viewExample:
Situation: my friend makes a comment against my viewpoint therefore makes me angry.
Paranoid: she makes that mean comment to mock my life situation or blame me for something I did.
CBT homework: It might be stressful at work today, and she didn't mean what she said.
You see how CBT “helps” you?
It “helps” you rationalize your judgment so you can have more “tolerance” of others, and somehow or probably will help you keep those friendships? But you already start with a wrong paranoid judgment. You then proceed to make excuses for someone based on that wrong judgment. All the while thinking you are such a generous person.
The friend might just have a different opinion. Or they secretly hate you. You don't have and can't have a clear answer until a few months or years later. But that's true for any relationship. So, instead of growing the capacity to stand uncertainty, the ability to see your aggression toward even people you like, and the recognition of differences between people, you are growing the ability to write fiction!
viewNormal people don’t spend 3 hours per day to misinterpret their friends. For that much trouble they can just ditch their friends for someone else more compatible. Which wouldn’t be a problem if they have the ability to maintain relationships. Borderline boys keep bragging about their forgiveness and generosity, and how much they put up with their friends by doing CBT in secret and all sort of mental gymnastics, instead of, jeez I don’t know, talk things out like a normal person. Really makes you think what kind of relationship it is when one puts the status of the relationship itself above understanding.
viewAlso, blaming yourself as a default setting instead of thinking of things as multi-dimensional is a way not to take accountability. In many cases, you have a person who feels both victimized and entitled.
viewRight wing anti-psych thinks ruminating on childhoods makes you narcissistic so their solution is bottling up. What they don't know is the majority of boys with personality disorders ARE the result of bottling up. Those boys many times make fun of borderline girls for hysterical behavior on social media and in public. But they don't know they have borderline and narcissistic traits themselves. Their paranoia is never obvious until you discover their journals and find out how they misinterpret everything and everyone so they don't have to be “aggressors” who they deem morally inferior.
viewProbably will cut my hair. For tactical reasons. It keeps getting in my face when I run on the street.
viewNever understand the appeal of discussing celebrities' personal lives, especially when it's distaseful. If I want to hear a nauseous story, I would listen to my neighbors. At least there is some information I can use. But in junior high, those kids actually believe the personalities their idols put on are real.
viewAI bros think AI can come up with a 5-second colorful footage means it can do the whole job is like a 3rd grader thinks good writing is all about collecting incoherent fancy words. Go make some useful tools and stop making yourself look stupid!
viewGute Nacht Nachhilfelehrer.