dr-chris10

America's Trusted Psychologist!
Message me at crizea11@gmail.com for your Coaching Call.

Thank you Sandra @theminduntangled for making me a part of #thecoilchallenge

Here are the details for anyone that's unfamiliar with it:

Let's get right into Sandra's questions...

  1. *When was a time that you struggled in your life, and what did you do to overcome it (or, how did you overcome it)?*

I was 26 years-old and had been living in a studio apartment in San Francisco with only $47 in my account. Feeling depressed, smoking a pack of cigarettes per day, not having a girlfriend for over 3 years due to a fear of rejection, and developing high levels of anxiety, I was questioning the decisions I’ve made up to that point.

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Nothing made sense. I did what society told me was right, thinking that that would be my saving grace. Go to school, get a job, follow the rules. For God’s sake, I was in graduate school learning to become a psychologist yet my emotional well-being was deteriorating. I felt powerless. I would think to myself, “How can I help people when I’m falling apart?” My world was becoming smaller every day because of anxiety and my sense of purpose was fading.

The conventional knowledge being fed to me was making things worse. I was looking for answers outside of myself through status, approval, and material objects. I did this by hustling hard with four jobs. Two were at a hospital, one at a university; and another one at a community clinic. I was making money, publishing research, and doing presentations at international conferences with an attention-grabbing designer wardrobe to go along with it. Even though things looked better on the outside, I still felt empty and anxious.

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One day, my friend Anthony starts telling me about a hypnotherapy training he was doing with one of our professors outside of school, and he asked me if I want to join the group. He said, “This is the real deal and we get to do work on each other.” “Hypnotherapy” I said, “are you guys going to make me cluck like a chicken?!”

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Even though I was skeptical, I was still curious because, I kid you not, when I was 16 years-old a psychic once did a reading on me and said that I’d be a hypnotherapist one day.

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With reluctance, and at the same time feeling a magnetic pull to it, I joined the hypnotherapy group. We met in an old Victorian house in San Francisco where we’d hypnotize each other all day on the weekends.

(Fun fact, I worked at a rehab clinic one block away from these Victorian houses where the opening credits of Full House was filmed. They're called “The Painted Ladies”).

One afternoon, I decided to volunteer for a process called a hypnotic regression. I was desperate to get to the root of the powerlessness I felt.

In a deep trance, I concentrated and focused on the feeling when I first felt powerless. In my minds eye, I saw my 10 year-old self, looking sad and powerless because my father was diagnosed with thyroid cancer. I felt like I couldn’t do anything to help him. I was also afraid of his erratic behaviors that the illness drove him to do. My father’s mood swings and the fear that I would no longer have a dad were common place in my mind. In that chaotic home, I saw images of myself walking on eggshells or else all hell would break loose.

In my young, impressionable mind, I internalized the false belief, “When someone close to me is sick, I am powerless to help them.” My adult self now saw the truth that when my dad was sick, it was accompanied by behaviors that made me feel helpless. This did not mean that I am a powerless person! I gained insight that I don’t need to submit my personal power to feel safe. I don’t need to walk on eggshells in life to gain control of my environment and my destiny! I understood, “That was then and this is now!”

The feeling of powerlessness lifted off my chest when I saw the vision of my adult-self nurture and communicate those empowering words to my 10 year-old self. My body was slightly shaking and it slowly relaxed as the process completed where I felt whole and empowered with the sense that I have control over my life.

My inner breakthrough was that even though I had adverse experiences in the past, I did not have to be stuck in the past. I transformed my sense of powerlessness and felt a jolt of energy to engage with life to the fullest.

I was excited to help people heal and have breakthrough moments just like I did. I was reconnected with my purpose in life, which is to help people overcome challenges so they can be in loving relationships, live with financial abundance, and be fully engaged with the world.

Anxiety was lifted off my chest. I completed my doctoral degree and every year since 2012, I have continuously increased in my income. Now, I’m married to the love of my life!

2. How long have you been a Psychologist, and what motivated you to pursue that as a career?

I have been a psychologist for 8 years, but have been doing therapy with people for 13 years.

When I was 17-years old, I would notice my best friend’s hands were dry, cracked, and bleeding. He couldn’t even sit in class for more than 5 minutes because every time he’d touch a desk, paper, or pencil, he’d run to the restroom to wash his hands. He believed his hands were contaminated with germs.

It turned out my best friend had Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). He would become so anxious, depressed, and debilitated by OCD that he was suicidal and at one point was hospitalized.

**I didn’t understand why he was compelled to wash his hands 100 times per day, and I felt powerless because I could not help him.
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My sense of powerlessness triggered something inside of me that I wasn’t aware of at the time, but it drove me to learn everything I could about mental health issues and how to treat them.

From the age of 17, I volunteered at a psychiatric hospital for 6 years, I became a guinea pig in dozens of psychological experiments, spent thousands of dollars on fringe workshops about meditation, and by the time I was 23-years-old, I moved to San Francisco for graduate school in clinical psychology.

(Sigmud Freud created Psychoanlysis)

(Ivan Pavlol discovered Classical Conditioning)

(Abraham Maslow is the father of Humanistic Psychology)

3. What do you like to do in your spare time?

In my spare time, I love keeping physically active (lifting weights, kickboxing), playing guitar, and going to concerts (Some of my favorite bands are The Mars Volta, Tool, The Fall of Troy, Dance Gavin Dance, and Hail the Sun).

I use to play guitar in bands for many years, where we played either guitar or drums.

(Circa 2002, playing a showing at the Hard Rock Cafe in Toronto [my hometown], Canada, with a band I performed with for over 5 years).

**4. Have you ever done motivational speaking, and if you were to now, in this day, what would be your main focus, and why?

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I have done motivational speaking and I love it! I've done motivational speeches on the topic of happiness and success mindsets.

In the future, I would like to continue doing motivational speaking on the topics of on success, happiness, and relationships.

My favorite motivational speakers are Les Brown, Eric Thomas (the Hip Hop Preacher), and Tony Robbins.

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Thanks everyone for reading this article!

I will end this by passing the Coil torch to another Coil Blogger! I pass this on to Steven Sands (aka Vengeful Seven).

Here are my questions for you:

1. You're a prolific writer! What was your educational journey (e.g., schools you went to, mentors you had, inspirational literature) that shaped you into becoming the writer you are today?

2. You've been writing a lot about the health care system in the United States. What were the life events that lead you to research and write about about the US health care system?

