view
I don't hate opera just because my sister likes it.
I don't hate opera just because my sister likes it.
Theoretically, you can't reason yourself out of narcissism by reading books and learn to be righteous people. It's pretty much all about practice.
Which is why, by default, the majority of autistic or at least the high IQ population that I'm familiar with, are very narcissistic, like, way more than me. Because they don't practice relationships enough. And when they do, their differences often cause conflicts with other people. Where the easiest defence to be deployed is narcissism, feeling superior over your personal choices, “My indie music is deep and artistic, your music is mass produced!”.
I'm not saying having a lot of friends would cure it. In fact, friends are easy to get along because most of the time our own benefits are unaffected. You also have people master the skill of being socially approachable of what they call “masking”. In practice, it rarely means they learn to appreciate others' differences and can be friends over those differences. Which, by the way, not all their faults, because the quality of most friendships are low from both sides. In practice, it means they hide their narcissism. Many of them go beyond and declare they are socialists in hope the selfishness would go away.
So I was wondering what kind of relationships you practiced make you much less narcissistic.
That is not to say people who are more paranoid than us had worse childhoods. Sometimes they do, sometimes they don't.
It means we all made choices of who we become from very early on by how we reacted to life events, without being fully informed of what that could be.
Before I go to sleep for real, there is a saying: “One falls in love, and then learns, for the duration, that one is at the mercy of someone else’s childhood.”
My hands are working now. Goodnight M. See you later.
hihihihi
I finally found the puzzle piece that has been bugging me for the whole year.
I know many people take pride in reading a lot of books. But the real pride is hating most of the authors, and still have to continue reading for the information.
My mast cells get triggered by low temp AC, sudden sunlight (that’s why I have to stay away from sunlight like a vampire, I wasn’t trying to be a Snow White beauty), old books,… I also don’t like ladies with strong perfume smells. But that doesn’t have anything to do with my medical problem.
Vietnamese obsession with cool temperature is dangerous. They should keep the AC above 26 degrees Celsius.