I saw that many people are making fun of the board of peace, in that, only unimportant countries (including Vietnam) have joined. Well, if you are unimportant and not rich, that's exactly what you should do. A cheap fee for the advantage of being early adopters.
So I followed the 19 y.o saga to have a glimpse of the community my former friend supposed to give back to, and what kind of thing that he probably gives it back.
I think my helpful and timeless advice is even more important now than ever. Never talk to borderline. If you absolutely have to, don't go alone. Call your lawyer to go with you.
They will have to pay the video editor extra money to remove the noise of my bike’s brakes.
Hey tutor. I just crashed a wedding. And guess what? It wasn’t even intentional.
Good night Marten.
My buyer’s pool actually reduces a bit because I refuse to work with people I hate. I did that even when I was starving. In fact, during my starving days, I rejected a “promised” 10k right after the contract started. That was a rude tech dude.
I can't concentrate on work when I'm in bad moods.
My current bad client rate is around 10% – 15%. That is after vetting, and unacceptable behavior only surfaces after the work starts. After finishing the already agreed contracts, I clean house to make bad rate 0% again.
No. I don't feel good. I feel myself writing for you.
There is a concept called engulfment. And in textbook it claims that it's part of a cycle after they get close to someone. It sounds so romantic. To cope with the reality, many people convince themselves that the more they push you away, the more they actually and secretly love you. The only obstacle between you and a passionate true love is a cursed disorder, through no fault of anyone’s.
Imagine. I like ice cream, leather shoes, and this band named Bad Dogs. This borderline person named B is getting close to me and absorbing my personality. So now B likes those three things, making the combination his personality.
After 2 months. I don't like ice cream anymore because it's bad for my throat. I think Bad Dog is very lame now with their new album. I still like leather, but B looks extra ugly in leather and that is confirmed by everyone.
So now B’s personality is invalidated. By me for the ice cream and Bad Dogs. By everyone with eyes for the leather.
B feels heartbroken without knowing where it comes from. Without complete symmetry, my sheer aloof existence becomes a constant criticism to B. This is engulfment for B where I don't even know that I'm a part of it.
“But if trying to be close to someone causes you so much hurt, it must be love, right?” B think.
So now you know why transition of identity doesn't work. It's not changing from ice cream to yogurt as your favorite snack. It's changing to pink dress because you expect other people will like it, while you don't even know if yourself like the pink dress. Because who you are is based on if people validate you. For everyone who doesn't, is an attack on your identity.
Many people say that love is supposed to feel good. But what kind of good?
Because total symmetry would feel good to a lot of people too. But is it realistic? And then you also have the question of what kind of symmetry?
Because if you too identify yourself with someone else’s favorite drink, their job, or their background, you might invent a totally different version of them. And having a false perception of someone is normal and human. But when you already identified yourself with a false version, reality will be an attack on you.
In your defense, I think you would look handsome in suits too. But with totally different vibe.
