Dear Miss Andi...

Mastodon's foremost agony aunt/advice columnist

So, I'm still figuring out when and how often to publish this thing, and at the moment I don't get enough questions to publish weekly, and I want to be able to spend time researching any question I get sufficiently. Thus I'm going to switch to publishing at midnight GMT on the third Sunday of each month. We'll see how it goes! πŸ’š

Additionally, sorry this one is so late! It's taken awhile to get two questions for it!

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Hello again! Still sticking to those new year's resolutions? You can do it! You're two whole weeks in already! Or maybe you're doing a vegan or dry January? Lots of respect if you are; personally, I'm quitting smoking this year and figured doing that while stone sober might've been a bridge too far!

This week, our readers ask for suggestions navigating a straight monogamous relationship when one of the members has decided to transition, and another about navigating the minefield that is trans relationships when you're a cisgender person.

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We're one week into the Roarin' (20)20's so hope y'all have dusted off your exercise machines and are keeping to your resolutions! πŸ’š

This week we're talking about what happens when family go a bit overboard with the β€œthey” pronouns and also how to talk to your doctor about sometimes-embarrassing issues arising from a propensity for butt stuff.

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Hi, I'm Andi N. Fiziks, or more commonly known, Miss Andi. πŸ’š

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I'm a journalist and photographer living in London, UK. This is my blog!

The main purpose of this blog is to provide a space for me to post responses to my β€œDear Miss Andi...” advice column, where I respond to questions sent to me by friends and followers on Mastodon. I feel there's a serious need for more queer, polyam advice columnists because we have some of the most complex love-lives of anyone on the planet and very few people are adequately able to speak from experience on these topics. Plus I just like being helpful! 😊

If you have any questions, please feel free to DM me on Mastodon, on ask anonymously on my CuriousCat page. Please provide a cute pseudonym because it makes responding more fun!

I try to do a single post covering as many questions as possible every Sunday. Please subscribe via email (or follow @andi@nuklearfiziks.com on Mastodon) to make sure you don't miss a single one!

If you're here looking for my photos from Way Out Club or Roma, you're in the wrong place!

All my photo work is at https://nuklear.photos

I'm also on Instagram @nuklearphotos for my event work, or @nuklearfiziks for assorted selfies and more personal stuff. πŸ’š

Well, we're into a new year and a new decade, so suffice to say if you're itchin' for some change, you're not alone.

This is my first weekly column, where I respond to various relationship and sexuality questions taken from people who follow me on Mastodon. Feel free to DM me there, or anonymously ask via my CuriousCat page!

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