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The problem with quotes is that it's not your original thoughts and everyone can look deep and empathetic with a vague statement. If you don't expand your ideas, how can I be sure you are not actually stupid?

“Butttt I'm a respectable person and I have a reputation to maintain!!!”

So you don't want to risk your ideas being ridiculed but you are okay acting as if you have a better moral view in public. This is fine and all. But think about that the next time you complain the dating market is getting worse and the modern world is more superficial than in the past. Is that the reality or is that what happens to you?

The only people who feel comfortable with that behavior are other narcissistic people. Because they don't really care about what you think, only the association that makes them feel superior.

I still hate classical.

My mom drove my sister an hour to the violin class every weekend and an hour back. But I couldn't go to the drawing class. Because the one art teacher in town was also a pedophile.

The one advantage an average boy has over me is the ability to carry heavy groceries. And I don't even count it as an advantage because when others offer to carry heavy stuff for me, I just let them.

Yes I do have a trustable face.

Why is it so hard to just admit gender roles are working for you? I, for once, can be as intrusive as one can be, and will never be a predator. Look at me, I'm harmless!!!

Not that I will use that advantage to actually do something. But I have the potential to, if I want to. But if I don't want other people to force gender roles I don't want onto me, the logical thing for me is not to do it to them. It's very simple. Girls all know they have the advantage in case of finance trouble or war. Either you admit it and have more compassion for others who don't even have a choice. Or you deny it out of shame for your dignified reputation and blame boys further that they are not honourable enough.

It's often the people who deny they have potential to cause harm who do the most damage.

Feeling sad today because everyone is so confident with their dignity while mine fluctuates by the day.

Bragging about not cheating but I did several times on history. Granted that everyone else did too and I most likely cheated the least in that school system. But that wasn't an excuse, just described what happened.

My reason for not cheating was not at all about dignity either. I thought if I didn't have a correct assessment of my ability, that would not help me to improve. If you to follow the lifestyle of being not as good as you advertise, you would have to be a people-pleaser as well. That seems like a torture to me. But if you have a real ability to back it up, you can be as smug as you want.

So Claire, instead of confessing to herself, like a normal person, that “I don't like this direction. It's not looking good for my country. It's selfish but I want them to keep fighting so I can feel safer”. Decided to go for the interesting approach to insult boys that they have no honour or dignity. All so she doesn't have to admit she is selfish and scared.

You see, they have to camouflage. They have to virtue signal. It's not just something they do for fun in their free time. Otherwise they will have to face themselves.

That kind of opportunistic attitude is very profitable in your 20s. When your peers are all clueless and try to be someone they are not. Most of us do like to be idealized to some degree, but not to the degree of being denied as a fully human. Most of us have desires to be loved and cared for, which is obviously impossible when our normal fear and weakness are shamed not to exist. They don't see them seek help so much in their 20s. Especially many of them take good care of their appearances and use it for personal gain, and it works. Soon, the healthy ones will see the pattern and leave, whether it's romantic partners or friends. Leaving the disordered ones pairing with other disordered. After middle age, they don't seek help to make a change for themselves. They seek help because whatever they did that used to be working, is no longer working, leaving them isolated and unprofitable. And they need help to build the defenses back up.

People expect severely personality disordered people to pull their sadism out of a mastermind plan, but most of the time they just wing it depending on what brings out their shame that day. That's why it both is beneficial and give them financial/social gains and bites them in the ass with just as many times.