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I’m coloring a book about rainbow popsicles.
I’m coloring a book about rainbow popsicles.
Many people question if that dude actually dates that many people. I don't doubt that he does. In fact, I think it's more likely that he does than he does not.
Oh, do you see many of his “friends” as well as himself are in financial troubles and desperately need help? That's because they are exclusively “friends” with drug addicts. Talking about high barrier to entry!
Feminist analysts often leave out the detail that borderline are financially exploitative because many of them are borderline themselves. Some of the male analysts know but they can't say it in public out of fear of being booed.
That's why I said a while ago that I suspect the “feminist” analyst took advantage of the gender role. But that was just being tactful. What I really meant is she is in a loveless marriage to take advantage of her spouse's finances, and advocate for feminism to justify her own exploitation.
Not that there is anything wrong with supporting each other financially and willingly. It's just not the case with feminism.
Since girls have more chances to deal with unwanted attention, we learn to read people pretty soon.
For example, when I was 16, stupid boys my age followed me from school to home, I only made fun of them in my head. But when a 20-year-old looked at me lustfully, I changed my route the next day.
So no. No girls whose parents do the jobs right would hang out with the likes of borderline boys I mentioned yesterday. The likes who have time to date a hundred people and don't have time to work to pay a few grands debt and have to beg strangers for mercy. Obviously there are learning curves for everyone and it takes time to recognize people. But those kinds of boys only attract narcissistic girls because they appeal to their grandiosity of gender empowerment without any real substance of knowing who they actually are as an individual person.
I’m glad people are telling gym bros too much muscle makes them look emotionally dull. That’s what I’ve been saying the whole time. Someone needs to say the same thing to dudes who wear suits 7 days a week for fashion too.
At the same time, borderline boys think it's their time to shine because they always VALUE girls’ opinions and that makes them such a catch. Their dating history of hundred women is the proof for that. Never mentioned that their “relationships” never get past the infatuation. In fact, parents of girls always warn us to stay away from dudes like that, who idealize and tell us what we want to hear.
Me personally, I like boy who gives out both sadistic and cuddly vibes on the same day. Lacking either one of these simply wouldn’t do it.
Talking about sadism makes things weird. Here's the explanation.
In object relations, a mother can sometimes feel frustrated, annoyed, and hateful toward the child (think about all the things you did before 10!). To act on the hate is as damaging to the relationship as to deny the hate (since denying it doesn't make it go away and often comes back as passive-aggressive,...)
Then the child learns it to apply to their relationship later in life. To their parents, as well as their friends, and spouses. When they deny that hate can be a part of a relationship, we say that they lack whole object relation. That's why a big SIGN of personality disorders is the idealization of the parents.
So someone with whole object relations might think “Why do I have to deny I want to punch someone? I wouldn't do it anyway!”. Because the fact that you hate someone and desire to hurt them is irrelevant to what you would actually do.
But someone who lacks whole object relations will be scared by the first thought of their own hatred. That's why they anti-war, that's why they anti-capitalism. But denying it doesn't make it go away. In fact, it makes it MUCH EASIER for them to be exploitative. Because they don't have to think about the consequences of damaging a relationship.
You are strict it was pretty scary.
Talking about sadism, do you even remember which answers were marked unacceptable by you?
Last week I read reviews of DIGIC Pictures on Glassdoor. Someone complained that their colleagues can only talk about superheroes. Yes, they are that boring, and not just in Europe.
Being sad and nostalgic is extremely easy when you have a sheltered life. Most songwriters stop being sad and become either obsessive or narcissistic after they become adults. It shows in their writings. But that applies to other people that are not songwriters as well.
Therapists often brag about how they are depressive, but their training only amplifies their narcissism.
People work in arts are way more depressive. Just because their jobs are where their sadness can be useful and make them popular among their peers.
Unfortunately most of those art people lack analytical minds to have realistic views of the world. And lack sadism to deal with difficult things. Which makes their misery relatable exactly by the length of a song. Because any more than that is incredibly unattractive.