3. What three books changed your life in a positive way and how did they affect you?

4.
What are your personal secrets to staying focused when writing large volumes of articles?

Once again, thanks everyone for reading and joining us on this Coil Challenge! Here are the Coil Challenge rules:

The following are Coil Bloggers that have participated in the challenge!

Riley Q.

Patricia C.

Adam Waring – Aussie Ninja

Patricia B.

Dani Torres

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Seth Stanley

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Michael B.

Randal C – Crypto Pilot

Ramon Ramentol – Moncho

Niels

Srdan Vocanec

Michele Lancia

Sandra Scala – The Mind, Untangled.

Christian Rizea – @dr_chris10

-Dr. Chris

Do you want to be in a harmonious and long-term relationship?

Most people do, but they eventually get stuck in a rut, and the rut can become the death of a relationship!

Do you want to prevent, or save, your relationship from this lack luster death?

First, let's understand the *Six Stages of the Relationship Cycle* that most people go through. Next, we'll hack the *Relationship Cycle* so that you don't have to experience this trap.

Here we GO!

6 Stages of the Relationship Cycle

Most long-term relationships go through five stages until it gets to a cross-road where the relationship can either rekindle, settle, or terminate.

Let's explore each stage and identify where you and your partner are in the relationship cycle:

*1) Courtship/Attraction:* This is the earliest stage of a relationship where you and your partner are getting to know each other and deciding whether you'll further pursue a deeper connection. This is a very fun and exciting time where you and your partner don't fully know each other and are deciding if there's chemistry through dates, sharing stories about your life, and putting your best foot forward by showing off your personality.

*2) Honeymoon:* Now that you two are head over heels in love with each other, the feel good neurochemicals of dopamine and serotonin are just rushing through your bodies! In the honeymoon phase, you and your partner just can't get enough of each other. For many couples, the honeymoon phase is the peak of their fulfillment and can last anywhere from a few weeks to a couple of years.

*3) Internal Stressors:* After the honeymoon phase, routine sets in. Fulfillment in the relationship is less likely. There appears to be less effort and fewer romantic gestures than before.

*4) External Stressors:* External issues now become the main focus in your lives. These issues are things such as financial problems, children, health problems, and issues that your family or friends need you to help resolve. The focus of you and your partner is now on resolving other people's issues and not on fostering the relationship between you two. The couple believes that once those other issues are resolved, their relationship will get better, which is not the case.

(Don't ignore the stressors in your life like this guy ^^^ and also don't let the stressors detract you from building your relationship)

*5) Stagnation:* Lack of intimacy and routine have set in. The couple are just keeping things together and there's no more passion. It's like you're living with a roommate not your lover.

*6) Maturation:* In this stage, your relationship has three courses it can take. These are Rekindling (reigniting the relationship with passion and fulfillment), Settling (staying in the relationship out of convenience and fear of change), or Termination (divorce or break-up).

Repairing the Relationship Trap

Imagine that the Honeymoon phase was only the beginning of your committed relationship and that it only got better from there!

You and your partner's mutual fulfillment increases over time as shown in this chart below:

This outcome is very possible!

Deeper levels of physical, emotional, and spiritual intimacy are within your reach, even after the Honeymoon phase!

You and your partner can go beyond the conventional relationship that ends in routine or separation by intentionally integrating the following principles into your relationship:

1) Open Communication and Active Listening: You and your partner need to communicate openly with each other both in and out of the bed room. However, you both may be speaking different languages due to different communication styles and personal needs.

Start off by understand you and your partner's Love Language. (Click here to get a copy of The 5 Love Languages). For example, you might find that your partner's love language is Acts of Service. This means that he or she is most receptive to love when you follow through large or small tasks. A gesture, such as taking in your partner's car for an oil change will be received as more loving rather than writing her a love poem! Click here to get The 5 Love Languages so you can learn you and your partners main Love Language.

Next, start communicating more openly with each other about your sexual desires, fantasies, and what you'd like more or less of during sex. This requires both you and your partner to listen attentively to vocal tonality and physiological signs that indicate pleasure or discomfort. When your partner displays signs of pleasure keep doing whatever. Sometimes this might mean for you to keep the pace and stimulation intensity the same before slowly transitioning into a different kind of stimulus. This is a very nuanced issue that I can't go into full detail, so click here to check out the book Women's Anatomy of Arousal: Secret Maps to Buried Pleasure.

*2) Vulnerability:* Being vulnerable with your partner can be difficult because it places you in the position of possibly being hurt. For example, Lewis Howes, the well-known podcaster from The School of Greatness, was sexually abused by a neighbor during childhood. For years, Lewis had kept these traumatic experiences a secret from his family, friends, and people he had romantic relationships with. Because Lewis suppressed the issues of his childhood traumas, he had many interpersonal difficulties, which crept into his romantic relationships. Once Lewis became vulnerable by doing the therapeutic work on his traumas, he was able to have deeper interactions with his family, friends, and romantic partners.

Here's a picture of Lewis Howes after interviewing Kobe Bryant.

The following are some recommendations to being more vulnerable, which will deepen the connection with your partner:

1) Don't Hide Your Emotions - Feel, process, and express your emotions to your partner.

2) Face Your Fears - Being vulnerable can be scary but it's also a personal act of courage. You're essentially facing your fear of rejection and possibly being hurt. When you feel fear, face it head-on, in a safe and appropriate manner of course, because it taking the risk of vulnerability has higher rewards through deeper relationships.

3) Be Your Authentic Self - Being your true authentic self means what you say in life aligns with your core beliefs and values. It is about being true to yourself through your thoughts, words, and actions, and having these three areas match each other. When you are your authentic self, you attract people into your life that are like you and therefore want deeper connections with you.

For more on Vulnerability, click here to check out this great audio book, The Power of Vulnerability: Teaching Authenticity, Connection, and Courage by Dr. Brene Brown

*3) Be Present, Validating, and Understanding:* The present is this exact moment. Presence is what's happening right now, not 30 minutes in the future, or 5 years ago, but right now! Presence doesn't consider what just happened or what will happen in the next moment.

Being present doesn't require you to be a master of mindful meditation, but it no fulfilling relationship has existed without the present minds of the couple. When you are present minded you are communicating to your partner, “I see and hear you.” The ultimate goal is validation.

Oprah Winfrey has interviewed thousands of people, and she has come to this conclusion,

Presence and validation fully applies to deepening the connection in your relationship! If your mind is not present, then it's difficult to be attuned to your partner and give them the appropriate validation.

Here's one of the most important ways to increase the presence in your relationship in our modern day society...

