This post is for female readers, but of course, guys can read this as well, maybe you'll learn something new as well. I feel like we're awakening in this era that we're in a time, the younger generations. We're waking up to a lot of things, and we're getting sick of the old paradigms of those old ways of doing things, especially when it comes to dating. There's a lot of amazing, powerful women out there, who are settling for less than what they deserve, and you probably used to be one of those women. You used to have a warped sense of what it meant to be a woman! What did it mean to be empowered? I know this message is not going to resonate with everyone. But I hope that you will take it!
High-value woman!
What it means to be a high-value woman? A woman who knows her worth! who is strong! Who is in her femininity. I don't mean femininity in like you have to be girly-girly! And you have to dress a certain way, or you have been like a perfect Holly-Wood star, we love Holly-Wood stars! But you don't have to be anything!
You have to be uniquely you!
However, you have to know your worth, your standards, and you're not afraid to talk and show your standards. You're not scared to stand up for your beliefs, for who you are, for what you want, and you're not settling for less!
Now, we have a lot of women that sell themselves short, and if you have been heartbroken in the past? If you've been hurt? If you have been used whatever situation you have been in in the past. You can change yourself and become a strong, amazing divine goddess.
All women and all men, we all have what's called the divine feminine and divine masculine. We all have masculine energy and feminine energy! What's important is that women balance them out!
Here we are not against feminism! And we should not take that way at all! We are very grateful for our rights as women, and for women who have championed this in the past!
We have been taught for so long to shut away our femininity, shut away what makes us, and gives us our essence in our beauty and our value. There's a lot of power in being a woman! Not only are we able to bring souls on to the earth, and are we creators in that sense of being able to create life.
Women have such powerful healing energy, and our energy is sacred! It's divine a lot of times we throw that away by sleeping around, and I'm not slut-shaming at all!
Every woman shouldn't give herself away to anyone who will have her, or anyone who will show her attention. We have to be clear about what we want, and we have to believe that what we want is out there.
I don't care what you look like?
I don't care about your financial status?
I don't care what has gone on in the past?
You at your body, you are a beautiful divine goddess, and you have this value within you. It is god-given. It's almost like when you're very powerful. People want you to feel weak. So, you're not a threat when you're powerful, and people see your potential. They try to make you feel smaller. The media is all about controlling us. The media wants us to live in fear, wants us to feel like something's wrong with us! No, we are the universe we are part of the world.
Women and men!
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I see so many women that are constantly nagging chasing after men, giving their all to men, and not receiving anything in return. And I'm not saying at all that men are the enemy! I appreciate and love men as well, but if you are trying to level up in life, you must put yourself first, and your needs first. You must realize that you're. Catch that you are, this goddess this Queen on her throne, that is how you have to approach every situation in life, whether it's in business, in relationships, in dealing with other people. Never forget your Worth! Don't care what anyone has said or will say about you! How people have made you feel!? How many times you've been cheated on, or heartbroken! You are the one who decides your Worth!
Your true beauty is your true worth!
Its true women put a lot of there worth in there external. We feel that! We need to tear down other women for us to feel more elevated, and we don't have to work together! We have to left each other up, and we don't have to compete by looks. We must not look a certain way somewhere guys will like us or will have whatever. It is that you want you to don't; you have to become real to you!
We're born ourselves!
Well, we're born we are born whole, we're born ourselves were born confident, we're born knowing. We don't have insecurities! As a baby, your only fears are the fear of being dropped or not eating. At our body, we are confident, beautiful beings, but what happens is that through life, we're conditioned either through our parents, or through schooling, or negative experiences, bad relationships heartbreak. So, we're separating ourselves! It's like we're whole when we are born, but we begin to separate our self, our true self, and our false self.
I'm not you! You are not me!
They says you're not good enough. So, we say I'm not good enough. I need to step away from Who I am; I need to be more like this. So then, you change yourself, and you go this way, in this way, and what happens, is we end up with significant separation between our true self, the self that God wants you to be! Then the self that we are here on earth, that we are here with our friends, with our family with society! So, this is the separation here that creates depression, and it creates that feeling that you're not enough, that creates that feeling that something's wrong with you!
You are perfect; you are beautiful just as you are!
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How do we step into our power? How do we become a high value?
You don't have to become like me or anyone else. You need to become more you, more of who you are. And if you don't know who you are? If you're not sure about what it means to be you? Do some soul-searching, allow yourself to live your life on your terms for a little bit. Step out of your comfort zone, do things you fear, and try new experiences. That's how we get to know who we truly are! We create a lot of who we are as well! Especially as you grow as you're changing through life, you evolve in different ways, but what's important is that you allow yourself to express yourself and to be as uniquely you as possible.
