No. The vulnerable can't write crap. I mean, they can recycle something from folk wisdom or moralize some cliche and think that makes them so deep. And that's why it's narcissism. They can't look inward and accept things to just be ordinary. The “vulnerable” wisdom will just be borrowed somewhere.
People really don't understand narcissism when they categorize it into different types like grandiose, vulnerable, communal,…
No it's a defense when you can't look into your (perceived) weakness or faults, therefore you rewrite narrative so that you don't have too.
If you were born rich or high IQ, you use status, look, popularity or achievement as metrics because it's believable and because you already have them.
If your parents are strict or that you learn to be people pleasing, it's easier to be a collectivist where you feel superior on your kindness, tacts and empathy. You already have strangers react positively to those behavior so that's believable and achievable to you. But that's not real kindness or empathy, that's why I mentioned “strangers”. Because helping someone to carry groceries is totally different from having the ability to admit mistakes to yourself or to someone close.
If you were born a normal person with average IQ but you like to read books and you like to write. You are also an art lover. You might think that you are a more open, authentic or vulnerable in a good way. You might even think that you are a victim of toxic masculinity. Many people assume that you are, in fact, deeper, than say, a blunt person who just says what they think. And this is believable because feminists say that boys are oppressed for the vulnerability.
So in general, you will use the resource that you have in disposal to be superior. The quicker the easier of the resource that you have it's more likely that you will use it over other resources. So you would think, once the communal ones get power and money, they will move to the more typical type of narcissim. Power, status, money. Because now, people pleasing requires more efforts than simply showing the status you already have.
Good morning Marten.
They are very stupid. Every time their idols complain that they feel depressed, they would say something like “What are you talking about? There are millions of people who love you!”. As if having complete strangers who know you vaguely calling you beautiful and talented will cure all your other problems.
Can't believe my favorite shorts got torn out after seven years. Would have lasted longer if I hadn't just sit on rough concrete.
Changed my booking successfully. Gonna do it another day.
Like any normal person, of course, I already thought about how I could be an idol.
I would be so charming and get a lot of “love”. Until one day, the fans would find out that I have a secret handsome boyfriend. They would also find out that all the songs I wrote were about someone specific all along. They would feel devastated, cheated, and betrayed. Because their narcissistic idealization as a version of “love” can never replace actual bonding and regular sex.
The K-pop industry is very respectful to its audiences' intelligence. The companies would not allow their artists to comment on politics or the basic economics of capitalism. The bonding would largely experienced through the resonance of idealized personality traits. So your love for the music will never be interrupted by their stupid social commentary or virtue signaling. Only them getting married will do.
My body is in a very bad shape right now because I woke up three times last night due to three different nightmares. Also another time I woke up to collect the clothes in the balcony because of the rain. And I even have a full shooting day tomorrow. The softbox is 2m so that reminds me of you when I stand next to it.
