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When teenagers idealize their idols, they are not stupider than those who don't. And funny thing is, kids in gifted schools idealize celebrities more than kids from public schools. They are obviously not stupid. They frequently have sophisticated tricks up on their sleeves.

It's an inherent exploitative relationship from both sides when one sells merchs and the other projects fantasy onto the other without the need to see them as a real person. It's not about intelligence but more about if one's willingness to see the other person for who they are outweighs the narcissistic desire to associate with someone whom they project all the good qualities onto to be perfect.

What is it with girls asking for boys to have dignity and honour, and by that they mean taking physical risks with their own lives? People need to take risks based on the worst possible outcomes they are willing to accept Claire. Not out of shame. Obviously you yourself have a lot of shame for your own cowardice and are camouflaging.

Okay I know what you're up to, so congratulation and good luck. Since I have your schedule as well, good luck for next month in advance. Hehe.

School started at 7am. It took 20 minutes to school. By 6:45 I was tying my shoes and my mom screamed “Why are you still here?”. Through the magic of speed, I was always on time, never late even once. But yes, in gym, I had the worst score in running, even worse than the fat ones.

See you later 1 foot 3 inches.

Goodnight sad boy.

Remember when you deal with loss and you think “It would be easier if I believe in something like a religion that can promise tomorrow would be better”. But you choose to be an atheist, because to you, having a false hope and later the consequences of those false hopes would be worse than facing the loss themselves. And that makes you a depressive, and not a rationalizer or a moralizer. (Anyway, atheists that need to read hundreds of books to convince themselves God doesn't exist so they don't have to do grief function on rationalization and intellectualization. That's why their emotional capacity to deal with loss is still zero.)

So yes, people are very aware of their defenses and actively choose what gives them the most advantages. I'm saying that because people keep referring to borderline as having no agency over their splitting. Like it's just something that happens to them totally out of their awareness. It doesn't. Maybe that one time in the past they chose to do it to get through a bad situation and make it a habit. The question is, with splitting many times leading to social and financial gains, do the consequences of splitting outweigh the benefits?

Just got off Youtube and people are still running wild with the “justice sensitivity” thing and getting dozens of millions of views.

If you throw a tantrum because someone changes schedules, that's rigid thinking. If you throw a tantrum because someone wronged you, when others would feel less intense, that's your emotional processing.

In no literature does it say autism makes you a justice warrior. But there are plenty of psych research that says borderline fixates on fairness. Not because they are fair themselves, but because they are always in search of the perfect object that doesn't exist (splitting). And they assign neutral reactions from everyone but themselves as negative (splitting and paranoid).

Also, everyone around me has moral dilemmas at work. Do they stand up or try to get by, depends on if they have a child to feed or not. So again, what kind of people do you surround yourselves with that makes you the only one who is fair and square?

People spend way too much time in the “About me” section when we all know we shouldn't act arrogant when talking about ourselves. They write “What I like” too long, and it's never interesting enough, especially when we all know how to act nice or neutral to strangers.

But we can't hide ourselves in close relationships. The content of “What I'm looking for” tells you what people think they want. But how they construct the sentences tells you their defenses aka personalities.

Talking about words and profiles, excessive use of adverbs means you are too conscientious. I think.