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It's very arrogant for analysts to think only their brand of “therapeutic relationship” brings out psychological changes while normal friendship is purely psychologically superficial. Especially when the majority of them grow up and live in upper-middle class liberal environments. Move from a rural area to a city and you would know what I'm talking about. It doesn't mean rural people are better and in other metrics they are worse. But people have more potential to be psychologically honest when it costs less financial and social punishment. And that is closer to psychoanalysis than what psychoanalysis tries to be.

So how's the stress level lately?

I hate art snobs more than most people, due to overexposure.

Boys spend too much time convincing themselves they are not petty. But they are as petty as every other girl. The worse ones are those who deny it.

In abuse support groups, people who spell out “I'm angry, I hate the person, I hate what they did to me” have more chance of recovery than the ones who say “I don't hate her because I know she is a good person trapped in a horrible disorder” or “You should know people who do that are not worth it/not meant to be”.

The first one acknowledges their emotions, therefore has a chance to process loss and grief to move on. The latter are too busy building their reputation as generous, good, caring people to even know themselves, wrapped in rationalization and moralization. They get more paranoid over time, learning from their “abusers”. And they continue to project the paranoia to the next person.

You see how in dating people say the word “baggage” like you are expected to validate someone's paranoia out of compassion. Instead the person themselves should learn how to deal with loss. But yes, they are normally the same people who brag about bottling up and think it won't blow up in their faces.

There was a discussion the other day about borderline shouldn't be treated as victims. Someone said, of course, they shouldn't be treated as just a victim, but it is also what happens to them. But trauma and paranoid is the chicken and egg thing again. For paranoid can caused by trauma. But if paranoid comes first, then the trauma narrative is unreliable. And there is no way to verify. The only thing you know is what you can observe to be happening right now.

So Carl, the adjunct prof, one day expressed “I think our leaders are bad people, and nobody but me can see it. It makes me sad.”

Unlike Carl, most people already know leaders are corrupt as usual, and they don't care for their personalities. They only care if those people can do their jobs. And that, is already after corruption deduction.

So Carl continued “I can't believe a billionaire unfollows people they don't like anymore. Such pettiness. At the same time, politicians say mean things to each other at large instead of helping a country in need!”

Unlike Carl, most people don't have the need to portray themselves as warriors of fairness and courage online where no one can bust them, because their normal selfish self works okay so far. So they spend their free time worrying about practical things like safety of their own.

If you wonder borderline argues like a 5 year-old. That’s because they are. Unfortunately they frequently think of themselves as the mature, diplomatic ones.

Although I went out with a wrong attitude today (friendly). And had to listen to pretty awful gender stories while they were working on my head. I'm thinking I'm going back being stoic and smug so people would stop trying to unsuccessfully entertain me.

It's very cheap here. I cut my hair for less than a dollar.

Hehe I cut it.