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See you later.
Feel like I make fun of obsessive too often when my friend is one. Though I often thought about different groups of people when I made those jokes.
In reality, most of them are relatively normal. They can be very pleasant and considerate if having good upbringing without too much contradiction and NOT have a special interest in politics. With occasional judgemental comments but not in a funny way that I can appreciate.
Teenagers were superficial back then, and they are still superficial now. Sorry!
Ya think I don't know all their social tricks?
Every time their idols committed suicide (and that happened a lot, I wonder if it has anything to do with a culture that promotes idealizing people which then makes them lose sense of self which then makes them prone to develop personality disorders?), they screamed injustice and told everyone to respect the importance of mental health.
I thought then, if they learned one single fact every time things concerned them, in just a few years, they might be able to cure their friends' depression!
Of course they never did and probably never will.
Those same people are now think they are above everyone else on morality. The more rigid the rules, the better they are as humans!
They don't know that's exactly the sign of how they should not be trusted. For they operate themselves on moralizing defense. It's a defense. That means they use it to shield themselves from whatever they are feeling, and it has very little to do with what they actually learned from past experiences or what they plan to do for the future. Once they are done lecturing someone, the feeling is already over. So I guess there is nothing needed to be improved here!
That's why they both, are annoying, and never get better!
♫ Almost paradise brighter than the morning …. 😳
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On the other hand...
Certain people who split as kids continue to split as adults, as long as splitting keeps benefiting them. They only change from teenage activists to middle-aged activists. And they get media attention because they resonate with people's primitive defense of splitting. They think activism is effective when they gather as many people on their side as possible. But wonder why there is little to no progress, even regress.
That's because intellectualization kids grow up and hang out with their kind. Splitters only collect other splitters. And we know top priority of splitters is not finding solutions ever, but finding a villain to blame.
Intellectualization also doesn’t come out of nowhere. You can have a grasp of someone’s childhood based on what they have read. I always thought intellectualization is the best defense a child/teenager could do, as they don’t have enough autonomy for sublimation to work most of the time.
It's not simple that violence is bad. In my case, I knew I could always call for backup (my mom) if things escalated. But my childhood friend couldn't because her parents were kind of neglectful. So I didn't look down on her for doing that. But I also didn't want to associate myself with certain lifestyles.
It's a slippery slope mistaking doing your best in a bad situation for excusing something wrong as self-righteousness (in this case, violence. And we can also see it in the recent political healthcare event). And I didn't think I would be willing to deal with the consequences of doing things otherwise.
Though we all do rationalization and moralization to some degree. If they are your main defenses, they don't just come out of nowhere in your 20s. They are things you do as habits. They are who you are and what you have.
So you have people in their 40s, 60s who know obviously they are lying to themselves. They know it and others don't buy it. But they can't admit even to themselves. Because if they admit this rationalization, they will have to admit rationalizations for all past mistakes as well. Especially if rationalization and moralization give them financial or social advantages they had in the past or even continue to benefit from it in the present. What's left of their lives if so much of it is based on false comfort?
There was a good song for teenagers about bicycles back in the 2000s. It was supposed to be seen as a romantic vehicle for high schoolers. But I often went straight home after school so my bike was only for commute.
There are several answers in the self-report questionnaire that I would like to change from “Hell No” to “Yesss!!!”
Turns out it was never about personal ethics, but about who do you think of when you answer those questions.