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Life, it’s ever changing but, once In awhile something gets thrown into the mix that’s completely unexpected and that’s exactly what happened just yesterday. We had a situation that will completely change our lives in just a matter of a couple of months! I didn’t see this one coming but, I’m a survivor. That’s how my momma raised me. Come along on my next journey!

My mom passed away last year on October 23rd. My parents have always lived in my childhood home, one I love so very much. Also one that holds the urn of my mother and is the home to my amazing step-father. After my mom passed, my younger brother lived with our dad. It worked out great because my dad is getting older, he’s got cancer, his knees are really bad and he’s got 3 dogs and a cat. He just can’t take care of a 2400 square foot home and the animals. My brother lived with my dad and he also worked outside of the house. He did all of the household task and that was so helpful. My dad had nothing to worry about until he did.

I’ve noticed some changes in my brother over the past few months. He’s got severe OCD that goes untreated. Usually with OCD there’s other diagnoses as well but, he’s not about to go get diagnosed because he doesn’t see the problem. I try to lovingly coax him in the direction of speaking to a professional however, he feels it’s a “set up”. He’s been exhibiting paranoid behaviors and I’m very worried about him.

Yesterdays work day started with a bang! The client was just off the hook and coming unglued. Now mind you, he called us off on Monday and then complained yesterday that we weren’t done yet. Well, I’m not Michael but, I’m doing the very best that I can. The clients knows this but, he also suffers from OCD. When we leave at night, he’s walking around with a LED light. As he said yesterday, “I want as close to perfection as I can get”! Now this man has had many throw ins and he’s actually costing us money. We supplied the paint. I don’t play and I finally cut off his condescending voice to cut right to the chase! I said, “Listen, do you want us to finish this job, which is almost done or do you want me to pack it up? There’s no sense of sitting here and wasting anyone’s valuable time. I’m either working for you or someone else. I’d like to finish this seeing it’s almost done but, you’re the client”. That changed everything and of course he wanted the work finished. Today is probably the last day. I say probably because it’s been the “last day” 5 different times and then he adds more work.

During this very stressful morning my dad reached out to me. My brother showed up home and started saying things to my dad that didn’t make sense and in a split second, he was gone. He moved out. Like a thief in the night. Now here’s the thing. It’s fine that my brother moved out but, it’s the way he did it and right before Christmas! I went outside at work and called my dad. It was the very first time I ever heard him cry to the point of not being able to say his words. It broke me. So I’m on a job site, sitting in my vehicle, sobbing. I knew though I had to get my head back into the work game. We can’t get done if we don’t keep working.

It was a very hard day. I’d find myself painting alone in a bedroom with tears running down my cheeks. I’m hurt. I’m hurt that my brother did this to my family but, I’m also so worried about him and my dad. Immediately my mind was looking for solutions for everyone. Currently I have Alyson, Phillip and Mason at my home but, they found a place. They’ll be moving within the next couple of months.

We got out of work, stopped home and then went straight to my dads house. Well, by the time we were all done talking, this was now mine and Michael’s home too! Yes, I’m going home! Back to the kitchen that my sweet momma baked her wonderful cookies in, back to the home that I snuck in and out of when I was a teenager and back to the home where my mom spent her final days.

This was the only solution that I could come up with. Now I just had to get all parties to agree. I brought up the idea of me coming home with Michael at one of the table looking sick, gray and worn down and my dad at the other end of the table looking sad, down and depressed! Everyone agreed so yes, WE are going back to my childhood home!

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I wanted to share with you all today, sometime that really irritates me. I didn’t realize how much it irritated me until my family was involved in a situation and I got to witness this first hand. I don’t understand why people feel like they’ve got a right to judge an established families, personal decisions but, I want to share how I feel about this.

