew

I believe that at some point in our lives, we encounter people who tend to bring us down, or “pour” their negativity unto us. The person who is unhappy in their relationship. The person who is unhappy in their job situation. The person who is unhappy with their friendships.

In the midst of all this, you start feeling guilty and you get trapped into believing that you can help those people out. You are their friend/spouse/family, and you will stand by them, because that's what we are supposed to do, right? You feel that you need to be there for them...

Yet at the same time, how much can you do for them if they are unwilling to recognize their own unhealthy ways? How healthy is this for your mentality? For your emotional state of mind? For your own close relationships? Especially when you have your own life to live with your long list of responsibilities?

You know, it's one thing to be there for the people you care about, but it's another thing when boundaries are crossed. When that person is just pushing it a little too much and stepping over your boundaries, not respecting your relationships or life choices. When that person every time you see them, leaves you feeling emotionally drained and exhausted.

You find yourself starting to feel dissatisfied and questioning all the little things in your own life, and seriously, where does that leave you? ...

In the same spot as them?

Unhappy?

A toxic person – the person who only talks about the “bad” things in their life. The person who is never satisfied with what is right in front of them. The person who takes advantage of others and manipulates you into thinking that you are the one with the problem, and easily so much more...

It happens so fast when you get trapped in a toxic relationship, without even realizing it – until it has gotten to the point where your head feels like it is going to explode.

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Sure, we all have our moments – our bad days. But there's a certain boundary – there's a certain point when you have to draw the line, and separate yourself away from those types of people. There is also a certain point in life when you have to let some people go, so that they can live their lives, with the ones they care about.

You see, I believe we each have that person who we open up to and talk to about our emotional feelings. Our jobs. Our financial situations. Just about everything in general. If in a relationship, then it is only natural that you are going to talk to your partner about all the little things, right? I mean, why wouldn't you?

The thing is – you can always do something about your situation – it is your choice, and your decision.

Is it better for your mental health to “kick” the people who cause you stress and anxiety out, just like the unwanted thoughts? In my opinion, absolutely!

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It may not be easy to let someone you thought meant the world to you, go...it may be sad; BUT, questions to ask yourself – if you allow those people to bring you down, when will YOU be happy with yourself?

What happens when a conversation just didn't “get” anywhere, how much more can any of you really try? How can you find peace within yourself to let it go, if it is constantly in the back of your mind?

Take a second to notice who matters to you. Who brings you joy and happiness. Who helps make you a better person. At the end of the day, YOU have to make YOU happy. No one else can do it for you.

All you can do, is eliminate the toxicity in your head and in your life, and keep pushing forward! ❤️

“Let's untangle our mind, and set it free...”