A lot of women are scared that they're not going to get married by a certain age. That they're not going to have a certain thing, or that they feel that they have to have these other external circumstances to feel like they're worthy! Let me tell you something. You have to get rid of the notion that you're not as worthy as you are right now! Because we all have things in our past that we're not happy about. We've made mistakes we've settled for Less. A lot of us have insecurities, but what's important is that you show up and you be a goddess, and you stand up for what it is that you want, and not feel like you have to explain it to anyone.
The strength of a woman doesn't come from external circumstances, or her money, or her clothes or whatever guy she's dating, or who she's dating. It's in her essence, and it's in that uniqueness.
So, number one, I want you to begin to own your uniqueness or what makes you different. Don't feel like you have to dress like anyone else. Don't feel like you have to present yourself, or act like anyone else to be successful, or happy, or fulfilled. What will bring you fulfillment my love is being more you, it's allowing yourself to be and express yourself.
You need to allow yourself, not putting your power into other people's hands and putting it back into your own hands. Taking back your power and realizing where that power stems from, and that is from within. So, own your flaws, own your weaknesses.
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If you have to work on becoming self-aware, you can make a list of pros and cons or your strengths and weaknesses, and work to fix your vulnerabilities. If you feel like they're holding you back, or you can accept them for what they are, but what's also important is that you get into your strengths. Because we all have advantages, we all have unique talents and abilities that nobody else has. So, your job and this is for anyone, not just women! Your role on earth is to amplify those strengths, use your talents.
Wasted talent is the worst thing in life, wasted strength, and wasted energy. So, take all of those beautiful things that make up your soul in your essence. Put them towards your projects, put them towards your work, put them towards starting a business, starting into your passion, going for the things you want to do, and understand that your path in life doesn't have to look like anyone else's path. It just has to make sense to you your life! It doesn't have to make sense or look pretty good to your friends, on social media, your neighbors, your co-workers, or anyone else.
You check in with your life, and you say is this leading or my decisions leading me towards who I want to be! or what I want to create in my life. If not, let's change something, we can go in a different direction, and that's another thing, don't be afraid of being judged! Don't be afraid of being told that you're not good enough, or people putting you down on that!
When people throw negative energy at you, it's not because you're not good enough, or because you're not worthy, or because you need to shut down and not do what you need to do. If you're getting negativity thrown at you!? It's because you're doing something right, you're breaking the rules, you're shaking up the box. because if you continue living your life as you have, it's just been calm waters, smooth sailing. You're never gonna learn. You're never going to grow! So, when the tough times come, you say this is what I'm built.
Women, we're told we're emotional!
For us women, we're told we're emotional; we're all these different things, emotions are beautiful, emotions are what make us human. But don't ever think that you're weak! You are not weak! You are that Queen sitting on a throne! You are you have that Cleopatra energy in you.
Why do you think for centuries as women have been kept covered up at home? Why do you feel whole societies have not allowed women to rule? Because they've been afraid of our power! They've been afraid of who we are!
Today in the modern era, we're still being told need a dress sexy! You need to do this, and you have to have this type of body! Or this type of clothes! Be this age, have this type of husband or this type of partner, or whatever to be worthy! That's all false. That is still society trying to control our power.
how do we take back our power?
You are allowing ourselves to live our lives on our terms. Stop waiting for permission, stop chasing men. Because when you become a high-value woman, that woman who knows her worth, and not settling for any less. All these men are partners, all of that you will attract, and a lot of people will come to you. Your femininity that is your strength doesn't be afraid of being a feminine woman. Femininity is so strong, and when you're feminine, you force men to level up to become more in their beautiful masculine energy, and you will complement each other. Because we need the feminine and the masculine to balance each other out, it is not about gender or anything like that, we all carry feminine and masculine, but don't hide your femininity, don't hide those beautiful things about being a woman.
It's fine to be tough, but don't feel that you have to have a hard outer shell, and you can't open your heart, or you can't be vulnerable! You can be you. You can have beautiful, loving emotions. But you're not going to allow somebody to come in and take your energy. You're not going to love somebody who hasn't earned you to go in and take from you. You must be earned, and you are the catch, you are the prize! You simply just have to be in your femininity. Loving being in nature, creating whether that's art, making business, having and raising children, taking care of children the animals, designing clothes, jewelry, or whatever creative ventures that you can have.
Creation can mean so many different things, but what's important is that you find what makes you creative, what makes you feel empowered, and what makes you think that.
Take it simple!
