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Settling down means I probably won't impulsively buy stupid things for new hobbies and get bored quickly every few months.
Settling down means I probably won't impulsively buy stupid things for new hobbies and get bored quickly every few months.
Attachment theory is so flimsy that yes, I didn't want anyone especially boys to ever touch me, and was commitment phobic, and also highly secretive. And that made me a dismissive avoidant!
But that probably has more to do with the fact that boys often think of me as some sort of trophy to be acquired. That once they tear down the external hardness, I will become normal and totally conform to social norms. And also because a 13-year-old called me sexy as a 12-year-old, and I still want to throw up ever since.
Since I saw the slightest hint of understanding, I have no problem settling down right this afternoon.
Okay I solved one of your riddles a while back just recently.
When I was a kid, people often commented, “Oh the family has 2 girls. Girls are well-behaved, unlike boys.” The boys were not taught to look down on girls specifically. Most of the time, they didn't even mention the girls. Boy were taught that their gender had a special meaning to the world. Which is what I don't know, probably leading the tribe to the final destination of wealth and integrity. Which sounds nice, but you are basically teaching them to be a narcissist. It's very much similar to what feminism does to girls currently. They teach them to feel entitled for things they don't earn. Because just being a normal person is impossible for some reason.
I did pretty well for myself, even with my relatives said insane things to my ears. But I felt bad for the boys, besides pitying them and looking down on them.
Having a face I that can enjoy looking at for a very long time is super important.
I have a notebook that school friends wrote for me, about me, in the form of essays. It doesn't have many essays, but each one is very long. I can let you read them. But they are in Vietnamese.
Yes. I hang out with girls. We talk about boys all the time. In high school it was about what kinds of douchebags we should stay away from. Lately it's about how boys are ugly when they grow up and get fat. And how they are handsome when they are fit and tall.
I, however, also know some people who actually talk about empowerment and empathy and all the other abstract with their “friends” in real life.
I’m coloring a book about rainbow popsicles.
Many people question if that dude actually dates that many people. I don't doubt that he does. In fact, I think it's more likely that he does than he does not.
Oh, do you see many of his “friends” as well as himself are in financial troubles and desperately need help? That's because they are exclusively “friends” with drug addicts. Talking about high barrier to entry!
Feminist analysts often leave out the detail that borderline are financially exploitative because many of them are borderline themselves. Some of the male analysts know but they can't say it in public out of fear of being booed.
That's why I said a while ago that I suspect the “feminist” analyst took advantage of the gender role. But that was just being tactful. What I really meant is she is in a loveless marriage to take advantage of her spouse's finances, and advocate for feminism to justify her own exploitation.
Not that there is anything wrong with supporting each other financially and willingly. It's just not the case with feminism.
Since girls have more chances to deal with unwanted attention, we learn to read people pretty soon.
For example, when I was 16, stupid boys my age followed me from school to home, I only made fun of them in my head. But when a 20-year-old looked at me lustfully, I changed my route the next day.
So no. No girls whose parents do the jobs right would hang out with the likes of borderline boys I mentioned yesterday. The likes who have time to date a hundred people and don't have time to work to pay a few grands debt and have to beg strangers for mercy. Obviously there are learning curves for everyone and it takes time to recognize people. But those kinds of boys only attract narcissistic girls because they appeal to their grandiosity of gender empowerment without any real substance of knowing who they actually are as an individual person.