Being honest may not get you many friends but it will always get you the right ones.

- John Lennon

BECAUSE:

☑️ Being honest, is trusting!

☑️ Being honest, is sharing your thoughts!

☑️ Being honest, is being YOU!

If you can't be honest with yourself or others, then how can you live an honest life?

Do you ever get those thoughts that you always ask too many questions? When you feel like you are repeating yourself, but you are only doing it because you want some answers?

When they are only questions because you are trying to get your point across about how you feel? When they are only questions so that you can make sense of a situation that is all tangled in your mind? And when they are only questions because you simply do not understand?

Sometimes, how you see things are very different as to how other people see things, and guess what? That's OKAY, because we all have a right to our own opinion. If you are not open and honest about a situation, how can it get resolved? Are we expected to keep our thoughts bottled in, until we explode? Are we expected to keep our opinions to ourselves? Are we expected to keep wondering ... ?!

No. No. No. This is NOT good because then the anxiety builds up – frustration. anger. sadness. Yes, yes, this has happened to me in my past, and yes, because of it – I have lost friendships. Yes, because of it – past relationships have failed. I admit it, and I have dealt with it. However; at the same time, some of those friendships are ones that I did not need in my life. Some of those friendships, brought me down – causing my anxiety to get out of whack – causing me to question my own abilities, my own thoughts, my own self-worth. They have molded me into who I am today.

Heck – even past relationships. I have been in that spot where the unwanted thoughts crept in. And because of that, I now have my insecurities about friendships and relationships. Because of that, walls were built up, and it is hard for me to trust sometimes. But at the same time, I have now surrounded myself with people who understand, and I have let the ones who don't understand – go...

At the end of the day, it is good to keep open-minded, but it is also acceptable that if in your heart something tells you to move on, then trust yourself to do so. Take the baby steps to help accept yourself and what life has to offer you. There is always another door, another way, and it may not be the first door you open, but you must keep pushing yourself to move forward.

**Remember – communication is crucial in any form of relationship.**

People cannot read each other's minds, so we have to share and express our feelings and emotions. Especially when it comes to friendships and relationships, and to those people who are part of our every day life!

So, TRUST in yourself to be open and honest about how you feel and what you are thinking. Even though it may hurt in the moment and for some time – the anxious feelings, and the crappy emotions that go along with it – WILL go away!

In time and with patience, it will better. It will better. You've got this!! ❤️

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What is normal? How can you look at someone and determine whether or not they are normal? Many people deal with underlying issues that can't be seen by just looking at someone. There's no such thing as normal.

- Sandra Scala

I can't stress this more enough. During one of my talks, I stressed on “what is normal?”

Ha! Here is an example – just because I can't see out of the corner of my eyes, doesn't mean I “can't see” or “don't know”. It doesn't mean that you should (or have the right to) take advantage of me OR my vision. Really, I should say, “I'm not stupid.”

Here is another example – the child with Asperger's – a child who truly does understand how people think and react towards them because of their differences. Just because they may not be able to voice their feelings or be engaged in conversation the same as others, does not mean you should (or have the right to) take advantage of them. Really, they should say the same thing as well, “I'm not stupid.”

But here's the thing – I don't like the word “stupid”. I think it is mean, rude, disrespectful, and unkind. I simply don't like the word “stupid”. I was always taught growing up not to say that word, and that is something I have carried on in my family, with my children. That is one of the many things I am grateful for that my parents taught me.

And maybe this is why I spoke about “normality” – because I am passionate when it comes to people being taken advantage of, and I am passionate about children and adults who have “underlying issues that can't be seen by just looking at someone”. Nobody should be looked upon or treated as “stupid”! No man, woman, child, youth, elderly – NOBODY!!

This post is inspired by my children, and also what I “see” in life. It's as simple as this – don't judge. Don't take advantage of people and their “disabilities” or “conditions” or “situations”. Don't take advantage of their “issues”.

You may have no idea what that person has been through. It's not nice. And EVERYONE needs to hear this. We ALL have feelings. We ALL have emotions. You can't just look at someone and judge – before you do, think about your words AND actions.

An amazing quote by Morgan Freeman:

Attacking people with disabilities is the lowest display of power I can think of.

Show kindness...give people a chance to be who they are, and try to understand before you judge – whether they are “normal” or not.