I’ve got a family member who is pregnant. Yes, she’s already a mother but, she knew how many children she wanted and her and her partner agreed on this. Very few people know about this pregnancy but, ones that do feel it’s their right to criticize this family. I don’t understand how anyone would want to bring negativity to the miracle of life as long as there isn’t abuse or neglect with the existing children.

I do understand that we all go around with the idea of, “We are entitled to our own opinions”! This might be true, however, when your opinion is negative and hurtful I just have a hard time agreeing with this. The woman that’s pregnant hasn’t abused her other children, she’s got a very good job and she takes care of her family. Isn’t that enough? Well, not according to, some. Apparently everyone thinks they’ve got the answers to how many children that one should have in this day and age and I don’t agree.

I believe that everything happens for a reason. I also believe that GOD doesn’t make mistakes. I believe that an established couple is in charge of their own relationship and negativity isn’t or shouldn’t be welcomed. So if you’re one of the ones that doesn’t “agree” maybe keeping your opinion to yourself is the best option. It can be very painful and hurtful to a family.

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I was scrolling through Facebook really quickly and it only took me a second to figure out where everyone’s focus is right here and right now. That would be the COVID-19 vaccination! Yes, another topic to divide the people! The people that feel good about the vaccine are happily peddling it and the people that are opposed seem to be, strongly opposed!

I like to DMOR when it comes to putting anything into my body. That’s alright because it’s, my body. I’m not saying I’m not getting a vaccine or that I’m getting a vaccine. I need more education than I have right now. I started my own research on this months ago because well, I had the time.

One of the most common side-effects that I had come across was, Bells Palsey, something that I had as a young girl. I remember my mom bringing me to the Emergency Room and they admitted me because they didn’t know if I had a stroke. I didn’t though and was sent home the next day. Half of my face was paralyzed, my eye lid wouldn’t close so my eye had to be covered in the sun and at night taped down. It never caused me any pain but, I was embarrassed. I was a young girl and other kids could be cruel. I remember my step-father picking on me and then just 2 weeks later he stopped home while he was on duty ( Retired Police-Officer ). He had a smug look on his face and he was just standing between the dining room and living room. We were all “waiting for it” and then he smiled. Low and behold my dad now had Bells Palsey too! Talk about KARMA! He made many of jokes and that bit him in the keister!

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My blogs are dwindling because I had to, “STOP”

and change my focus. Helping Michael get back on track with work became my priority. That was decided last Monday and I started on Tuesday.

I’m a painter. Do I call myself a professional painter!? No but, I’m forever underestimating myself. We walked into the job on Tuesday and when I got there and saw what I was up against, I was sure I wasn’t the girl for most of this job but, I had to try my hardest because Michael needed me.

I have to say that I completely surprised myself and maybe this will help me not underestimate myself. I’ve never done a split wall with a chair rail and I was nervous. There’s some very fine cut in and this client wants perfection. He’s been wonderful with me but, I still want to give him what he paid for but, I’m not Michael!

Well, here you go. My end result. I’m still not Michael but, I’m pretty proud of my work and the homeowner was so happy! When we were walking out for the day, I looked back and thought, “WOW, I did a thing and I like it”! I was actually proud of my work.

I had to cover the brown with a White satin. It took me 4 coats to cover. That includes 4 cut ins as well. Oh my back.

Well, there’s one coat! I knew this was going to be quite the chore and very time consuming!

I did it! I got it done! I did my first split wall and I couldn’t believe that I actually did that! Now I can’t wait until the next one. Well, my back can but, I created a beautiful room with my own hands and paint rolls and brushes.

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Well, now we’ve shared with our everyone and not just a select few that Michael has taken ill,

again. This really didn’t happen overnight but, it sure feels like it did. I noticed some changes with Michael close to a month ago. He was weak, snappy, rude and sometimes even slightly disoriented. I encouraged him to see the Doctor as his illness progressed but, no matter what I said I was met with resistant and excuses downplaying the medical situation. I can’t make him get help so I had to wait until he knew he was sick enough to need help, if he wanted help.