Life's all about the problem. We're told you have to do this. You have to do that. But we don't have to do anything! If you're not happy in a situation!? Get out of it. Don't keep putting up with people or things that don't fulfill you. If you've been cheated on leave, nothing hurts femininity more than being hurt and abused either mentally emotionally or physically.
Keep changes!
Change your routines, start working out more, get in shape because a healthy body means a healthy mind, and vice versa. Work on your body and on your mindset or what makes you feel empowered and beautiful, not to impress others! Listen to the music that makes you happy! not music that's feeding the ego, or feeding the scarcity mindset.
Stop chasing people, if people don't answer your texts, okay bye bye!! When somebody ghosts you, you're not going to text and be like, why aren't you texting me!? Why did you not let him go!? That's another thing! Let people who want to walk out, let them go! Don't ever beg for somebody back, especially if they have disrespected you and shown you over that they don't see your value. You don't have to prove your value to anyone else. You have to know the value for yourself and show up that value by what you accept from others and what you don't accept.
Speak to yourself positively!
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Everyone speaks to himself! When you do, stop talking negatively to yourself! Beautiful, you don't need to talk negatively to yourself, it's like the relatable thing like I'm so ugly whatever. Try to sound relatable because your subconscious is listening to you. Your subconscious is picking up on all those things, and whatever is put into your subconscious becomes your belief system. So, you can start changing your belief system around yourself now, if you're struggling with confidence if you're struggling with seeing your worth in your value.
Just start by looking at yourself in the mirror without any makeup on, even without any clothes on. Get comfortable with your body, get pleased with the way your body looks right now as it is, and love your body right now as it is. Even if you would like to lose a few pounds, it's okay; we can always improve our bodies or love our bodies more. That's all we have to get comfortable with this beautiful body of yours, and not just for the way it looks. What it does for you is how it keeps you alive; how it keeps you walking or moving! You're talking or singing. All these beautiful things our bodies can do! That is so much more than how it looks, my lovely! You are more than your looks. Your worth is from within your beauty. It's all from within from how you treat people from, how you treat yourself for, how you talk about life, and talk about yourself. That is your beauty, that is your worth, that is your power!
Change your dialogue!
Start to change your inner dialogue and stop saying; I always get cheated on saying. I am worthy of a fantastic, loving partnership with the person of my dreams. I am worthy of all the beauty that this universe has to offer, I am worthy. I am beautiful, and I am strong, and I am compassionate, and I am loving!
Don't compare yourself
When you look at yourself without makeup without all these things, tell yourself “wow” you are freaking gorgeous, you're amazing and don't be afraid to feel yourself – don't be afraid of lifting other women, that's another thing! Always seek to raise your fellow woman always do it because no matter how sexy she may be on the outside. You don't know what she's dealing with it. You don't know what she's dealing with within you. Can lift yourself by lifting all the other women around you. You don't have to bring down anyone to make yourself feel better! That is not a high value! You will feel more beautiful when you seek out the beauty and other people and other things and don't compare yourselves.
Don't compare yourself either. We're all special and beautiful! When you allow yourself own that uniqueness, talk to yourself positively, allow yourself to feel yourself, to express yourself, to show your power, your intelligence, that is when you truly become powerful.
Use your mind as your tool. Your mind is not your enemy! You are not your depression. You are not your anxiety. You are not any of your mental health issues. This comes from somebody who has dealt with a lot of stress and depression in the past, and those things don't define you.
Shop in your mind to grow your mind, open your horizons, stop judging, and looking at everything so negatively. Start creating beauty in your world, because this is your world. You don't have to belong to the rules. you can shape your reality and set your standards high
The wrong way!
seeking to look better than anyone else, or have more than anyone else or have more guys than anyone else is a wrong approach and working on that is invaluable!
Conclusion
Stop chasing, stop wasting energy on anyone, and stop thinking that by giving and giving and giving you're going to have someone like you. No, that's not how it is! A queen never chases! A queen sits on her throne, and has to be won! A queen waits for others to prove to her that they are good enough for her!
By being a queen, you will attract the king! Today make a promise to yourself that you're not going to fall back into the old habits and mindset. You're not going to fall in line with what society wants for you! That you're going to be your unique self! You're not going to die alone! You're going to see as you step into that feminine energy and Queen energy everything else in life is going to level up with you! Your finances and your relationships.
So, go out and enjoy life, live your life to its fullest and know that everything is in your favor!
Life is not happening to you; it's happening for you. You are not powerless, my dear, you are the whole universe! You are a beautiful being. So start showing up, like it, and never settle for anything less!
Thanks for reading...
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