To all the people who are having a rough time – remember, you are special and no less than anyone else! Stick up for yourself, and your beliefs – you are worth it!!! ❤️🙏

You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.

- Maya Angelou

“Let's untangle our mind, and set it free...”

Today, I am going to share a couple of “vehicle” stories, and how they have taught me a little about life … ! It is funny how even the little things that we tend to remember – good and bad – help us to appreciate life in this moment!

Life Predicaments:

We must be willing to let go of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us

- Joseph Campbell

I remember when I was learning how to drive, my mother was teaching me how to park – of all places, in a busy parking lot between two cars. So, I took her up on it, and decided to back in…

Well, my parking job wasn’t going quite as I had planned, and I was stuck! Stuck between two cars, and I was starting to panic!! My mother said to me, “Sandy, you got yourself into this predicament, now get yourself out!!” I remember that moment as if it was yesterday!! That is one of the best things in life I’ve learned from my mother. It helped me to calm down, gather my thoughts, and figure a way to “get out”!

The truth is, life is going to have its ups and downs. You see, there will be “predicaments” in life, where we all expect for something to happen a certain way, only to realize that change can happen just as fast, causing it to turn the opposite direction.

This may cause disappointment, and perhaps resentment, in some situations. HOWEVER, we need to not expect so much in life; to not make too many plans in our head for the future. We need to allow ourselves to accept the changes that are “waiting for us”.

I’ve always believed that everything happens for a reason; SO, here it is:

LEARN

LIVE

LOOK

For in this moment, we have no idea what is in store for us!!

Just take one day at a time, and be thankful.

Appreciate your time, with the people you love.

Accept ALL changes that life brings you. ❤️

Coil subscribers, for you below – another one of my “moments”

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Sometimes you have to move on without certain people. If they're meant to be in your life, they'll catch up.

- Mandy Hale

Everything happens for a reason, and sometimes, some people just don't understand your situation. But that's okay. It's not up to them to understand. It's up to you to know your situation and to be happy with it. To make the changes necessary to make YOU happy, if need be.

Remember – you are who you are. You are GOOD enough. And if some people don't understand, don't dwell on trying to justify your life for them. It has to be for YOU and YOUR happiness, your ease of mind!

In my past, I have had people come and go. But, I have also learned from these people. Sure – my anxiety creeps up when I am reminded of the hurt I have been through, BUT, at the end of the day, I try not to let my mind get all tangled. I try not to let the negative thoughts boggle my mind.

POSITIVE THOUGHTS = POSITIVE OUTCOME

So what do I do? I take deep breaths, I re-shift my focus by listening to music. I take a time out, and I avoid people for a bit, until I am ready to chat. I avoid people only because I need to find what the trigger is. I need to understand my own feelings and emotions. My friends on Telegram – CBC – have been an amazing support, confirming that it didn't matter whether I was down or not – they were there for me. YIKES, right?! ... you ALL know who yous are, and I am so thankful for your support!! ❤️

Here's the thing – every person deserves to feel special, appreciated, wanted, and loved. Every person truly deserves to be happy...

Happiness within spreads happiness elsewhere.

Find and make the time to talk, listen, explore...do what you need to do, to find your **sparkle**! Trust yourself, trust your instincts, and keep pushing forward! ❤️

Coil Subscribers – below is another separate entry – non-subscribers, subscribe now to have a glimpse and enjoy not only my subscriber content only section, but ALL of the amazing bloggers on this platform!

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I am holding a Charity Fundraiser for The Women's Centre Grey Bruce Inc., and will be donating new bedding for the women and children seeking shelter “as they build safe and sustainable lives free from abuse and violence.”

I am doing this because here, we “untangle our mind, and set it free...” and that means offering support, kindness – showing love and compassion, even through the dark times.

I want to do something that is helpful and kind towards society. There are many women and children who are abused and have nowhere to turn, and it is sad to know this. No woman should be abused – whether it is emotionally, mentally, physically, or sexually. Abuse is NOT acceptable in today's society, and here at The Women's Centre, the women and children can strive to rebuild their lives safely with support, finding the strength to keep pushing forward.