Once you’ve beat your Cancer you’re put back into the hands of your Primary Care Physican and he will help manage any side-effects that you might have from treatment. If he feels that the Oncologist needs to be involved then he can get him involved. The day I made Michael’s appointment with Primary Care I also called the Oncologist with just an “Informative” phone call. I’m blessed to have a wonderful friend named Karen who’s very familiar with Oncology and she gives me the best advice and Doctor. Mason the Oncologist being aware, was important.

The Primary Care ordered Bloodwork and the results would be shared with Oncology. Well, the phone rang yesterday afternoon and low and behold it was the Oncologist. There’s a problem with Michael’s bloodwork and we need to go on Wednesday for more blood and to see Doctor. Mason. Yes, I’m nervous but, I’m also powerless.

I have so many wonderful women in my life from Twitter and it would be impossible to list them all but, a few inpaticular are my “SUPER” cheerleaders. NordicAnn, Dani and Holly. I told them that I’d be taking over the work aspect of Michael’s job. He just can’t do it. He is a very sick man and doesn’t have the energy. The homeowner was so frustrated because things weren’t going as planned so yesterday I went in for my first day. Ann told me that I was a Fiecre Lionesses and that I COULD do this and I did!

In one day the homeowners attitude completely changed and I got a lot of work done. Today I will do the same because this is my new life, right here and right now. Again, Ann told me I’m a lioness and I CAN! This is what must be done. We have to be able to survive and Michael is just to sick to even try to push it. You can’t push what’s not there. I haven’t worked on the job site in quite sometime but, I can do the work. It was so rewarding to see the stress roll off Michael as he watched the exchange between myself and the very difficult homeowner. He was so happy and that’s all that matters to us! Happy customers are what’s kept this business alive for 36 years.

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I’ve found life to be a huge challenge with my mom gone. You literally have to learn to navigate the world without your mom at the other end of the phone to give you guidance and it doesn’t matter what age. When she passed last year I literally didn’t care if I did another Holiday but, that’s not fair to anyone. Despite my mom being gone the show must go on! I didn’t want my mother cremated but, now I’m grateful because as we prepared food and celebrated, she’s near us and now that brings me great comfort. It’s been a year and I’m finally able to see some positives in this. I’d like to share some now!

This is what I walk into when I enter my parents home. My dad already working on making me smile. For that I am so blessed. I’m super grateful for my dad!

Having both of my children with me makes me heart so happy and content. I love them more than life itself and I couldn’t be more grateful for them.

They can still bring out my real smile which I thought I lost when I lost my mom. Thanks Adam and Alyson ♥️

My son Adam gave me this beautiful child, Fynn. He’s my 1st grandson and he’s made my heart happy for 5 beautiful years.

Then my daughter gave me Mason! This child is a clone of my mother. Not only in looks but, in his corky behaviors. He’s a ham and so was my mom and her mom! He keeps their spirit alive in so many ways.

I prayed for this child. I wanted a granddaughter so badly and so I prayed. Remi has quite a personality. She’s got baby attitude and I can’t wait to see her “teen” years!

My little brother misses my mom just as much as I do. He’s my “go to” on my bad days. He can relate and I can’t say it makes me happy because I don’t want to see my brother in emotional pain but, I’m grateful that he gets me and he’s got me. Love him so much.

My Mason baby! Don’t we all want to eat Cool Whip like this? We just can’t get away with it. GOOO Mason!

Enter the “ham” part. My mom taught Mason this before she passed and he’s never forgotten. Never will Mason have any kind of whip cream or frosting and not paint his face. We all watch and smile. He’s got no clue that he’s keeping a memory alive.

Great job dad!

I made my moms stuffing and it tasted just like her stuffing. Everyone was happy and I know she was smiling down. Just wanna make my momma proud.

Never forget to end your day with love because who knows what tomorrow will bring. It’s never promised.

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