**Put away your phones!** I went to a business conference and one of the main topics was getting over cell phone addiction! People were having difficulties with achieving their business goals because their cell phone use distracted them! Paying too much attention to your cell phone is also eroding many people's presence in their relationships.

When your mind is not present because it's buried in a social media, you cannot be attuned to growing your relationship and having a deeper connection. You and your partner should do these following things:

* Discuss when it is acceptable to use a cell phone when you're together.

* Communicate special circumstances that may necessitate phone access.

* If you’re unhappy with your partner's cell phone use, let him or her know.

* If your partner asks you to put your phone down, do it and be present.

To further learn how to increase presence and mindfulness if your relationship for greater fulfillment, click here and pick up the book Mindful Relationship Habits: 25 Practices for Couples to Enhance Intimacy, Nurture Closeness, and Grow a Deeper Connection.

I hope that this article helps reignite passion into your long-term relationship!

If you'd like to go more in-depth and take your relationship to a deeper level of connection, just email me at *Crizea11@gmail.com* and we'll set up a coaching call.

Whether you're looking to get into a meaningful relationship or you want to deepen a connection with your partner, email me at *Crizea11@gmail.com* for a coaching call to get you on track with achieving your relationship goals!

Talk to you soon :)

-Dr. Chris

“You cheating PIG!” were the words that flew from Kayla’s mouth after she saw her husband’s sexually provocative texts to his coworker.

With the look of shock on his face, the only thing Jack could say in response was, “You shouldn’t have broken into my phone… I deserve privacy. Besides, it’s not what you think.”

Nice try, Jack. No one believes you. Five years of marriage was destroyed because you sent naughty messages and pictures of your genitals to Becky from the HR department.

As a clinical psychologist, I hear many stories of infidelity and the aftermath of chaos it leads to.

As a matter of fact, US infidelity statistics in 2017 show that 22% of men and 14% of women say that they've cheated on their significant other.

**But what leads people to go astray from their partner?

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There’s a formula that leads to infidelity, and I’m going to teach you what it is and how to hack it without controlling and possessive behaviors.

The infidelity formula goes like this:

Vulnerability + One Dumb Decision + Opportunity = The Slippery Slope to Cheating.

Let me further explain...

1) Vulnerability factors sets up your partner to be more likely to cheat.

Vulnerability factors include dissatisfaction with sex in the relationship, addiction to porn, drugs, and alcohol, or a tendency to keep secrets.

The following are four High-Risk Times that makes a person vulnerable to infidelity:

2) “One Dumb Decision” is a behavior by the adulterer that crosses physical and emotional boundaries. One dumb decision leads to nine dumb decisions and then infidelity.

Here’s an example of one dumb decision by Jack. He was flirting with his coworker, Becky. Next, so called “innocent” touching on the shoulder starting happening between them. Then, the sharing of personal thoughts and feelings through texts. At an office party, Jack and Becky had too much to drink…which leads us to the final step in the infidelity formula, and that is “Opportunity.”

3) “Opportunity” are situations that make it possible to cheat. Opportunities for infidelity are everywhere from office parties, traveling for work, or being alone with an ex-partner where there’s still physical attraction.

Many people use online dating sites as their opportunity to cheat on their partner. Here are some statistics:

The negative consequences of infidelity in a marriage or relationship can be HUGE!

If the infidelity leads to divorce, it will cost you a lot of money as shown by this infograph from residents in Pennsylvania:

Depression and emotional pain from infidelity could lead to not being able to trust another person with your heart in the future.

Your cheating partner could also give you a Sexually Transmitted Disease from the person he/she was fooling around with! These STDs include Chlamydia, Herpes, and HIV.

Let’s now focus on hacking the Infidelity Formula to prevent infidelity...

First, identify all the vulnerability factors to resolve. For example, if you or your partner is sexually dissatisfied, openly discuss this and perhaps take classes that deepen the sexual and emotional bond between you two.

For example, a friend of mine said that there were some sexual issues in his relationship. He and his girlfriend openly discussed these issues in the bedroom. My friend bought the book Women's Anatomy of Arousal: Secret Maps to Buried Pleasure (click here to get it) and this resolved their issues in the bedroom! So he and his girlfriend used the tips and tricks from this book, and Voila! The quality of their love making has significantly improved ;)

Click here to pick up your copy of “Women's Anatomy of Arousal: Secret Maps to Buried Pleasure.” You can thank me later ;)

Identifying the vulnerability factor, and then remedying it, prevented further relationship dissatisfaction.

If you want to bulletproof your marriage or relationship, I also highly recommend the book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. The author, John Gottman, is a world leader in helping people having blissful relationships!

Click HERE to check out this book! It can really save your relationship now or in the future!

Also, a great book that I would recommend you get is Infidelity: The Best Worst Thing that Could Happen To Your Marriage

Click here to get Infidelity: The Best Worst Thing That Could Happen To Your Marriage

Next, to prevent “One Dumb Decision,” you and your partner need to get used to asking yourselves, “If I did this behavior in front of my partner, how would they feel about this?” and “If my partner did this behavior, would I be upset about it?”

If you think your partner would be upset and disapprove of the behavior, then don’t do it!

As for Opportunities, we can’t prevent situations for infidelity by being overly controlling of our partner. Vulnerability factors have to be resolved first so that opportunities have no leverage.

Infidelity can shatter trust and may lead to an irreparable relationship. Remember, the best way to stop infidelity is to identify and address vulnerability factors first before they stack up against the relationship.

I hope this article was helpful. If you need help with dating and relationship coaching, email me at *crizea11@gmail.com* and we'll set up a coaching call.

Talk to you soon!

- Dr. Chris

Listen up closely...

At the end of every year, people find excuses for why they didn’t do what they PROMISED themselves what they were going to do.

But then they say sh*t like, “2018 was practice. 2019 was a warm-up. **Now 2020 is game time!”
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Seriously? What a joke. They are not going to make a change.

They are not really going to accomplish anything.

Then they post things on their social media like this...

And how about social media posts like this...

All of the successful people that I know, that actually accomplished their goals, never post things like this!

Here's what I really think about people that just keep on telling themselves “New Year, New Me”...

Hahaha

I know I make fun of people that post those memes, but at one point in my life, I was also saying sh*t like “New Year, New Me.”

*If you ever see me saying this, please smack me haha*

I do want you to achieve your goals and to not go back to the old ways of living your life..

This is why I'm introducing to you the *Rapid Planning Method* (RPM) to *MAXIMIZE* your goal results!