I will provide to the Women's Centre, in conjunction with my husband's store – Sheet Sets, Sherpas (60x80 throw blanket), and Comforters! The cost of a Sherpa is $15, Sheet Sets are $20, and Comforter Sets are $40 (all in CAD).

Every little bit helps. ANY act of kindness goes a LONG way!!! Please join me in helping this organization provide to these women and children in need!!

For every $100 I receive, I will be donating a set of hats and mitts to The Women's Centre, out of my own pocket!!

I will be accepting donations up until December 5th, through e-transfer at theminduntangled@gmail.com, and will be visiting the Centre on Saturday, December 7th, where I will share a post of the donations!!

I will also be posting progress updates of the incredible kindness within The Mind, Untangled. community!!! ❤️

Please share and spread the word! Let's do this!! 🙏

“Let's untangle our mind, and set it free...”

Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance.

- Eckhart Tolle

Today and every day, let us be thankful for our family, our health, and for the people who bring us happiness!

I want to wish a Happy Thanksgiving to all my American friends! And to all my friends and followers around the world – may your day be filled with love, gratitude, and kindness!

Gratitude: The quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness.

Showing appreciation and kindness, goes a long way. It takes just a second to say thank you, or to do something helpful towards someone else!

I take this time now to thank you all for your support, kindness, and love! ❤️ I hope that if you have been struggling, I have made some difference in your days, for the positive!!

I want to share a story with you today. It is one that I have known about for quite some time and is shared many times on the Internet. This is the version I know of (author unknown) and maybe you have seen it, maybe not – but, I find it so meaningful and so, so very true!

**Bottle of Full Rocks**

A philosophy professor stood before his class and had some items in front of him. When class began, wordlessly he picked up a large empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with rocks right to the top, rocks about 2” diameter.

He then asked the students if the jar was full.

They agreed that it was.

So the professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles, of course, rolled into the open areas between the rocks. The students laughed.

He asked his students again if the jar was full?

They agreed that yes, it was.

The professor then picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else.

“Now,” said the professor, “I want you to recognize that this is your life. The rocks are the important things – your family, your partner, your health, your children – anything that is so important to you that if it were lost, you would be nearly destroyed.

The pebbles are the other things in life that matter, but on a smaller scale. The pebbles represent things like your job, your house, your car.

The sand is everything else. The small stuff. If you put the sand or the pebbles into the jar first, there is no room for the rocks.

The same goes for your life. If you spend all your energy and time on the small stuff, material things, you will never have room for the things that are truly most important. Pay attention to the things that are critical in your life. Play with your children. Take your partner out dancing. There will always be time to go to work, clean the house, give a dinner party and fix the disposal.

Take care of the rocks first – the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just pebbles and sand.”

___________________

Have a beautiful day!❤️

**- Sandra**

“Let's untangle our mind, and set it free...”

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Everyone has bad days. It does not mean we are weak. It means we are human. Sometimes, we just need a break. And that is absolutely OKAY...

- Sandra Scala

Yes, we do all have those moments. And perhaps, it feels like nobody understands. But guess what? It doesn't matter what other people think!! Reach out to the one person who does understand.

At the end of the day, what matters is that YOU take a break for yourself. YOU deserve time for yourself to rejuvenate, because if you don't, exhaustion happens and that's not good – for you, your health, or your loved ones! So what can you do?

**Eliminate.**

Eliminate the things that are causing you more stress!

Sometimes, I find that technology gets to me – seeing those around me on it and even myself having to be on it. But you know what? It is OKAY to put that technology away once in a while! It is okay to put the technology away so that you can focus on your priorities.

This is the thing – there are so many people out there who are lost, who are seeking help, guidance, and even friendships. I think that sometimes – they just are too ashamed or too embarrassed to ask for extra help, so they turn to social media for hope. Soon enough though, it can lead to anxiety, further into depression and then, because they are feeling so low, where do they end up? Why did it have to get to that point?

If you know someone who just needs to take a break – offer them relief – offer to help them, even if it means listening. And seriously listen ... it sure goes a long way!

Below for subscribers only are more of my thoughts, quotes and a video! Subscribe to read on ...

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You cannot judge what should bring others joy, and others cannot judge what should bring you joy.

- Alan Cohen

Even the smallest of things, if they bring you joy – then do them. If it calms you down, do it!

