viewActually people don't hate the teenage climate activists or the middle-aged freedom activists because of their genders or disabled genes or pure envy.
Usually transference toward narcissistic individuals is annoyance for their self-centeredness and transference toward paranoid individuals is anger as they often project their own aggression onto you. That's why severe end of paranoid people often and only hang out with each other because they alienate themselves from any slightly healthier individuals. But I wouldn't count on their friendships because they also often exploit each other while acting as best friends forever just to be nice.
viewIt was way cooler to be into computers back in the early 2000s when photo manipulation was a thing and you stopped hanging out with your neighbor so much because Adobe Photoshop CS2 was more attractive than collecting sophora flowers to trade for ice creams.
viewIt wasn't about how the first chapter already turning me off. But about the future of people who believe in good business, and in science. People who build their success solely through their hardly acquired knowledge and not at all from luck or having personality disorders. Dan Ariely disappointed many people, in many ways. But most of all, people, who without those cool tips and tricks, don't have much material left to work with. It's hard enough that they have math on multiple semesters, now you think they need to have hobbies too!
viewWell if you ever attend one of their ideas generation sessions, you would understand business major needs self-help books just like how the soul needs chicken soup.
viewBut like, I also told my sister that her wedding was the worst day of my life, and everyone was just giggling.
So there is more to life than just validating your friends without believing in it, reassuring things will pick up without knowing it, not offering practical solutions so your family members can suffer later, being kind to everyone except your loved ones because that's normally how emotionally lying to yourself goes.
viewStill don't know what emotional intelligence is. But sounds like something that would make you boring. So I decide not to learn it.
viewRefusing to attend your best friend's wedding because you don't feel like meeting that many people, and shouting from the rooftop that doing drugs is bad, are not narcissism. It's called having preferences.
Telling people that they have the obligation to fight for the rights of marginalized people, and people need to stop what they are doing right now and go out on the street to protest for peace, are narcissism.
Because narcissism means treating others as extensions of one's self, not how well they phrase their demands, or how virtuous their ideology is.
I take the whole “The genuine poet is an intuitive psychologist” very seriously. Because I actually wanted to throw up multiple times when I started learning writing and was aware of the social pressure to say things that didn't feel right. Most of my analysis comes from my writing process, and not from reading textbook theories. I barely read any books.
But people who only read books and don't do much daily practice frequently miss subtle signs of narcissism. Outside of writing, just thinking about stuff a lot helps too.
viewToday is so over. Let's see if there is someone to make fun of tomorrow.
viewScreaming to the world that you are victims of freedom because of bad internet doesn't make you cooler than aunties gathering outside of prisons after watching the first episode of “Making a murderer”.
