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I'm a gross and lonely person

I have a sense of fatalism. I'm waiting for things I'm not willing to work for. Willing or able? Both? I'm #sorry and tired and sorry I'm tired. My brain is fried.

“People who choose to be abusive often have an underlying attitude of entitlement and privilege. There’s a very low percentage of abusers who truly do #change their ways.”

I don't want to be disconcerting. I want to concert.

“But as for your question—“If I accept as a foregone conclusion that I am only a burden to my partner, and that I can’t #trust him to look out for his own well-being and assume he’ll never break up with me even if he wanted to, isn’t it better that I end this now?”—my answer is No. I think you can and should talk to your fiancé about your fears, that you deserve all the support you need, and that you should take him at his word when he says he wants to be with you. You are not a problem. You’re his partner.”

“Give him nothing to meaningfully interact with when he attempts to start a What If Disaster Strikes and Also You’re a Bad Person spiral, and it’s possible you find he eventually switches tactics. At the very least, you yourself will spend less time trying to argue him out of his dark places.”

“Sometimes, especially if you are a particularly sensitive person, it can be easy to confuse “someone who is angry with me” with “someone I must have harmed in some way.” “

I want to be one of those actors who get the scene right on the first take, but in real life.

Reliable.

“[they] seem to know exactly what’s wrong with this picture, and yet [they] haven’t figured a way to rearrange or leave it. [...] people really need to reread what they write— gaze deep into the reflection you sent us. A lot of what you #need is right there.”

“To be fully normal is, strictly speaking, impossible,” Warner wrote. “Everyone deviates from the norm in some way.”