**What's the Rapid Planning Method you ask?

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Let me break it down for you...

RPM was created by Tony Robbins as a way to maximize the results of your life and maximize your sense of fulfillment and joy!

Throughout this article, I will also integrate my approach to RPM that has helped thousands of people.

Let's Begin!

1) Result:

Think about the most important goal you want to achieve in 2020. What is it and write that down in a note book. Be specific and clear about the outcome.

In addition, use the SMART goals strategy to identify your goal for 2020. Below is a chart that shows you how to construct your SMART goal for 2020:

The following are SMART goal examples:

Relationships: “I will be in a monogamous romantic relationship with a woman by December 31, 2020. This will be done by setting up an online dating profile and aim to meet at least two different women for dates each month.”

**Money:
**“I will save $24,000 by December 31, 2020. This will be done by automatically depositing $2,000 into my savings account every month.”

Health: “I will lose 20 lbs by June 1, 2020. This will be done by exercising 3 times per week for 30 minutes and having one cheat meal per week.”

Now that you know the result that you want, make sure your “To Do” list for the each day is aligned with the outcome you're after!

*2) Purpose.* WHY do you want to achieve your result?

When you have enough important reasons to do something, you will do anything!

These reasons, your *purpose*, will be the fuel to help motivate you to achieve your goal!

The purpose behind your goal will give you the satisfaction and fulfillment as to why you're taking action steps in the first place.

Knowing the purpose to your goal will help you get back on track to achieving it when you get off track.

Your purpose needs to be

Your purpose needs to be more than about yourself!

Now, take the time to write down why it's important to achieve your goal. The following are some examples that use the principles we discussed:

Relationships: I want to be in a monogamous relationship so that I can eventually get married and pass on my family traditions and culture to future generations.

Money: I want to save $24,000 for a down payment on a home in a good neighborhood so that my children are safe and are in a great school district.

Health: I want to lose 20 lbs so that I can have the energy for summer activities with my family.

*Pro Tip...When writing out the result and purpose, use words that excites you, empowers you, and motivates you about achieving that outcome! When you read the result and purpose, it has to make you say,

Many people don't achieve their goals because there's no emotion behind it. Make sure there's plenty emotion that drives and inspires you to kick some ass and make massive action!

When you’ve got a strong enough reason and a strong enough purpose, you will figure out how to pull it off!

3) Massive Action Plan.

The massive action plan is the method to get to your result. Every day, your actions should bring you closer to your results. It's best to plan in advance your day, the things you have to do, and stick to that plan.

Writing out a list of things to do may be overwhelming, but when you chunk those things into categories, achieving your goal becomes more attainable.

Below is an example of my To Do list and how I'm going to chunk it:

a) See 4 clients for therapy sessions

b) Exercise

c) Record a video for Instagram

d) Write the syllabus for my new coaching program

e) Date night with my wife

f) Set up a new business account for the coaching program

Everything in my To Do list can be chunked into a result I want to achieve. Items c, d, and f are chunked under the result of “launching a successful online coaching program.”

Always put on your list actions that are going to leverage your outcome the most. If something won't leverage your result, then don't put it on your list or even engage in that behavior.

If you notice yourself engaging in things that are not serving your results and greater purpose, than be mindful of that and stop the behavior immediately!

This is easier said than done, that's why coaching and having accountability partnerships helps.

I want YOU to achieve your goals in 2020, so message me at *crizea11@gmail.com* and tell me what you want to achieve this year.

We can set up a coaching call to help you get the result you want using strategies and techniques that I've used to help thousands of people.

Email me at *crizea11@gmail.com* and I'll be your thought partner to help you achieve your massive goals this year!

Looking forward to connecting with you :)

Have an amazing New Year throughout 2020 :)

- Dr. Chris

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**Seriously, we need to talk... You're so brilliant that I bet you can levitate things with your mind! haha :)

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Have you ever tried so damn hard to manifest something into your life but it just wasn't happening?

I remember asking my friend that's a top neuroscientist at the University of Geneva, Switzerland, how she always tends to manifest what she wants.

Her answer to me was, “I just think about it and it happens.”

I replied, “Ok, thanks for the advice” haha :)

But I broke down what she, and others, do to manifest their dreams into reality with an **abundance mindset.
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Here's the lowdown...

**The key to abundance lies in your subconscious belief system by changing a scarcity mindset.
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If your mind is rich in the realization of an **infinitely abundant universe has to offer, you will not be in a scarcity mindset.
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An example of a scarcity mindset related to love would be the belief that there is ONLY ONE person that could ever love you.

*Do you see how limiting and scarce that belief is?

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Just think about what happens to your mind when you believe there isn't enough for everyone?

**A scarcity mindset prevents you from seeing opportunities to take MASSIVE action!
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How does the context of scarcity shape your choices and behaviors?

With a scarcity mindset, there's a belief that resources and opportunities are extremely limited, which causes a person to focus on what they are lacking and cannot bring into their life.

Hey, I'm not saying that you should be unrealistic about things...

You will be more successful when you start to understand that there is an abundance of wealth, love, happiness, and positive social interactions in the world.

When you adopt an attitude of abundance, you become more receptive to receiving it.

Here are some tips to take action on...

1. Feel the Positive Emotions First.

Emotions are the fuel that rocket launches information into your subconscious mind.

Emotions are also the signal strength by which you send information to the Universe to help communicate what you want to manifest.

As shown in the diagram above, intense and positive emotions attract to you more positive experiences. Dull emotions, such as boredom, do not attract you anything (think about being on a boring date, it leads to no attraction whatsoever). Lastly, the low vibration emotions, such as fear and powerlessness, are intense emotions that attract more experiences that evoke more of those kinds of feelings inside you.

When you have a strong emotional response, there's a chemical change in your body which signals to your central nervous system (CNS; i.e., spinal cord and brain) that something important is occurring.

Your CNS then adapts to the intensity level of the emotion it is experiencing. In the scientific literature, this is referred to as neuroplasticity, which is the brain's ability to change and create new neural pathways. Therefore, new neural pathways are created by intense emotional experiences.

In the above diagram, “Strong & Frequent Activation” means that a stimuli needs to be experienced intensely and regularly. In our case, the stimuli is emotions. If you experience a low intensity level of emotions, there's a “Weak Activation” of the CNS, which does not create change inside of you.

Now getting back to manifesting what you want...Let's say you want financial abundance. How would you feel if you received $10,000,000 today? (XRP just mooned!)

Would you feel bummed out about this event? HECK NO! I'm sure you'd be extremely joyful!

