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Goodnight sad boy.
Goodnight sad boy.
Remember when you deal with loss and you think “It would be easier if I believe in something like a religion that can promise tomorrow would be better”. But you choose to be an atheist, because to you, having a false hope and later the consequences of those false hopes would be worse than facing the loss themselves. And that makes you a depressive, and not a rationalizer or a moralizer. (Anyway, atheists that need to read hundreds of books to convince themselves God doesn't exist so they don't have to do grief function on rationalization and intellectualization. That's why their emotional capacity to deal with loss is still zero.)
So yes, people are very aware of their defenses and actively choose what gives them the most advantages. I'm saying that because people keep referring to borderline as having no agency over their splitting. Like it's just something that happens to them totally out of their awareness. It doesn't. Maybe that one time in the past they chose to do it to get through a bad situation and make it a habit. The question is, with splitting many times leading to social and financial gains, do the consequences of splitting outweigh the benefits?
Just got off Youtube and people are still running wild with the “justice sensitivity” thing and getting dozens of millions of views.
If you throw a tantrum because someone changes schedules, that's rigid thinking. If you throw a tantrum because someone wronged you, when others would feel less intense, that's your emotional processing.
In no literature does it say autism makes you a justice warrior. But there are plenty of psych research that says borderline fixates on fairness. Not because they are fair themselves, but because they are always in search of the perfect object that doesn't exist (splitting). And they assign neutral reactions from everyone but themselves as negative (splitting and paranoid).
Also, everyone around me has moral dilemmas at work. Do they stand up or try to get by, depends on if they have a child to feed or not. So again, what kind of people do you surround yourselves with that makes you the only one who is fair and square?
People spend way too much time in the “About me” section when we all know we shouldn't act arrogant when talking about ourselves. They write “What I like” too long, and it's never interesting enough, especially when we all know how to act nice or neutral to strangers.
But we can't hide ourselves in close relationships. The content of “What I'm looking for” tells you what people think they want. But how they construct the sentences tells you their defenses aka personalities.
Talking about words and profiles, excessive use of adverbs means you are too conscientious. I think.
Using the word “aggressor” in international conflicts makes you look as suspicious as using the word “drama” in your dating profiles. There is a lack of understanding and parrot what others say. And then there is a full capacity to understand but function on emotional reasoning (which is fine) and choose to split (which is bad).
In school the most self righteous people join the literature team. Because they think it’s what writing about. The pop culture is the evidence of it. Mostly girls and some catty boys with advanced social norms awareness and consequently deficit psychological honesty.
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I mean I know much of the stability I enjoy today was because of the reunification. So honestly don’t know if it was a bad idea or a good one or simply just an idea.
A while ago, someone posted an article about a peace deal that the leaders then was considering to accept but later didn’t. And idiotic nationalists born after the 90s screamed no way our leaders ever wanted to accept that deal, like it was the most humiliating thing ever. I know they are sad people. But maybe they should at least spend a minute or two pretending that they see people as individual human instead of just an extension of their ideology.
A cheaper market chain for fresh food is Bach Hoa Xanh, with its separate chain for household supplies is Dien May Xanh.