Whether it is drawing, singing, dancing, writing, going for a walk, or taking trips...it's your life, and you should do what makes YOU happy!

My purest joy are my children, my family. I have had people wonder how I can do it with so much attention needed and so many things to do. The thing is, raising my children is what makes me happy. Watching them accomplish the little things in life is what makes me happy.

As a person losing their vision, I want to see and experience as much as I can with my children. I want to see them grow. I want to see their smiles, hear their laughs, feel the warmth of their hugs, and taste the salty tears from their eyes.

I want to experience all of their emotions and share with them the necessities of life, the joys of life, and what it entails.

It saddens me when I see how children are judged based on their actions, their looks, the way they speak. It hurts when I see and hear other children laughing at children who are enjoying something they love doing.

I ask myself, “what is this world coming to?”. I mean, seriously, if my child enjoys climbing a tree, then why not let her do it? If she falls, she will fall – she will pick right back up and try again. I have seen it, and I also see how she has no fear. I see pure joy in her eyes, because that's what she loves doing.

If a child wants to sit and colour, and that brings them joy, then that is great! It does not mean that another child has to judge them for doing that.

There is no obligation to do what other people do. At then end of the day, you do what makes you happy. What makes you calm and what makes you feel at peace within yourself – that is what you need to focus on.

Another example – if an adult is wearing clothing that you do not agree with – are you going to be so quick to judge to say, “Oh my, look at what they are wearing!”? And why? Really, it is none of your business, and as long as that person feels good in what they are wearing, then how does that affect you? Why are you so quick to judge?

Be mindful of others and don't be so quick to judge! The fact is – something that may bring you joy, may be the total opposite of what brings another person joy. ❤️

Below is something a bit extra for Coil Subscribers only...

“Let's untangle our mind, and set it free...”

Don't let the noise of other's opinions drown out your own inner voice.

- Steve Jobs

There is SO much truth to this quote. It really makes you sit back and think about it. You see, people tend to rely on other people's opinions – whether they are good or bad. But the fact is, you need to follow what your gut tells you, and what your heart tells you!

Not everyone knows what is best for you and your situation, and therefore, you should not rely solely on what they interpret to be the “best” thing for you.

Here is an example in my situation. I never really knew much about Cryptocurrency. Okay well, I never even heard of it, until Mark told me about it – in which he had heard about it from his son!

Since 2016, Mark has been studying, watching YouTube videos, following tweets, the news – pretty much anything and everything about Cryptocurrency he could get his hands on!! Me, I listened. Ever so patiently...!!

To be honest, I really didn't understand it AT ALL, but I listened to his ideas, and encouraged him to continue with what he was doing and share his ideas with me. And it is because of him that I learned about Coil and the Content Builders Club (through Telegram).

Why am I telling you this?

Because – since I have joined the CBC, I have learned a tremendous amount of information about Coil and XRP. I have met amazing and interesting people in the CBC. And because of that, I have been pushed to write daily. Pushed to speak about what I believe in, and share my thoughts.

This type of noise, has helped me to improve.

I am grateful for being featured on Coil's Featured Content, as well as in the Coil Staff Picks. And, an added bonus – the BOOST program! You can find out about all of this information on the Coil main page.

What an honour and what a sense of gratitude!! Such positive vibes all around the Coil Community and XRP Community; hence, the reason to subscribe!! *wink*

Another quote I would like to share ... by Les Brown:

Other people's opinion of you does not have to become your reality

Below I will share some more thoughts with regards to these quotes, but for Subscribers only ...

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Have you ever wondered what hurts the most: saying something and wishing you had not, or saying nothing, and wishing you had?

- Margaret Atwood

Sometimes – it's good to remain silent, but sometimes – some things really do need to be said. When you voice your opinion, you are standing up for yourself and your beliefs!

When something is so important to you, then I say – stand up for what you believe in! If it's something that isn't going to matter in the long run – then just try to let it be.

We are all faced with hurt and pain at some point in our lives; BUT, we can overcome that by taking baby steps one step at a time, allowing them to lead us towards self-love, confidence, and happiness.

Remember – learn to realize when to speak, and when not to speak. There is a time for everything ...

BE strong, STAY strong ... you can do it!!! ❤️

“Let's untangle our mind, and set it free...”