When manifesting what you want, it's necessary to create the positive feelings inside yourself first in order to send the desired signals to the Universe and to your CNS.

Create inside yourself positive feelings, then when you're feeling the intensity of those good feelings, visualize what you want to manifest.

Here are some activities to create a positive emotional state within you prior to visualizing what you want to manifest:

**2. Get Clear on what you want.

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**Once you're in a positive emotional state, spend five minutes a day visualizing yourself living your dream life in as much detail as possible.
**Make sure you also feel the positive emotions while visualizing what you want to manifest.

Where are you? Who are you with? What are you doing? What can you see, smell, hear, taste and touch?

Focus on the sensations and feelings and make them as real as possible.

**3. Create a New Identity.

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Imagine for a moment that you already had what you desire.

How would you act? How would you talk? How would you walk, think, feel, dress and make decisions?

Create a clear picture of You 2.0 and “*act as if”* you are this person throughout your day, until it becomes your natural state of being.

This is what method actors do to get into a new role. It can be very powerful because the mind and body of the method actor is living the life of the person they want to become for their movie.

For example, Heath Ledger delved deep into the practice of method acting to develop his iconic portrayal of The Joker. For six weeks, Ledger isolated himself in a hotel room spending his time creating the character's chilling laugh and voice. According to Heath's co-star, Christian Bale (i.e., Batman), Heath even took on the Joker persona off-screen when they were not filming

Start behaving “as if” you already have want it is you want to manifest and you'll be pleasantly surprised to see, after some time, that those things will manifest into your life.

**4. Take Massive Action Toward Your Goals.

**

Manifesting is the art of co-creating with the universe, your mind, and the environment around you.

Because you're on team Dr. Chris, you work toward your goals which increases your chances of receiving what you want.

Write down 3 actions you can do today to bring you closer to your goal.

If you don’t know what to do, use Google or YouTube to figure out what actions you can take.

Remember, the right information is in abundance out there waiting for you to receive it!

It’s likely someone has struggled with the same issue and has written about it.

Let yourself be inspired by what others have done,

and start taking MASSIVE action until you’ve reached your goal.

*Praying helps as well haha* :)

This is just the beginning to achieving your goals, but I hope that was helpful for you!

**Right now, I have available spaces for personal coaching to help YOU
reach your goals in 2020!
**

Email me at crizea11@gmail.com and we'll set up a coaching call.

**I only have a few spots left, so email me at crizea11@gmail.com and tell me what your goals are for 2020!
**

I look forward to hearing from you :)

Talk to you soon.

Peace Beast!

-Dr. Chris

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“We would break up repeatedly and I would feel like it was my fault.”

“The relationship became about making him happy, and even though I tried harder, it wasn’t enough.”

These are just a few of the relationship dynamics I’ve seen in my clinical work between codependents and narcissists. These two personality types have historically been attracted each other, like a starving wolf drawn to the scent of blood.

I want to shed some light on these personality types and the maladaptive cycles that persist between them. These personality types exist on a continuum from having some of the traits to a full-blown personality disorder.

If you recognize any of the following patterns in your relationships, I’m going to focus on the relationship dynamics between codependent women and narcissistic men, but have you ever fallen for the charm of a narcissist and later felt lifeless?

Let's start off by defining a few things...

*Codependency:* Is a personality type that draws you into relationships with people who need and demand love, respect, and care, but cannot give the same back. Yet you stay in that relationship, no matter how upset you are.

*Narcissism:* It’s an over focus on your own needs, while diminishing the needs of others, and others get hurt. They can’t bear to think there’s something wrong with them, so they deny and blame someone else. This leads to anger and rage. They point out what’s wrong in others, act superior and entitled, to give themselves pseudoself-esteem, to feel a sense of superiority because they have very low self-esteem and don’t know it.

Narcissists will be attracted to people who will take care of their needs....Those are the codependents.

The narcissist has a lack of boundaries, lacks self-love, and lacks the healthy expression of emotions.

There’s a passive and active codependent personality type.

The passive type is passive and plays the martyr role.

The active type tries to change the narcissist, attempting to find out what they are doing and catch them doing something wrong. Both types of codependents cannot break the relationship off!

The codependents survival is to then become completely attuned to what the other person does and doesn’t do.

These codependent and narcissist personality traits are continually drawn to each other to where it’s an addictive cycle.

(The above diagram, showing the substance use addiction cycle, has many parallels to relationship addiction that codependents experience).

Even though the relationship is going to kill the codependent, she gets drawn back in. She promises to herself that she won’t go back into the relationship, but loneliness sets in and the urge to go back to the narcissist arises, which eventually leads to feeling shame and regret when she does go back.

**It’s like an addiction; loneliness is the withdrawal and going back to the narcissist is like the relapse.
**

The codependent comes across as the “good guy” whereas the narcissist comes across as the “bad guy.”

What's similar about them? Because “like attracts like,” it is the absence of self-love that is similar for both. Both are afraid of being alone because loneliness is like a withdrawal symptom, which drives them together. This loneliness is connected to trauma they both felt in childhood. They both felt abandoned, abused, and neglected as children.

Their personality types are adaptations for survival in their childhood environment. The codependent had things missing and the neediness, the emotional starvation, is what they are missing now.

It’s a dance where you need one to follow and one to lead.

Until we’re in a state of wholeness, we’re looking for another person to make us feel whole.

(Dancing with the Devil)

When the codependent starts getting better and breaks free from the narcissist, he will get mad. You will hear apologies, which will be enough to bait and hook the codependent back.

Narcissists are experts at emotional manipulation. The codependent ironically feels comfortable there because it’s similar to the family environment they experienced in childhood. They may have had a narcissistic parent and, in order to emotionally survive, took on the belief that being loved meant taking care of people. Children sense their parents and adapt to get the love they need. The child that will become codependent learns that he or she will get the love that they need if they can make their parent feel good about themselves. The child who will become the narcissist did not get love.

(The “Parentified Child” takes care of his or her narcissistic parents' needs but they rarely have their needs met)

The codependent and narcissist both come from narcissistic parents. However, they have different adaptation styles.

Codependents confuse healthy boundaries and self-care with selfishness. They have the mantra, *“I can’t do that. That’s selfish.”
*

The child who will become narcissistic was probably colic/crying a lot, inattentive, his temperament was a bit rambunctious, and didn’t receive love.

(Are you being selfless but being taken advantage?)

*What to do:* Understand that codependency is a symptom of deeper problems, attachment issues. The way that we can heal the trauma and to develop self-love is by connecting the emotions from early childhood, the intensity of the loneliness, by going back to feeling all the thoughts, memories, and emotions.

Validate those emotions and challenge/change the distorted interpretations about your self-worth and relationships that were made by your young mind. This is best done within a safe therapeutic relationship, where the the process of self-love begins.

**Ask yourself, “What is it about me that keeps repeating this pattern?”
**

Codependents typically lose the fight with their emotional manipulator. Getting pulled into their argumentative and aggressive world is like wrestling a pig in mud. The pig likes it and will win.

Detach by observing the narcissist. Participating in the argument is when you get absorbed in his drama. You need purposeful emotional detachment. Don’t let the narcissist get under your skin. Practice observing, not absorbing. Imagine that you have a white lab coat on and are observing with curious wonderment. Watch that they can’t manipulate you when you don’t react. Watch and listen. Don’t react. Watch what are the tactics they use to pull you into the fight, what are the facial expressions, body posture. The more you can see the narcissist as a person with psychological problems trying to manipulate you, the more you can step outside of your reaction and just observe, the more you keep your power.

Ask yourself, “What is he trying to do to get a reaction from me?”

The more you can answer this question, the more you can stay neutral, be non-reactive, and you won’t absorb the manipulators toxins.

Say to yourself “I am strong and in control.” If you absorb you fall prey and become a victim. Don’t respond emotionally. Keep your emotions even, keep your tone even, breathe deeply. Stay detached and relaxed. Be proud that you are maintaining your power by staying detached and not absorbing the toxins of the emotional manipulator.

I hope this article was helpful!

If you want help with relationship difficulties, or a looking to create a beautiful relationship, email me at *crizea11@gmail.com* and we'll set up a coaching call.

Talk to you soon!

-Dr. Chris

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Seriously, we need to talk...

Have you started on your goals for 2020?

If you haven't, no worries...I won't judge ;)

**Read this article to help rocket launch YOUR motivation for achieving your goals this year!

**

I have been studying successful people for a long time and have found the differences between them and the people who don't accomplish much.

I share this information with you today so that you can SMASH your goals in 2020!

Are you ready?

But of course you are...

Successful people talk, think, and approach situations, challenges, and problems differently than most people.

As Tony Robbins has said,

*“Success leaves clues. Go figure out what

*

*someone who was successful did, and

*

*model it. Improve it, but learn their steps.

*

*They have knowledge.”

*

(Not an actual photo of Tony Robbins eating Peter Griffin haha)

Here are 5 commonly found qualities, personality traits, and habits that make successful people the way they are.

As you read this list, think: **“How many items pertain to me? What areas do I need to work on?”
**

Let's get to it!

**1. Believe That “I Will Figure It Out”

**

Even if you’re not sure how to do something, the best answer is “I will figure it out” — not “I don’t know.
“

When I was a child, my parents taught me not to say “I don't know” but to say “I'll figure it out and get back to you.”

You can admit that you’re unfamiliar with something — as long as you

immediately follow that admission with the promise that you will

figure it out or find someone who will.

2. Focus on Opportunity

Successful people see all situations — even problems and complaints — as opportunities.

Where others see difficulty, successful individuals know that problems solved equal new products, services, customers — and probably financial success.

If *XRP*, the stock market, or housing market crashes, say “YESSS!!” to the opportunities of buying at a low price ;)

(gotta love the XRP Community!!!!)

Your girlfriend dumped you? Great! Time to be with someone that actually appreciates your awesome, badass self!

**Remember: Success is overcoming a challenge. Therefore, you can’t succeed without some kind of difficulty.
**

(This Dr. Evil meme is too accurate haha)

3. Patience and Persistence Until Successful

This is probably my favorite mindset and action taking advice.

Listen, I was not an “A” student.

I'd have to go to summer school and struggled to pass classes.

As a matter of fact, I remember a high school English teacher saying to me,

“I used to think you were good, but now I'm not too sure anymore.”

Bless his heart hahahahaha :)

Even though a teacher thought this about me, I never gave up!

I knew that my goal was to become a psychologist, and that I had to be patient and persistent to achieve it.

**The ability to persist on a given path regardless of setbacks, unexpected events, bad news, and resistance — to continue steadfastly or firmly in some state, purpose, or course of action in spite of conditions — is a trait common to those who make it.
**

This quality is necessary to make any dream a reality.

**4. Readily Take Action!

**

The highly successful take unbelievable amounts of action.

Regardless of what that action looks like, these people rarely do nothing — even when they are on vacation (just ask their spouses or families!).

*Praying helps too ;)*

The unsuccessful talk about a plan for action but never quite get around to doing what they claim they’re going to do — at least enough to ever get what they want.

Successful people assume that their future achievements rely on investing in actions that may not pay off today but that when taken consistently and persistently over time will sooner or later bear fruit.

****5. Be on Your Mission and Purpose
****

Until you start approaching your life as though you're on a mission with meaningful PURPOSE, it will always be reduced to “just another day.”

You must undertake your life with the zealous attitude that your PURPOSE could have a major impact on you and the lives around you!

Approach every phone call, e-mail, sales visit, meeting, presentation, and person you meet with your life PURPOSE in mind!

I want you to take MASSIVE FVCKING action on your PURPOSE in life each and every day in a way that will forever be known!

If any of these mindsets were helpful and you want to accomplish your goals in 2020, email me at *crizea11@gmail.com* and we'll set up a coaching call!

I know you've got massive goals to achieve in 2020, and I want to be your thought partner to execute on those goals, so email me at *crizea11@gmail.com* for a coaching call.

Talk to you soon :)

-Dr. Chris

P.S...

Here's one more success mindset for your magnificent self because you deserve it ;)

6. Great Risk = Great Reward

It's important to do one thing, every day, that's outside of your comfort zone.

When you do this, you'll develop GRIT and RESILIENCE!

If you cannot get out of your comfort zone, you'll live a life of quiet destitute with few rewards and no extraordinary life experiences.

It's the people in history that took the great risks that received the greatest rewards!

For example, when Sylvester Stallone wrote the script for Rocky, he was completely broke and couldn't make the rent for his studio apartment in Hollywood. He wrote the screenplay for Rocky in three days and producers loved it!

Stallone wanted to play the lead role of Rocky, despite the producers saying that he couldn't. Stallone RISKED losing the deal for Rocky because he wanted to play the role of the main character in his film.

His bullheadedness to not accept a deal without playing the lead role eventually got him to play ROCKY!

Remember, my friends...

Great Risk = Great Reward

What's up, champ? You're like Tony the Tiger because I find you so Grrrrrrrrrrreat! :)

Today, I'm here to drop some serious value all over your face because you deserve it!

Did you know that **all of your emotions are contagious?
**

When you're feeling fvcking awesome, it's more likely that the people around you will pick up on those feelings.

(Did somebody say “Dogecoin”? haha)

When you're feeling BLAH, it's more likely that people around you will pick up on those feels.

You've heard of people not wanting to hang around “Debbie Downers” before, right?

When other people pick up and experience your emotions, this is known as the **Law of Emotional Transference or Emotional Contagion.
**

Emotional Contagion is when one person's emotions trigger similar emotions in other people.

Now, you might be saying, “Dr. Chris, emotions aren't contagious. What have you been smoking?!”

Need a scientific explanation? Here you go...

The reason why people can feel what you're feeling is due to a type of neuron in your brain known as “Mirror Neurons.”

A mirror neuron is a neuron that fires both when an animal acts and when the animal observes the same action performed by another.

As I'm sure you've experienced, when someone around you yawns, you are more likely to yawn as well.

Thus, the neuron “mirrors” the behavior of the other, as though the observer were itself acting.

With regards to emotions, mirror neurons are the neural basis of the human capacity for emotions such as empathy, sympathy, laughter, and basically all of your emotions.

Basically, the adaptive purpose of mirror neurons is for learning from people a lot faster and to create deeper bonds amongst others.

For example, if you are hurt and your friend feels your pain, he or she is more likely to act fast to get you help because they also feel your pain and want to relieve it.

Do you see the survival mechanism as to why we evolved mirror neurons? Good :)

In addition, just think of all the influential speakers out there....

President Obama

Tony Robbins

Dr. Martin Luther King

Ellen DeGeneres

These people make you feel how they feel!

They transferred their emotions into your heart that made you take action.

**It's emotions, not merely thoughts, that drive behaviors!
**

This is important because for you to achieve your biggest dreams and to live the life that you fvcking deserve, it requires for you to be feeling your best and for people around you to be feeling fvcking grrrrrreat!

**You can consciously choose how you want to feel, how you want others to feel, and to take action in the desired direction so it's Win-Win for everyone.

**

Get it?

Great!

I want you to use these tips to change your emotional “state” for getting a positively contagious feedback loop from people all around you...

Remember, your “state” depends on what your mind is focusing on, so we're going to focus on the positive spectrum of emotions:

1) Joy and Amusement: When you're out with your buddies, focus on being “self-entertaining.” Do and say things that are authentic to you that bring you joy and amusement.

When you can entertain yourself, people will be attracted to your energy.

This doesn't mean acting like a jack-ass. Just think of the obnoxious guy pouring beer all over himself and laughing it up at the bar.

DON'T BE THAT GUY!

Sure he's entertaining himself but he's also repelling others.

Find and do what makes you laugh, double down on that, and start to interact with others :)

2) Gratitude: The more you're in a state of gratitude, the more you will attract things to be grateful for!

The best practice for this is using a gratitude journal.

Do this by writing down three things you're grateful for, and why you're grateful for it, after you wake up and before you go to sleep.

The reason for this is because you're subconscious mind is more receptive to information first thing in the morning and before sleep.

***Remember to mention the value of the little things in life, like shade under a tree during a hot day, and the bigger things in life like the kindness of someone that offered their help.
**

3) Love and kindness: The opposite emotion of love is not hate, it's indifference.

You're going to spread the love through kindness!

When you love something, you take it on as part of yourself.

Let's say that you want to get into a positive state for something that important to you. To do this, go around your neighborhood and “spread the love” through random acts of kindness.

By no means you've got to do what these soldiers are doing (but you can if you'd like).

When you do random acts of kindness, or spread love in ways that feel appropriate and safe for you, **you fill your own cup with positive emotions!
**

The lesson of the story is, increase your own positive emotions, people are attracted to your positivity because they feel it, and you positively influence situations for WIN-WIN outcomes.

I hope that was helpful!

If you're looking to achieve your goals in the areas of relationships, online business, or health, email me at *crizea11@gmail.com* and we'll set up a coaching call!

We'll talk soon!

Peace, Beast!

-Dr. Chris

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My, My, My... Your Hair Is Looking Better Than Ever!

Just don't give away your secrets ;)

Have you noticed the needy behavior of some people on social media?

Look at this comment on this Instagram picture:

What the HELL has gone wrong?!

Hollywood, the mainstream media, and the internet are brainwashing men and women into creepy little fvckers.

(Do Not become a creepy-ass dude like this guy!)

*Facepalm*

But I've got something to admit...

I want to talk with you about something that I'm embarrassed about...

That thing now makes me cringe when I see this behavior in others.

It's something I'm not proud of....

It's something that repelled good people in my life...

It's something that I now consider manipulative behavior...

What I'm talking about is neediness!

To reclaim my dignity, overwhelming emotions, and love life, I went on the journey to purge needy behaviors and mindsets from every cell and atom of my body...

And I want to help you do the same today!

(First, let's get things straight...I was nothing like that guy commenting in the picture above haha)

We’ve all been there, right? That sinking feeling in your stomach when you think your partner is pulling away from you.

Part of you wants to do whatever you can to prevent your partner from leaving…

Sending dozens of text messages, becoming suspicious of anything your partner does, and asking for reassurance that he or she still has feelings for you.

Is that pit in your stomach intuition trying to tell you something? Or is that feeling a trigger from past experiences of being rejected and unloved?

These emotional and behavioral patterns could very well be neediness.

You basically become too hungry for the validation of the person you want in your life as a partner.

At a subconscious level, the person you're needy about, picks up on this and is instantly repulsed...

Even more repulsed than an model is afraid of carbs!

*Take that, bread!*

From my clinical experience, when these extreme behaviors and feelings are going on, it’s usually because of something deep-rooted inside us.

If you’ve heard someone say to you, “Quit being so thirsty,” it may be a sign that you are engaging in needy behaviors.

We all depend on each other for our basic needs of connection, love and security…But neediness is when we *“Freak Out”* if we feel that being taken away from us.

Neediness is the unhealthy side to healthy dependency…

It’s craving constant contact, fears of abandonment, and feeling helpless when someone is not giving us love.

Adopt these mindsets to start helping you overcome neediness:

1) Your Partner Cannot be the Primary Source of Your Happiness:

You have different kinds of needs in life. You have intellectual needs, physical needs, and emotional needs that should be divided up amongst your friends and family.

Have hobbies and activities that don't include your partner.

For example, my wife hates hiking, but I love to hike so I have friends where we do that activity without her.

Have a coworker buddy where you two can vent about work.

Your girlfriend or wife doesn't want to hear you complain everyday about what goes on in the workplace. Find a coworker where you two have that connection of venting and joking about the politics of the work environment.

Have a family member where you two engage in traditions that are just for the two of you. Father/son trips where only you two go camping together are great ways to deepen your family bonds, but also maintain your separate identity from your partner.

Remember, it's too burdensome to put all of your needs and happiness onto one person.

2) Outcome Dependence Vs. Outcome Independence:

When a person becomes too outcome dependent, he or she is too emotionally involved in a particular outcome they want from an event.

I see this a lot when a person starts dating someone, he starts imagining marrying her, and tells himself “She's the One!” When the relationship and, and his fantasy doesn't come true, the guy ends up becoming super depressed and let down. This person is too outcome dependent!

(Can somebody say “Fairy Tale Wedding”?)

To become Outcome Independent is to go into a relationship without expecting a particular outcome where you two will get married and live happily ever after. Relationships don't typically work out that way.

It's important to have goals during a relationship, but don't become emotionally attached to a specific outcome in the relationship.

3) “I Respect the Boundaries of Others.”

Just as much as you like to have your boundaries and privacy respect, so do others! (What a shocker).

Just because someone can be contacted instantly through a text message or phone call, it doesn't mean you have to do it all the time!

So, respect the boundaries of others so they don't feel smothered and overwhelmed!

Ok everyone, I hope that was helpful!

I've made an in-depth video on overcoming neediness, so just click the picture below where you'll learn all the other strategies and mindsets to overcoming neediness!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UcJ9FC6Dcrw&t=2s

If you have need any help in your relationships, email me at crizea11@gmail.com and we'll set up a coaching call to get you back on track in your relationships!

Looking forward to hearing from you soon!

-Dr. Chris

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Did I ever tell you how amazing you are?

“Yes. Like, everyday!”

Good, just checking ;) haha

Behind Oprah Winfrey’s *$3 Billion Net Worth* are stories of pain, struggle, and — eventually — success.

She has been able to turn her tragedy into triumph!

This media mogul is an incredible person!

Allow me to pull back the curtains and reveal Oprah's secret to success and perhaps YOU can also become Oprah Rich...

But before she got there, Oprah lived in an abusive home where she would be whipped and sometimes had to sleep on the porch of her house.

Oprah was sexually abused from the ages of 10 to 14, when she found out she was pregnant.

She then moved in with her father, and two weeks after she had given birth, the child died.

She said it was painful but both Oprah and her father saw this as a second chance to make life right.

Oprah said in an interview, “I buried all of my feelings about it.”

“I really felt like that baby’s life — that baby coming into the world — really gave me new life. That’s how I processed it for myself.”

Oprah also had a lot adversary when she moved to Chicago to go into broadcasting and when she became a talk show host because people felt she couldn't compete with people like Phil Donahue.

But she eventually did it!

I can't imagine what Oprah went through but she was able to rise from the ashes like a phoenix in order to be reborn.

She become the strongest and wisest version of herself!

I believe that through her challenges, she discovered her *Purpose* in life.

Just read her quote below...

Oprah knows that you are most powerful when you're living your life purpose.

Just like Oprah, the course throughout life is not always going to be an easy road, and when you are achieving success and living your life purpose, you won’t take it for granted.

You will cherish those moments you had to go through, those moments you were without. And when you fall down – GET BACK UP. Dust yourself off.

You need to find something that drives you. Something that… NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS: This part of you does not change.

This DRIVE in you does not change.

This PURPOSE never dies.

No matter how many times life knocks you down, your PURPOSE pulls you up EVERY TIME.

“This is the REASON I will FIGHT FOR MY DREAMS”

“THIS is the reason I will NOT take NO for an answer!”

“THIS is the reason I will do WHATEVER IT TAKES”

When it hurts – KEEP GOING. Those cloudy days, those storms – they’re telling you to keep going.

Those times in your life, when you can’t see how you’re going to make it.

Your purpose is going to IGNITE YOU.

It’s that one thing that will GET YOU UP EARLY.

That one thing, when you’re doing it, TIME STOPS.

Your purpose is ALWAYS something that lights a fire in you.

“I WILL DO THIS. NO MATTER WHAT” My family is counting on me!! My friends are counting on me!! I AM COUNTING ON ME!!!

Enough with the motivational speech...Let's get to work on how you can find and live your purpose in life and you too can be Oprah Rich one day!

1) You Need a Clear Vision of Your Future.

Ask yourself the following questions to gain a clearer vision of your Purpose and future:

  • “If I could do anything in life, and know I couldn't fail at it, what would I be doing?”

  • “What talents and skills do I have that can help people?”

  • “What would I do every day of my life, even if I didn't get paid for it?”

2) You Need Passion!

Passion means you care.

Passion means you're willing to do it for no other reason than the pleasure of doing it.

Passion means you're willing to stick through it throughout the long haul and from from it.

I want you to think bout what moves you.

What do you get excited about?

What gives you energy just thinking about it?

I want you to complete this sentence:

“What I really care about is...”

Be sure to include your Core Values in life. Here's a chart ways you can brainstorm your core values:

We all know that Oprah lives her life by her Core Values! haha

Your Core Values determines the quality of living your life Purpose.

3) Use your skills, gifts, and talents to live more purposefully.

It's important that you're having fun while living your life Purpose! This is where your skills, gifts and talents come into play.

I want you to think back when you were a child...Based on what family, friends, or someone that knew you really well, what did they say are your gifts and talents?

4) Legacy.

How do you want to be remembered after you die? What do you want your legacy to be?

For Oprah, she will be remembered as being a philanthropist, a great interviewer, and woman that fought for the rights of marginalized people.

One secret to financial freedom is...the more people you help, the greater financial abundance you will have!

Isn't that great? The bigger the problem is, the more problems that you solve, the greater the financial rewards will be!

You will truly be remembered by the way you help people and by the number of lives that you serve!

So when you're living your life with purpose, make sure you're helping as many people along the way.

A byproduct of a positive legacy will be financial abundance!

Alright champs, I hope that article was helpful to you!

If you have any questions and want more clarity on living your life with purpose, and achieving financial freedom, email me at *crizea11@gmail.com* for a coaching call.

Catch you later :)

-Dr. Chris

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